About my mum and my brothers wife

[Sunshinerainbows123]

So I went to work for a kit day yesterday and my mum had my dd for the day this is the first full day she's had her. When she's had her for an hour she always says she cried a lot and I tried everything to soothe her which makes me anxious as mum is going to have dd 2 days a week when I go back to work. Yesterday my mum called my sil (brothers wife) who has two boys to come round to see if she could get my dd to settle as shed tried everything and didn't want to bother me while at work. Apparently sil got my dd to sleep and settled her. She then left her youngest ds with my mum who's just had an op so she could take my oldest nephew swimming as apparently he's had a boring few days with his brother swimming and my mum said definitely go she'll be fine with the little ones because dd had gone to sleep and I was due back in an hour.
Aibu to think my mum should have just spent the day with my dd on her own and sil shouldn't have left youngest nephew when she knows my dd had been unsettled

[JudyCoolibar]

I wonder what you think would happen if or when you have a second child? Neither child is going to get one to one care then for most of the time, but I'm sure they'll both survive.

[namechanger1981]

Are you the SIL?

[Stratter5]

I was wondering reverse too, because it's all so breathtakingly unreasonable and bonkers. But people do turn odd when they have their PFB. Some odder than others.

I, of course, remained perfectly reasonable and normal 😁

[EverySongbirdSays]

I do think that this is some kind of resentment towards SIL and not just PFB.

SIL has two sons, so your DM was already a Gran, and probably like most Grans makes a lot of fuss over her grandsons.....

I think this over the years has made you

and you have felt MY child MY Mum MY turn about it

the fact that you said "brothers wife" and not "my sll" sums it up.

You are being immature and selfish, not just unreasonable