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Would you say something?

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Zosebrina · 26/07/2016 10:56

I am having some work done on my house, specifically my upstairs bathroom.

The person doing the work is a friend of one of my relatives and I wasn't able to stay home today to let them in etc so I gave a key to a relative who then gave a key to the tradesman, they have had work done before and It's very good. I was a bit nervous about giving some random person a key but my relative assured me he is totally trustworthy and has been alone in their house doing work lots of times.

Before I left for work this morning I shut all the doors to the bedrooms upstairs and the living room.

I have a burglar alarm linked to my phone and motion sensors in all the downstairs rooms, a contact sensor on the back door and motion sensors in all the upstairs bedrooms (I live on my own and have been burgled before incase anyone thinks I'm a bit OTT with the sensors!)

I can look at the motion sensor activity from my phone and just popped to have a look just to see if he had turned up to do the work.

So far he has spent 3/4 an hour in the kitchen (presumably having a coffee - fine by me), has gone outside into the garden (or at least opened the back door) has gone in the living room and all the upstairs bedrooms...

I'm trying to workout why on earth he felt the need to go in any of the bedrooms when the doors were shut? He wouldn't have been looking for the bathroom because I left that door open and you have to walk past it to get to the bedrooms so he would have seen it immediately as he walked up the stairs.
I can sort of understand him going in the living room, perhaps he wanted to sit with a coffee on the sofa but the bedrooms?? I am a bit annoyed that he has gone in there because I have cream carpets in all the bedrooms and obviously he wouldn't have taken his shoes off to do work.

IABU to feel a bit unnerved that he has gone into my bedrooms when there was no need? Should I say something?

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BorpBorpBorp · 26/07/2016 10:58

Is he doing plumbing work? Could he have been checking radiator pipes?

Duckyneedsaclean · 26/07/2016 11:01

Yes, if he'd replaced a radiator be may have had to bleed all the others?

coolaschmoola · 26/07/2016 11:03

I would think it's about pipes/radiators or opening doors for ventilation, particularly if he is using a blowtorch.

Ilovetea82 · 26/07/2016 11:03

Possibly gone outside to check where the overflow goes to, and draining the systems water into the kitchen sink. Plus checking the radiators.

c3pu · 26/07/2016 11:04

What was the job?

Angelto5 · 26/07/2016 11:06

Maybe needed a plug socket (grasping at straws)?

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/07/2016 11:07

I would assume bleeding the radiators too.

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Zosebrina · 26/07/2016 11:09

No radiator work (I hope!) just replacing a few broken tiles. He's not a plumber so I hope he's not doing any radiator work....

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NavyandWhite · 26/07/2016 11:10

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Zosebrina · 26/07/2016 11:11

There's plug sockets on the landing so that one is out too! I am hoping I've missed something obvious that he might have needed to go in there for.

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annielouise · 26/07/2016 11:11

Did he close the bedroom doors after him? If he was in there legitimately he'd have left them open surely? Also he'd have mentioned it as it's obvious all bedroom doors shut means don't go in there. I would most definitely say something and be really pissed off with everything apart from him going into the garden - he might have gone out for a smoke.

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annielouise · 26/07/2016 11:12

Just say I have sensors on all doors which show you went into every room in my house. Why? It's a violation of your privacy.

ArmySal · 26/07/2016 11:13

If he didn't need to go in, no way would I like him in my bedrooms.

c3pu · 26/07/2016 11:13

Absolute tops the only thing he'd need for tiling is some water to mix up the adhesive if he's using bagged adhesive not the pre-mixed stuff (bagged adhesive is better than the pre-mixed)... And water is usually readily available in the bathroom and kitchen, much less the bedroom.

If he was using bagged adhesive he'd probably need some power run his drill/mixer, but there's no way he'd be doing that in a bedroom, he'd almost certainly do it outside with an extension and a downstairs socket.

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Zosebrina · 26/07/2016 11:15

ah yes didn't think about going out for a smoke! I don't care that he went out in the garden or the living room just found it a bit strange he needed to go in every bedroom.

I'm not sure if he has closed the doors after him again because the sensor only goes off once you enter the room rather than open the door if that makes sense and you don't need to walk past the doors to go anywhere other than the next bedroom so not like he would pass any of them to go downstairs etc.

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Birdsgottafly · 26/07/2016 11:18

Have you got a particularly nice house, or one better than his?

It might have been curiosity, not that, that makes it right.

I'd have to ask if there was something he needed that he didn't have, because the alarm showed that the bedroom doors had been opened.

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Zosebrina · 26/07/2016 11:25

hmm not sure about having a better house than his no idea lol! it's not a particularly fancy house just a typical 3 bed 1930's semi...

I suppose he could have been genuinely curious as to how big the rooms were etc but I'm feeling a bit embarrassed as the one bedroom I use as a craft room and I had a few orders yesterday and I didn't have chance to give it a good clean before I left so it looks like a bomb has hit it which is one of the reasons why I left the door shut and didn't think for one minute he would look in there!

I'm thinking of saying something like "sorry if my alarm frightened you it went off because it said the bedrooms had been entered" - obviously the alarm won't have gone off his end (I can blame phone malfunction or something I suppose!) but might give him a chance to explain why and that I know he was in there without flatout accusing him immediately.

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MammouthTask · 26/07/2016 11:34

He was nosy and I would sort of expect it tbh.
No need to make him aware about it. Just have a look at the job abd see if the did a nice job or not.
Otherwise you will look like you have been stalking him and checking his every move (eg how long did he stay in the kitchen etc...). It doesn't create trust iyswim

Littlepeople12345 · 26/07/2016 11:37

I wouldn't be happy at all. How long will the work take? I'd want my key back Asap.

Goingtobeawesome · 26/07/2016 11:44

Don't say that. Say why did you go in all the bedrooms then shut up. If he denies it tell him you know he has. Then shut up again. Lots of people are nosey buggers. He's lost future work. He needs to learn.

LurkingHusband · 26/07/2016 11:46

Should have had CCTV fitted with all the sensors.

NavyandWhite · 26/07/2016 11:49

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ExtraHotLatteToGo · 26/07/2016 11:49

If I was working upstairs like that I'd open all the doors & windows too. I like a breeze blowing through and I hate feeling closed in. The state of your spare room wouldn't even register.

fabulous01 · 26/07/2016 11:50

He was having a nosey. But love the sensors and alarm. I might google that for me to have