Would you say something?

[Zosebrina]

I am having some work done on my house, specifically my upstairs bathroom.

The person doing the work is a friend of one of my relatives and I wasn't able to stay home today to let them in etc so I gave a key to a relative who then gave a key to the tradesman, they have had work done before and It's very good. I was a bit nervous about giving some random person a key but my relative assured me he is totally trustworthy and has been alone in their house doing work lots of times.

Before I left for work this morning I shut all the doors to the bedrooms upstairs and the living room.

I have a burglar alarm linked to my phone and motion sensors in all the downstairs rooms, a contact sensor on the back door and motion sensors in all the upstairs bedrooms (I live on my own and have been burgled before incase anyone thinks I'm a bit OTT with the sensors!)

I can look at the motion sensor activity from my phone and just popped to have a look just to see if he had turned up to do the work.

So far he has spent 3/4 an hour in the kitchen (presumably having a coffee - fine by me), has gone outside into the garden (or at least opened the back door) has gone in the living room and all the upstairs bedrooms...

I'm trying to workout why on earth he felt the need to go in any of the bedrooms when the doors were shut? He wouldn't have been looking for the bathroom because I left that door open and you have to walk past it to get to the bedrooms so he would have seen it immediately as he walked up the stairs.
I can sort of understand him going in the living room, perhaps he wanted to sit with a coffee on the sofa but the bedrooms?? I am a bit annoyed that he has gone in there because I have cream carpets in all the bedrooms and obviously he wouldn't have taken his shoes off to do work.

IABU to feel a bit unnerved that he has gone into my bedrooms when there was no need? Should I say something?

Same

Reminds me of the episode in the IT crowd where Jen has a builder in and they set up cameras.

When I was a teen and babysitting my mate came with me once, I had permissin for her to be there. She went to open a draw and nosey through. I stopped her, apparently she always looked through people's stuff when she babysat.

Someone posted on MN once whose DH was in the trades and he had told her that quite a few will have a nose around people's houses.

I really hope you asked him, I wouldn't be comfortable with this at all.

Did you mention it?

laiste - but there isn't any actual evidence he did anything is there? Just all the usual mums net slagging off and thinking the worst.

Innocent until proven guilty I thought it was. Look at the facts - some technology (of which you don't even know or understand the reliability of) has detected movement in what seems like all rooms. It doesn't detect it was actually him in the room. You don'y have a motive and the OP has not stated that anything is actually missing or damaged.

You need to tread carefully with accusations like this. If you were prepared to let a stranger into your house unattended then there is always a risk they maybe curious.

On the speculative side - maybe it felt bizarre to him that doors were closed and he wanted to check to make sure no-one was actually there. Who knows? You could speculate all day long on Mumsnet. But look at the facts and all you really have is some sensor that shows movement in a room. Thats it.

What can you really prove? Nothing. Unless she asks him and he admits it.

Just nosey then. Would I take a peek in the rooms of a house? Yes I probably would As others have said .. If he's done a good job and not stolen anything(!) then accept that a lot of tradesmen perhaps do this.

So I have just sat and read through all the comments. Desperate to know what happened haha

sorry haven't been able to get online since I posted! Ok he wasn't there when I got home so couldn't say anything to him - I have however said something to relative but haven't heard anything back!

He did a really good job to be fair - cleared up after him but strangely didn't eat any of the biscuits/cake or touch any coffee/tea which doesn't explain why he was so long in the kitchen other than he might have had his own flask?

I also discovered last night that he missed his aim and peed all over the rim bit under the seat of the downstairs toilet and left it, and put the lid back down on top of it, so that was nice. Don't use the downstairs toilet that often but when I went in there last night noticed all yellow stains down the front of the loo and under the seat....

I have come to a few conclusions now

Either a) as it was the summer holidays he had to look after his child/children last minute and took them with him - they might have been running all through the house and might have been the ones that peed over the seat without their dad knowing (as it was the downstairs loo)

or b) he can't aim properly and couldn't be bothered to clean it up and he did go in the rooms himself.

No idea!

forgot to add - just read some of the comments - the sensors wont alert me if the door has been opened you have to physically go into the room to set them off as they are placed around the corner from the door. I purposely placed them this way as I will usually leave all the bedroom doors open on a summer night with the windows open slightly on the lock night vent thing, so walking out of my bedroom to pop to the loo in the night would set the alarm off so it would only go off if someone forced the window open and actually got into the room.

The builders I had for my kitchen couldn't aim either. I didnt enjoy having to clean that up so i wouldnt assume children.

Presumably he had to use a tile cutter? If it was raining heavily he would not have been able to set it up outside, and unless you've got a huge hallway for him to work in, he's probably set it up in one of your bedrooms.

Just to try and put your mind at rest (in a way) I had workmen in last year to do my bathroom and I came back to the house after being out for a few hours, went to my bedroom and found an unfamiliar phone plugged into the phone charger which is by my bed (farthest side from the door so he would have had to come right in for a nosey to find it). I was not happy about it at all and felt that it was inappropriate and a huge invasion of privacy (for one my bedroom wasn't tidy!) but could explain why your workman went in all the bedrooms - something as simple (& innocent however wrong!) as looking for a phone charger?

I had to leave builders in my house for a few weeks and after hearing lots of tales about goings on, I locked anything sensitive in a suitcase each morning.

If they snooped they would have come to the conclusion I didn't have any underwear.

OP did you find out what happened?

Bump for a conclusion?