To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

[FruitCider]

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

Persian I tried... I said NO-ONE finishes on 80+% let alone 100%!
I sounds like there is no point in reasoning with him as he obviously doesn't have your intellect. You know how well you have done and that is what matters the most.

Well done!!! I have a first too and I don't think it has given me any advantages and I'd never tell anyone (as it was a long time ago now!) BUT I know I got it. My career path after that bore no relevance to my degree (science graduate converted to city profession) but it's still a personal achievement for me. People are funny about people posting good news on FB and anyone who posts negatively is just chippy and nasty. Forget it.

In my discipline no one had achieved a first at my uni in 25 years. Bloody well done you. You are likely in the top 5% of your course and quite possibly your uni.

Wow, FruitCider, that list is amazing. Much as I would find many of those areas fascinating, I know I would never have had the stamina and focus to study all that.

You are a .

It's a poor friend who can't celebrate your victories with you. Fuck them.
You did brilliantly!

Why do so many people swear here? Bleurgh

Perhaps it's exposure to you, you giant snob.

Congratulations!!!

You've done incredibly well

ignore the misery-soaked fuckers on your facebook OP.

I'm a mature student in a health profession subject and its bloody hard going. doing placements whilst still having coursework to complete is really tough. I only hope to do as well as you have.

Well done OP. People are strange (as the song goes)

Well done!

OP, when I got a First I lost count of the idiots who asked whether it was a 1:1 or a 1:2. I'd say, it's a First...then get the "yes but". Their idiocy totally took the shine off.

17 years ago. Not bitter. Obviously.

You've done fantastically well, OP! It's odd when people feel threatened by others' success and try to undermine it, even if it's someone they don't know, on a public platform

Just remember all of that hard work you did. You deserve every bit of joy you get from your result. People who don't see that need to sort themselves out.

Well done OP... I'm really jealous because I wish I had changed degree and worked harder but that's not going to stop me from being genuinely pleased for you and I have no effing clue who you are!! chuffing well done chuck... have a big pat on the back and I raise my G&T to you me dear! Hold your head high you are officially first class!!

Some people really are arseholes.

Congratulations - from another who scraped a first (and enjoyed herself plenty, along the way)

congratulations op!

I have to say that I find it very strange that so many people on your FB have commented so negatively. I get updates on people's results quite often on FB, ranging from more traditionally intellectual subjects like to more practical ones like a veterinary nurse/cosmetic btec, coming from Oxbridge types to people who I knew at school and dropped out after GCSEs and then went back to OU or something later (so not from a traditionally academic background), and I honestly have never seen anything other than 'well done' or equivalent on any of their statuses. Even if there is a joking 'swotty' type comment it has always been followed by a 'proud of you,' or 'well done!'

Think you are right to have a big FB cull!

tbf to your partner though, it is ridiculous that more than 50% of the available marks (0-39 and 75-100) are awarded so irregularly that they are practically irrelevant. It does make it harder to understand the awarding system when you can technically get any mark between 1-100 but really 95% of people get between 40-70. No reflection on you of course but our awarding system is ridiculous imo.

People can be bitter jealous arsewipes. One of my "friends" was really bitter that she got a 2:2 , appealed and was informed, no it's still the same grade.

When I got my degree a few years later I got a first. All she could find to say was " 3 years of taking it easy is over. Now you need to do some real work"

I left it on there to show people what a twat she was and had a lot of people asking who the bitter bitch was.

Anyone who comments like that is jealous, pure and simple. You have done amazing and deserve praise

Congratulations! That degree sounds HARD and to do it from scratch...impressive.

It will be useful as I) now you know you can do whatever you set your mind to 2) it will get the attention of employers who actually like clever people (there are some) and 3) it will make getting funding for future study easier. It will also benefit you if you ever want to teach or lecture.

Your friends - meh - you need new ones. But I am not impressed with your DH at all. You don't have to fully understand something to be pleased for someone's success and in the days of Google, there's little excuse for not finding out a bit anyway.

Congratulations - that's a real achievement.

I'm so sorry your 'friends' and 'husband' aren't as pleased and proud of you as they should be.

Not only have you excelled in your academic studies but you've had to pass placements too and they are hard work. You are amazing and that is a fantastic achievement. Congrats! Don't let anyone piss on your chips. I'm sure you'll be a great MH nurse. We need people like you! :)

Congratulations! I don't see anything wrong in blowing your own trumpet sometimes, and getting a first is a brilliant achievement, and you should be shouting it from the rooftops!

My friend's children all got firsts and no one batted an eye about her announcing it on fb and saying how proud and pleased she was - no killjoys in her circle! Her children each announced their firsts on fb and got loads of congrats from their friends and relatives.

I'm sorry you didn't. Maybe it's time for a change of friends?

HUGE Congratulations OP!!! That's a fantastic achievement, well done!
Enjoy it, be proud and know you are amazing!! I hope your future is fantastic!
Ignore the nasty jealous comments. Your DP could do with a head wobble too

Ailith, do fuck off dear. We swear when we find someone to be an utter boring, jealous, bitchy, dull, snobby, pathetic, goady, waste of space. Hope that helps you understand MN a little better.

Fruit - DO NOT JUSTIFY YOURSELF! You've done bloody well, congrats. You deserve praise. There's nothing wrong with sharing the good news

Showing off??? FFS, when people post a tray of muffins on Facebook they get 73 likes and a stream of compliments. If that isn't showing off, posting a First degree must be self-deprecation

I think you need a new boyfriend to go with your glittering future. And better friends, obvs.

Wow! Congratulations
I got my 2.1 as a very mature student and I know how hard I had to work for they. A first! Again, WOW!

That's amazing, well done!! Delete all the haterz.

Congratulations, I would delete those 'friends'. I just graduated with a distinction from my masters degree, I'm super excited on what the future holds, so are my family but I didn't post it on Facebook anyway because I don't really know all the friends there personally. That said, I would expect that if someone feels that way about someone's achievement, it's better they keep it to themselves, why write that.

Ignore the haters!

Congratulations! Be proud!

Congrats OP! You should feel super proud of yourself and the people making those comments are not your friends so just do away with them.