Visiting family aibu

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Visiting family, they are young and don't have children so the house is not in the slightest bit child proof.
Aibu to get annoyed at family member when said family member tells my dc no and don't do that. They are acting like normal toddlers running and climbing and wrestling it's what the dc do. It's not my dc fault that there are no toys to play with.

You don't need to bring hundreds, sticker books, colouring, some cars? All depends on age of course but one shopping bag should definitely suffice

Seriously a doll/jigsaw/ball/toy car is going to fill up your car

Face it OP YABVU and that is what every post will say. Just accept it and parent your children.

Surely you could find some small toys if you don't want to take up too much room in the car?

YABU you don't need to fill it with toys, just a backpack of a few things to entertain them. You are being rude to let them run around like that.

You don't have to take a bloody great sack of toys with you!
We get a magazine with some shite fiddly toy and stickers that keeps them amused for a bit. Bung cbeebies on a tablet etc.
I always carry a small pencil case in my handbag with a few toy cars, little people, tiny animals etc. to keep toddlers entertained whilst I'm out.
It's just basic planning you do when you have kids

My car is tiny and I could easily fit carrier bags of jigsaws, colouring books , sticker books in the spaces under the driver's and front passenger's seat or in the glove compartment or the compartments in the sides of the front doors.

You're only going for an hour at a time. A Carrier bag off couple of books and something noisy would keep my toddler entertained that long. Hardly filling your car up. YABU

So because you have given them a sofa then your children should be allowed to climb all over it?

YABU and you know it. You're only there for an hour so you don't need to bring many toys, but you do need to keep your children entertained. The toys only clutter up your car if you're too lazy to take them out afterwards.

You are being ridiculous. If I'm going to someone's house without kids I take a tote bag of toys and books to keep her amused. If the host has kids my daughter is likely to be more interested in their toys so I might take one or two things but not much. If your host is having to tell your children not to do stuff, your parenting is the problem!

No-one should be telling your children off, but that is because YOU should be telling them off. Your children are always your children to keep under control. Agree that if you took a car and only visited for an hour you could easily have fitted in something to entertain them. I never took my kids to visit people without taking a few toys or colouring books/ sticker books with me. (probably not colouring books if they're still at the toddler clambering over furniture phase as it sounds too messy).
Have some respect for your guests house. It isn't just a receptacle for your cast offs.

A small backpack full of cars! Not every item you own!

YABU. You should bring toys and keep your DC occupied.

Is this a horrible sil thread? First mils, then dils and now horrible or unreasonable sils. Where are all the fecking men at?

i dunno. why don't you take control of your own children?
YABVU.
and being a bit of a diva tbh.

It's up to you to take toys and stop your children being a nuisance in other people's homes, so what if the couch is second hand - still your responsibility to control your kids. You sound very unreasonable and immature - maybe too immature to have kids. If you were my relative I wouldn't want you visiting with an attitude like yours

i dunno. why don't you take control of your own children?
YABVU.
and being a bit of a diva tbh.

Look on the bright side. They might never invite you again - I don't think I would.

I thought you were unexpectedly trapped there. Just throw some stuff in a bag. Not complicated. Or if that is too much effort buy one of those magazine things...

Yabvu. Toddlers don't need to be climbing on sofas.

If they climbed on my couch - no matter how old it is or where it came from - I would also ask them not to. Take responsibility for your own children and teach them to respect other people and their property. A bag of small toys, a new comic, a new colouring book, etc does not take up a lot of room.

YABU your children need to learn to respect the houses they are taken to - climbing on the couch is not acceptable

It's up to you to take toys, etc with you to entertain them

Yabu, I absolutely hated having people over like you. Control your children. Bring toys and take them back with you. Fidgeting, wild behaved children are irritating. If they are bored its your responsibility to have them occupied.

Aibu?
Yes you are
But but...
No you are being unreasonable
But but but .....
Yep still unreasonable
But but but but.....

Yabu op. Pack a bag of toys, not a Santa sack just a few bits to get them off the couch they shouldn't be climbing on anyway

is this thread for real?! Of course you're being unreasonable. Surely it doesn't take a lorryload of toys to entertain toddlers for an hour? Just chuck a couple of things in your bag!

I was going to leave a constructive comment but you subsequent posts have been so ridiculous I'm just to place mark to enjoy the rest of the thread

I wouldn't have let my toddlers clamber all over someone else's furniture and I'd have been gobsmacked not if a friend's toddler had tried clambering over mine (because it's a toddler) but at my friend not intervening (not a toddler).
It's second nature surely to pack a couple of board books, colouring, toy car in their back pack/ changing bag, whenever you head out?

Why should your friend toddler-proof their home or keep toddler clutter there for your royal visits? You sound like a peach. I doubt this issue will arise much in the future.