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To have asked my hairdresser on a date?

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auldspinster · 01/08/2016 20:37

Had my hair done on Saturday - we were talking sex; relationships and children and we were bemoaning how difficult it is to meet people at our age (we're both 41) and what we missed as single people.

I've always found him attractive and we always have masses to talk about (my frightwig takes about an hour to cut and dry) and I thought afterwards, fuck it, life's too short.

He has a website for a semi professional thing he does on the side so I emailed through it, suggesting we meet for a coffee. That was at lunchtime, am I insane?

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 20:40

I've lost a bit of weight since I last saw him and mentioned it in passing, he said he'd noticed but didn't want to say so unprompted. Aforementioned 'ladies ' were housed in my most uplifting bra and a tight top which were rather in his face when he took my gown.

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trixymalixy · 02/08/2016 20:43

Fuck it. What's the worst that could happen? Go for it.

bleedingnora · 02/08/2016 20:47

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SueTrinder · 02/08/2016 20:50

Not placemarking at all oh no. I can confirm the existence of straight male hairdressers (as a PP said my hairdresser owns the salon), in my hairdresser's case he definitely does it for the women, he's attractive in a misspent youth kind of way. Wouldn't touch him with a bargepole though, I suspect he's shagged half the town.

TiggyOBE · 02/08/2016 21:09

I once got told I had magnificent breasts.

In what context? But the manager of a strip club, or a chicken farmer?

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 21:10

He doesn't own the salon, it's a family run business with about half a dozen branches across the city. My hair nearly did the founder a mischief, he slipped in his birkies on a load of it as he walked past.

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AnotherPrickInTheWall · 02/08/2016 21:35

I think it's great to actually ask someone out in RL. You have nothing to lose and it certanily beats looking for love on OLD.

MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 02/08/2016 21:38

Not inappropriate at all! It takes a lot of confidence to bite the bullet like that so good on you. I hope it turns out well!

Stillunexpected · 02/08/2016 21:39

Don't drop a note into the salon, you have already "asked" him out once. Doesn't matter if he has seen it or not, asking again makes you sound desperate. FWIW, I think it is highly likely he has seen the message as emails to his website are probably set up to be automatically forwarded to his personal email (at least, if he is serious about his photography).

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 02/08/2016 21:45

Shame you don't have his mobile number to just have asked him via text. I hope he checks the form soon!

YouAreMyRain · 02/08/2016 21:47

I would be tempted to do as suggested by pp and get someone to contact him with a business enquiry using the same enquiry form. It would have been much better to pop by and ask him face to face really though, the online form seems quite impersonal

GirlWithTheLionHeart · 02/08/2016 21:49

What was your message op? Was it breezy? Grin

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 22:00

Hi Mr x, hair is fab, blow dry still holding. Enjoyed our chat on Saturday, do you fancy meeting for coffee at redacted name of local arts venue close to his flat some time? My number is xxxxxx.

Cheers

Auldspinster

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 22:02

He told me where he lives btw (area where I grew up), not been stalking!

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 22:09

What about leaving a telephone message at the salon and asking for him to call me back? If the email has bounced into the spam or been overlooked it would be a shame to let it slide and want to strike while the iron is fairly hot.

I have a fringe that grows like weeds so it won't be too long before it needs trimmed.

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GirlWithTheLionHeart · 02/08/2016 22:10

Give it a week then do that as you might look like a keeno. But nice message!

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 22:12

Tiggy a friend's colleague who was getting rather a good view of them sans clothing and in repose.

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SaucyJack · 02/08/2016 22:16

Well, at least if he says no you'll know it's not because he doesn't like your hair.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 02/08/2016 22:20

Edinburgh! I'm now dying to know who it is! Hope he replies op!

panegyricS1 · 02/08/2016 22:23

I don't think that he has seen the message.

Your wording was great. If he is uninterested, it is easy to respond to it with, "sounds good. Very busy with work but I'll get back to you" ....and then to "forget" to get back to you. Your breezy email gives him an pretty easy way out, if he isn't keen. So, I think that the message hadn't been read.

TeaRexit · 02/08/2016 22:26

No dont message again, wait patiently.

JellyBeansHaveNoAgeLimit · 02/08/2016 22:28

I think contact after a week. Any longer than that would seem a bit needy imo. Good luck op, I do like a good love story Grin

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auldspinster · 02/08/2016 22:28

I will sit on my hands, I know the male perception of time is very different.

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Juniper40004 · 02/08/2016 22:29

Ooh hope he replies!

eddielizzard · 02/08/2016 22:33

good for you. life is too short. i hope he feels the same!