To be angry that people are downplaying my achievement?

[FruitCider]

I feel very upset.

I found out this week that I'm graduating with a First, only just scraped one but its 70+ nethertheless.

I got really excited and posted it on my Facebook wall, and I've had really horrible comments such as "no one likes a show off", "getting a first won't make you better at your job", "I have got a 2:1, at least I had fun during my degree instead of spending my time with my nose in textbooks", "your employer won't care".

AIBU for just wanting a bit of recognition that I've done bloody well?!?!? My partner doesn't even know what it means, how do I explain it to him?

Feeling very woe is me. Sorry

You, Mrs are a bloody marvel

SUPER well done on the 1:1!!!

I had exactly the same reaction from a few of my "friends" because i graduated with a first and an award for Student of the Year (I set up a society and stuff, nothing ground breaking!) It really upset me because people were going on about how they had "made more" of their uni experience than me

Complete bull, i had a blast and loved uni!

Incidentally, your employer DOES care. In my office now we dont hire anyone with less than a 2:1 and that's the same across my industry. I do interviews and always ask new grads about their time at uni and about their degree and what they found interesting about it.. usually the 2:1'ers give me a long story about all the drinking they did/ how hard it was getting to lectures in the mornings and then a very very vague "yeah it was good" line about their actual course.. but the 1:1'ers usually strike up a really interesting conversation about their degree and what they learned.. I know more about marine biology, physics and English Language subsequently than I ever needed to before Guess who I hire?

sorry that sounded really judgy and unkind to those with 2:1's it wasnt meant to be! My point was just that your employers do care about your degree classification and from personal experience I've never met someone who had a first that i didnt hire :)

(that last bit is a lie, there was one guy who was SUPER arrogant that i couldnt bring myself to take on!)

Your partner's 30% comment as well as being wrong was spiteful. Is he a nice person?

What mean 'friends'. You have achieved something really special, particularly given that you left school with no qualifications, and should be shouting it from the rooftops! Ignore Ailith, some people get their sad little kicks from shitting on people. WELL DONE! 🌟

But be aware of sarky comments from tiresome older folk. In my day a first was considerably more than 70% I'm afraid. Grade inflation is a reality.

Dearie me, another one pops up. I can say with certainty that UCL was giving out Firsts in the early 80s to people who got 70% in my Humanities subject, and as far as I know 70% is still the grade boundary there.

Agree with other posters - they aren't very nice friends. WELL DONE OP! Huge congrats, it is a real achievement and btw employers do care.

I got a 1st.

I also ran a sports club and was on the committee for the national university association for the sport. I played away most weekends. I partied a lot. I slobbed in front of the TV with my housemates.

But I also worked really hard and efficiently and enjoyed my subject.

Getting a 1st isn't mutually exclusive with having fun.

I got a first and nobody gave a shit either!

My mum and dad were happy for me, and a couple of friends. But no one else really and I got a lot of 'no one cares once you're at work' shit.

I do t have a degree, wish I did somehow.

I would be jumping up and Down, and whooping from the roof tops for you op, you really have worked hard to get that, and if you were my friend, I'd be super proud to know you!

Well done.

Please delete the Fb arseholes?

Jealousy isn't nice. I remember sitting at my eldest son's graduation. The man next to me was saying that the only acceptable degree was a 2.1 as a first meant you had no social life and anything lower was a waste of time. My son is a party animal and driank too much at uni. I had to bail him out more than once when he ran out of money, fortunately he has grown up since. He got a first and a prize for the best dissertation. I just gave the man a big grin.

That's amazing! Well done. I think it's time you edited your FB friends!

So pleased for you!! I'm starting college in September to do an access to HE health studies course so I can then go on to do my mental health nursing degree. I'm 36 with 3 kids and left school with crap GCSEs (obviously had lots of fun though ) and I am equally excited and bricking the thought of juggling study/kids/placements but know it'll be worth it in the end! Really, well done to you! You've inspired me totally oh and ailith you sound like an absolute.......

At my Uni a first was 70% 20 years ago - I went as a mature student - and my friend's Uni 30+ years ago had 70% for firsts too. In fact, my dad's Uni, way back in the '40s had 70% as the cut off, too. Doesn't seem to have changed, and they're all moderated carefully.

Very well done, op. That's such a hard thing to do.

Oh and employers do care. They show off about it to their staff! "We've filled the vacancy, they'll be starting next week. Oh, by the way, SHE GOT A FIRST!!!!!!!"

Well done, OP!

If you were my FB friend I'd be reposting all over the place Fruit got a First, it's a fantastic achievement and you should be so proud. Bloody well done.

That's a great achievement. Those people who wrote on your Facebook are arsewipes.

Congrats well done xx

Congratulations, you must have worked so so hard to achieve this!

YANBU at all, not real friends with comments like that. Jealous for sure! You clever thing!

You will feel proud on graduation day as firsts get called up first. Maybe your dp will see how few there are then. Make sure you go. Its a brilliant achievement so head up.

You know my immediate thought? That you need to change your FB friends. I just posted some good news about a career achievement among mine and was showered with nothing but love. And remember, comments like those say more about the poster than they do about you. Be proud, have your moment, and don't anyone let you feel bad about it. And if you do stick with the miserable moaners remember to post and congratulate them every time they mention their own, or family members achievements. Grace and kindness are powerful weapons....

wow, your 'friends' are chewing on some pretty sour grapes aren't they?

I usually hate it when people trot out the phrase 'they're just jealous' but I think it's appropriate here!

FWIW I got a first and the highest dissertation mark in my subject. I had a great time at university and worked efficiently and smartly. High grades need a modicum of natural ability and flair for the subject as well as hard work, and this fact makes the 'well I might not have got as high a mark as you but at least I wasn't a bore who studied all the time' people feel deeply insecure. ignore them!

I wish I'd got a first. Very very very well done!

Wow, congratulations, I got a Desmond! Well done you, great achievement.
Sounds like they're envious to me!

Fantastic! Congratulations on your brilliant achievement. Bask in your glory and take the true admiration from people who are not selfish, jealous or looking to put your down in an attempt to make themselves look better or feed their own insecurities. Rise above and carefully consider your 'FB friends'. Don't let anyone rain on your fabulous parade. X

we are so against intelligence in this country, I remember being told as a teenager that I was too brainy to ever get a man.

Well done from someone who left her degree course because it was too easy & got bored