She talks to everyone a lot except me.

[MrMan999]

Working in an office, there's a girl on my team who sometimes keeps herself to herself, but the rest of the time, talks to everyone else quite a bit. Me? Just occasionally. If that. If others have a general conversation, she'll sometimes react to things they say, but when I make a contibution, she'll just act as if I've said nothing and carry on staring at her screen.

And today, I passed her when coming back onto the 3rd floor after my break, as she was heading the other way. I said hello. She just completely blanked me.

I do fancy her so I'm wondering if she's figured that out, and so if she doesn't fancy me then she's shutting me out because of that, rather than invite a conversation. Hence, she only talks to me if it's work-related, and even then she'll aim to talk to others first if they're available (we're on the phones, so that varies).

It's a bit depressing really. Kinda wish we were on different teams, then I wouldn't have to look at her. Out of sight, out of mind :(

What does everyone think of the situation?

Pervy McPervyson 😂😂😂

Leave her alone "MrMan", and stop trying to flirt with her.

I'm wondering if another thread will pop up from a poster asking advice about getting unwanted attention from a colleague, feeling uncomfortable in work, yet trying to make things a little less awkward by occasionally having a short conversation in the hope of remaining professional.

I suspect she will get advice telling her to stop any conversation not work related in case he sees it as encouragement and to do her best to get out of the dept.

The reason I know she's not interested is that this has been going on a while. If you'd only just met her and she was a bit shy, the explanation of her liking you might make sense. However in this instance, she has known you quite a while, has talked with you about non-work stuff a few times, but is giving out very clear signals that she is not interested, not only in romance, but in being friends either.

Please heed her signals, if she is blanking you in the corridor, it's because she doesn't want to be friends or romantically involved, and please move on from this, I'm sure you've posted before.

"I think those people on the money, on this thread, are those who say that they think she's sussed I fancy her."
So you agree with the people who agree with what you'd already decided before you posted? That's a surprise.

"I never said it affects my work"
Then she isn't being unprofessional. If a male colleague acted this way, you'd just assume they didn't like you as a friend and leave it at that, but because she is female and you've noticed she has breasts and is attractive, you've somehow decided that part of her job description is "must be friendly and chatty with every male that wants it, an exactly equal amount of the time."

You do realise that she could choose to never talk to you again except where she needs to to do her job, and it still wouldn't be unprofessional?

I'm still convinced that you are the guy my friend has issues with, if your name begins with M then I claim my £5 prize :D

Mr Boot

• I'm not ignoring those, but I've addressed those points already, so I'm not repeating myself.

AuroraBora

• I do tend to over-analyse things, yes. When you're single and have no kids taking up your time, you have a lot of time to think. Not all of that time is productive.

WindInPillows

• I have not posted before. It would help if you read my previous entries in this thread.

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