To wear jeans to a wedding

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I have a wedding coming up. Not back to pre baby body and still feel very self conscious about wearing dresses.
I was thinking black jeans & heels with this white top - m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0409683002.html
And this jacket - m2.hm.com/m/en_gb/productpage.0338033003.html
Or will it look too casual? Hopefully the links all work

I was going to chime in with 'jeans are far too casual' and while I wouldn't dream of wearing them to a wedding, I wouldn't have cared in the slightest if you had worn them to my wedding. Mine was a very formal affair & the best mans wife wore a pair of skater trousers with 4' wide legs. And a dress on top. I couldn't have cared less, she was comfortable & that's all I was worried about. Other guests commented a lot on it though.

OP, too casual I'm afraid.
I was on a similar position to you recently - very close post natal and my brother's wedding.
I wore a wonderful dress from Lindybop, that hid a lot of my wobbly body and showed off my super huge milk-laden norks (hopefully distracting them from said wobbly bits). I don't wear dresses either but this was long enough not to make me feel self-conscious.
If you take the little one with you, loads of people will say you look well (basically for just turning up washed and not in your pyjamas). Plus as already been said, no one will give a rat's ass what you look like and all eyes will be on baby!

It depends on the wedding.

If I were in your situation, I would try to get a suit. You know, like men wear. Just that. No high heels.

(I only wear a dress because I bought one once and it was expensive and now I wear it every time there's an occasion for it. Like, once every three years.)

Yes baby is coming with. She will cover my wobbly tummy.
I will head out tomorrow or Monday to have a look round. I don't really want to order off the Internet as I rarely get internet shopping right!

Wedding is a few weeks away so I have time but realistically won't lose enough of the baby weight to make a difference before then

Disagree with the suit as men aren't wearing suits. That would be odd. I think trousers and the top/jacket combo is fine. With that dress code I do think some guys would wear jeans but that always seems to be different for women

First off, congrats on your new baby!

I remember at a family wedding, one girl ( sister of groom) was not long after having a baby. Wore a nice jacket, and smart black trousers. Looked fantastic.

I cannot even comprehend the comment about someone wishing a guest had not attended, rather than wear a particular item.

Have a great day.

God forbid someone wants to wear something they feel comfortable in.

Nobody is suggesting the OP wears something she is uncomfortable in. Just something that she feels comfortable in that also doesn't look like she couldn't be arsed to make a bit of effort.

If you read my post I actually just suggested a different colour of trousers and said the jacket and top were nice. But it does need a bit of tweaking to look dressy enough for a wedding. I think the idea of (non-black) cigarette pants is also lovely.

Your comment is typical of the MN attitude towards weddings. It's all about the guests and what they want out of the wedding and their comfort and their wants. It's possible to look comfortable at the same time as making an effort to look smart and appropriate.

FWIW I think the OP is very close to a really nice outfit and just needs to make a few adjustments. I just get really annoyed with the MN attitude that weddings are all about the guests and they can do what they like and make no effort all and expect to be waited on hand and foot for a £5 Argos voucher and an out of date fruit basket.

If you can't work out that there are certain prevailing attitudes on MN then you're obviously not paying attention.

OP I attended a wedding four weeks after giving birth and wore a stretchy maxi dress from Apricot and sucky in pants. All wobbly bits hidden and it was perfect for bf too.

op God to phase 8 they have a top sake on and great weddingy outfits!

I wore jeans to my own wedding.

Cant get my head around the idea of anyone being offended by what their guests wear! Assuming they dont turn up in crotchless pants and wellies, I dont see the problem!

Brand new black jeans look like trousers anyway, if you pick the right style and it would only be when someone got close up that they would be able to tell! Wear what you like OP.

Op, I'm not back to pre-baby body and baby is running around, chatting and definitely not willing to spend all the time hiding my tummy ;-) I have a 50s style dress that, with a decent bra, really does hide a multitude. Might be worth trying? Not the sort of thing I would ever have thought to wear either.

I wouldn't wear the jeans because if you are questioning it yourself, I suspect you may still be questioning it on the day and that would make you feel uncomfortable even if no one else minded. It sounds like you need to feel you look nice. Do Debenhams still do the personal shopper service? A few years ago my SiL was having some similar issues and we got her some vouchers and booked a session for her and she got a couple of lovely outfits which really helped her confidence.

Assuming they dont turn up in crotchless pants and wellies, I dont see the problem!

Just imagine the resulting AIBU thread

I know you said no dresses, but I wore one of these for a wedding 8 weeks post birth and felt really comfortable and confident, a good petticoat underneath covers any lumps and bumps and they come in absolutely loads of different prints and colours.

Just imagine the resulting AIBU thread

From my experience it would be mainly outrage that anybody should have criticised a poor guest who obviously felt comfy in wellies and couldn't afford a crotch. In fact, the wedding party would probably get a damn good kicking for impoverishing her by expecting her to spend £1.50 on the bus to the venue thus plunging her to a level of poverty where crotch ownership is merely a pipe dream.

OP, how about these:

m.asos.com/mt/www.asos.com/ASOS/ASOS-High-Waist-Culottes-with-Deep-Turn-Up/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=6539432&affid=14179&channelref=product+search&mk=abc&currencyid=1&gclid=CODls52K580CFRUW0wodCBoEVg&un_jtt_application_platform=newPlp&un_jtt_redirect

The high waist can be very forgiving if you have a bit of a tum, plus you could get some Spanx under.

I think op is not comfortable in dresses and would self conscious? So maybe stop suggesting dresses? If men are no ties then it sounds relaxed and like they don't want people to be overly fancy, just nicely dressed

Jeans were fine at my wedding. I didn't wear them, but husband and my parents did. It was a small registry office do though and I wasn't in a wedding dress.

Ignoring bills comment as it's clearly 50/50 between those who thing it's fine and those who don't

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Bill there are a range of attitudes on this thread.

But maybe I'm just a bit thick or something?

Toasty those dresses are gorgeous and so feminine. Is the one in the red dress you?
I agree with Billsykes. Mumsnet is a parallel universe in most ways. Almost a parody at times.

I love the lindybop dresses but they really wouldn't suit me sadly. With my height and figure (excluding the lumps) it's knee length fitted dresses which suit me more but at the moment I don't think they look good even with the suck in pants which means I would fiddle all day and not enjoy myself in a dress