To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

[FruitCider]

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Bloody hell op! They're all arseholes! (Including your bf I'm afraid!)

Can't imagine any of my friends bring anything other than delighted for me and fucking amazed!

Really well done, you should indeed be very proud.

The trick with a first is to not tell anyone your actual mark! My parents still think mine was worth at least 100%

Well done!

Congratulations OP!! Not only did you get a first, but you also clearly have the excellent skill of doing the optimal amount of work, such that you get the desired mark but with barely any surplus marks. Only the best manage that!!

Well done on your amazing achievement, OP. ignore the sour grapes - and feel free to dump them from fb!!

Your so called friends are jealous wankcannons. Well done OP

Congratulations, well done. Be proud 🎉x

Well done, and sod the rest of them :)

Congratulations, well done.

If these are friends, om your own wall, I'd be reviewing those friendships. Those comments sound bitter and sad.

YOU DID BRILLIANTLY -enjoy your success. I got a Desmond (2:2) and was happy but I recognize that a lot of work goes into a first and it is A GREAT ACHIEVEMENT.

Just been reading back through the thread - and I want to make a few points.

It's almost 20 years now since nurses needed degrees - so not 'recent' at all. In that time i've been both a nurse and a patient/service user - in most cases degrees HAVE very much improved the standard of care.

One of the oldest nursing degrees in the UK was - still is - from a RG university, namely Edinburgh. It was possibly the first one in fact.

When i trained in the 1980s there was such snobbery and 'them and us' within nursing, people doing the bog standard certificate (as I did then) thinking the degree was all academic and not relevant. Now all nurses need degrees this should have changed - except, it seems, outside the profession from people who don't have clue what nursing training entails. Because it involves practical and academic work, and some pretty grotty working conditions, shift work (Jeremy Hunt might lead you to think all hospitals shut at weekends and overnight - they don't), IMO it is one of the hardest courses to do - esp as a mature student. I did an academic course before nursing. I could write an essay on the differences!!

Well done again, OP, and enjoy your new career.

I hope all these congratulations have cheered you up a bit, OP ! It is rotten to have worked so hard and achieved something really worthwhile only to have it undervalued and sniped at by so-called friends. It is a sad fact that people often feel threatened by the achievements of individuals they know as they relate everything to their own lives and rate themselves as inferior as a result. These people's comments say more about themselves (and their own self-esteem) than you.

Since none of us know you, our opinions are completely objective and everyone is agreeing on how well you have done. It is not a common thing to achieve a First, and it is testimony to your hard work and perseverance as well as your intellect. These are all qualities that employers value and your CV will definitely stand out as a result. It's an achievement that will stand you in excellent stead throughout your life - very well done!

Congratulations ! But be aware of sarky comments from tiresome older folk. In my day a first was considerably more than 70% I'm afraid. Grade inflation is a reality.

However, you've clearly done so very much better than your peers-so well done.

I got a first and nobody gave a shit either!

I'm going back 20 years but a first is still a first.

I haven't read the whole thread but I am appalled at some of the comments of some of your FB 'friends'.

I worked incredibly hard as I was a mature student who had given up a full time job in order to study. However, the amount I drank and smoked as a student would make most people's jaws drop to the floor. I lived student life to the max and even got barred from a Fast Food restaurant and an Indian restaurant for my behaviour! I'm not proud of it one bit but I still got the results when I wasn't pissed!

I think that people who haven't been to uni don't really understand the significance of your results. Youve just got a degree, that's it. I've also found most employers to think the same.

None the less, I got the result I wanted and I'm proud of myself. The rest of my life has not been such a huge success but that's a whole other thread.

Well done OP, you clever little sausage! 💐💐💐💐💐

Congratulations! If you were my daughter I would be very proud of you! As for those slating this, how silly they will look in a few years time. How ignorant they are!
They have shown how worthless their opinions are with their ridiculousness!

Congratulations!

I'm not sure who is coming across worse here, your friends who may well have meant the comments less nastily than they read, or you partner who appears to be being a complete bellend?

Do you have to word?

Congratulations. What an achievement. As for those nasty comments, they're jealous ignore them and unfriend them on facebook

Congratulations! You should be incredibly proud of yourself and shouting from the rooftops, it's a great achievement.

Rest assured that jealousy, snobbery and mean-spiritedness reveal far more about the people posting (here and on Fb) than could ever detract from your hard work.

I seem to attract similar people. Any mention of something I'm excited about having done (only mention occasionally) seems to get a very deflated response - in real life and online. It's always been that way too which I've found distressing at times - my face is not very personable (not ugly but not attractive IYKWIM) and it probably it has a lot to do with that.

Well done, OP, an amazing achievement. If you were my friend irl I would post congratulations all over your social media and buy you a massive drink (at least).

Horrified to hear of others' jealousy, sour grapes and inability to celebrate your wonderful first.

And as for this ailith dragon....talk about pissing on someone's chips!

How mean spirted, jealous, and badminded.

Go and have a brandy or Something ailith...anything to take away that very bitter taste in your mouth. I'd hate to be you...yuck.

Many many congrats, you should rightly be very proud of your achievement. My DH is actively involved in recruiting at the co he works for, international co, household name. A first absolutely matters to employers, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Enjoy your celebrations x

Ailith what the fuck is wrong with you?

Congratulations Fruit! Ignore the bitter arseholes and celebrate your fantastic achievement

ailith More often than not, it's that you have to have come from a life of privilege alteady to attend one of the 'ancient' 15th C institutions and afford their fees ... not necessarily that you have had the privilege of attending. Sadly, all too often, they tend to produce a small but steady cohort of these type of graduates who sniff at the notion of a 'vocational' courses (aka ones leading to jobs & career).

I got a 1st with 70% over 20 years ago. So the mark bands haven't changed in that period. The uni snobbery hasn't though --- I went to a 'red brick' which has somehow morphed into 'Russell Group'!

Very very well done. That's a huge amount of hard work . Fantastic.