About my mum and my brothers wife

[Sunshinerainbows123]

So I went to work for a kit day yesterday and my mum had my dd for the day this is the first full day she's had her. When she's had her for an hour she always says she cried a lot and I tried everything to soothe her which makes me anxious as mum is going to have dd 2 days a week when I go back to work. Yesterday my mum called my sil (brothers wife) who has two boys to come round to see if she could get my dd to settle as shed tried everything and didn't want to bother me while at work. Apparently sil got my dd to sleep and settled her. She then left her youngest ds with my mum who's just had an op so she could take my oldest nephew swimming as apparently he's had a boring few days with his brother swimming and my mum said definitely go she'll be fine with the little ones because dd had gone to sleep and I was due back in an hour.
Aibu to think my mum should have just spent the day with my dd on her own and sil shouldn't have left youngest nephew when she knows my dd had been unsettled

[idontlikealdi]

Why should she spend the Dy n her own with her??

[seven201]

I don't see the problem

[GordonRamzee]

YABVU.

Unless you employ your Mum as a private Nanny. Otherwise you have no reason to moan.

[Salmotrutta]

YABVU!

And a bit odd to be even asking this.

[ElspethFlashman]

YABU .

Your SIL came round at short notice, and soothed and settled your DD who went to sleep. Fair play to her.

You think your Mum shouldnt have any other grandkids there at the same time?? Madness.

[MoonStar07]

Stop being jealous. It's lucky your SIL could help. YABU chill

[NoncommittalToSparkleMotion]

I don't see the issue, especially as SIL settled your DD. I'd ask her to move in if it were me!

[Gowgirl]

Sorry but you need to get over yourself a bit, is dd a pfb? We have all been a bit unreasonable about them at some point!

[Northernlight22]

I don't see the problem really. DD was asleep and im sure when your mum has her when you return to work there will be visitors during the day.

[spad]

I never usually reply as bluntly as this but YABVVVU.

Sorry. But really?

[LewisAndClark]

Hahahaha!

Oh, you're serious?

YABVU. And pfb. One day you'll look back at this and cringe.

[BaronessBomburst]

I can't see the problem either. Most young children enjoy spending time with other young children. And it's her cousin! They know each other.

[ElsaAintAsColdAsMe]

Yabu.

You are so focused on your dd that you can't see the bigger picture. It's understandable you feel that way but unfair to expect your mum to solely focus on your dd when she has other grandchildren.

[CostaAddict]

My 1st YABU!

I'd be thanking my SIL if it were me. Maybe need to stop being so precious

[MrsKoala]

a?

You were due back in an hour and the baby was sleeping. What madness is this? Did you think she should silently sit watching her sleep or something?

[Cosmo111]

Very strange post, i don't see what the issue here

[Crocodillian]

What a lovely dm you have that she wiill look after your dd 2 days pw despite being a difficult gc. What a lovely sil for settling your dd. What a nice mil/dil relationship that your dm can call on her dil to come and help and your dil can ask her to babysit. Not sure why you'd try to make an issue when everyone actually sounds really nice. No drama. But it's easy to overthing these things sometimes

[WorraLiberty]

Who's just had an op?

Your mum or your nephew?

[PatriciaHolm]

Reverse.

[Mishegoss]

You're being unreasonable. And strange.
Stop.

[ChazsBrilliantAttitude]

On the face of it
YABVVVU
Your DM and SIL have done you a big favour and you are picking holes in their behaviour. Instead of your DM calling you, she got your SIL to help, your SIL solved the problem and your DD got some sleep.

However, I suspect the real issue is that you are not confident in your DM providing childcare for your DD and so saw it as test run and the test run failed. Do you have a back up plan if your DM can't cope?

[CloudPirate]

YABVU.

Your DM can look after your DD for the whole day, but can't look after your DB/SIL's DS for 1 hour, because she's had an operation? Even though she was the one who offered, and your SIL had just helped her out rather (very kind of her, I would be saying thank you) than disturb you at work (which sounds sensible to me)?

And why is your MD incapable of watching 2 children at once? You do know that plenty of people (your SIL included) have two children and have to look after both simultaneously?! What will happen if you have another DC?!

[NoFuchsGiven]

I hope you thanked your SIL for coming round at such short notice.

If your dm can not settle your pfb then I think you should maybe be looking into different childcare arrangements.

[kawla]

Wow just wow