To think FFS re sad faced breast feeding mums in the Daily Fail?

[Chihuahualala]

Single-mother, 33, thrown out of West End show for breast feeding

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Fuck off ... And fuck off some more! Ear defenders or not this WAS NOT the place for your offspring! Aggggh!!!

Sleepy, that was not what I said...

I was very saddened to see you have encountered hostility. I was even sadder to see that you decided to stick to baby friendly places.

Breastfeeding in public is legal, and it is a shame that other people have made it so difficult for you to enjoy a normal life while breastfeeding, going places you want to without fear of negative reactions.

If the faces are about bfeeding an 8 month old then (1) it's none of their business and (2) they are ignorant, and (3) they are still impinging on your comfort and it is their feelings of entitlement to make remarks that causes that.

I did extended breastfeeding myself, in public when necessary, though as the DCs got older they could wait until we were finished our activity and didn't have to interrupt what we were doing.

The comments about nights out and time off are actually very hostile, because they are an implicit criticism of your choice and your cultural values, while setting up their choice and cultural values as the norm.

Though while it is your choice not to go places at night because you hate nights out, there are plenty of women who like nights out, and they might feel they have to choose between breastfeeding and a night out occasionally, and that is a pity.

Though while it is your choice not to go places at night because you hate nights out, there are plenty of women who like nights out, and they might feel they have to choose between breastfeeding and a night out occasionally, and that is a pity.

Once again THAT IS NOT ABOUT BREASTFEEDING. Most people just wouldn't take their baby to the theatre, full stop, whether bottle feeding or breast feeding. It's not an appropriate place for a baby. I know you clearly feel you should be able to take your baby everywhere but unfortunately most sane people realise that's not sensible. And it's why cinemas have mother and baby screenings and stuff like that.

math I already clarified that I don't stick to explicitly baby friendly places in any restrictive sense. I take my baby everywhere that is vaguely appropriate for a baby...which is pretty much everywhere.

Re the hostility of people's comments... Actually they're really not hostile. Ignorant yes, some are just a bit thoughtless, some are meant to be genuinely sympathetic and helpful but miss the point that I don't find BFing too demanding. There's an assumption that it's just too much of a limiting burden for anyone to want to do. They just don't understand my experience because it's not their experience, that's not hostile. Taking it as hostile creates divides between BFing and ffing women which I really think exist more in the media and in the minds of some women than in any reality.

My original comment about disliking women like the crazy theatre woman is because a few of the people in my life who don't get where I'm coming form automatically equate extended breastfeeding and exclusive breastfeeding with crazy judgmental 'lactivists' - a word I despise. One friend in particular who formula feeds and has a lot of guilt over it has had a really troubled relationship with me because while I support her wholeheartedly she takes my breastfeeding as an act of judgment on her and constantly pesters me to give up. She's never met anyone like me and equates all exclusive breastfeeders which strident holier than thou types, a mythical stereotype which the Mail article perpetuates.

I disagree that it's sad that people have to choose between breastfeeding and nights out. If you choose to exclusively breastfeed then you do knowingly commit to baby going wherever you go. Nights out aren't generally suitable for babies- it's loud, they can't sleep....it's not about feeling able to breastfeed, it's about it being bonkers to take your baby there in the first place!

Like the theatre.

Just don't bother sleep
math has decided it is all about bf and that is that.
There is no reasoning ( or logic) here.
Everytime i get a notification it's another pointless nonsense comment

elodie the people at the theatre don't matter ( even if they to are breastfeeding mothers).

I know kali I really should stop reading & replying on here!! It's just so frustrating! Math's posts p me off!! 😄 😄 So so selfish.

...a few of the people in my life who don't get where I'm coming form automatically equate extended breastfeeding and exclusive breastfeeding with crazy judgmental 'lactivists' - a word I despise.

I am curious as to why you despise the word 'lactivists'?