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I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

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WillH · 05/07/2016 21:12

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?
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ItsyBitsyBikini · 05/07/2016 21:39

That letter looks awesome! It's pretty much what I had in mind for my sons nursery. I have the letters, they just need painting by my lovely but ditzy older sister I'll use yours as the template!

Your friend is rude and should be an ex friend.

fattyfattytoadgirl · 05/07/2016 21:39

Oscar Wilde had it right when he said:-

'Nowadays people know the price of everything and the value of nothing.'

pasturesgreen · 05/07/2016 21:40

Wow. Just wow...can't believe how bloody rude people can be!

The letters are lovely! So-called friend, on the other hand, is an ungrateful bitch.

I wouldn't hurry to get her any more gifts from you, that's for sure!

TheAntiBoop · 05/07/2016 21:40

Distance yourself from her. Be polite but no need to try and be best buds

woodenmouse · 05/07/2016 21:40

Thats awful she's not a very good friend. I love it, you can make me some!!

WillH · 05/07/2016 21:40

April Flowers

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wheresthel1ght · 05/07/2016 21:40

Sorry willh but is anyone else secretly hoping the bitch friend is also on Mumsnet and feel suitably ashamed of herself?!

clam · 05/07/2016 21:41

Shock Shock Shock

That's all! (YADDDDDDDNBU)

Whatthefoxgoingon · 05/07/2016 21:41

I'd be very grateful for such a lovely homemade present. YANBU.

TheWitTank · 05/07/2016 21:41

Just be polite and distantly friendly at groups and leave it at that. No need for a big fall out. No more presents that's for sure!

wheresthel1ght · 05/07/2016 21:42

April so sorry for your loss FlowersFlowers

expatinscotland · 05/07/2016 21:42

Rude beyond belief. I'd re-evaluate this friendship.

AprilSkies44 · 05/07/2016 21:43

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Dontrocktheboat · 05/07/2016 21:44

That is a terrible way to treat someone, I would ditch her as a friend, she does not deserve you at all.

AShadowLurkingInTheShadows · 05/07/2016 21:44

I love them!!! your friend was a dick!

If you make them to sell I'd love a set for DS!

Jelliebabe1 · 05/07/2016 21:44

Wow how rude! If they spell Phoebe or Florence I'll have them!!!

WillH · 05/07/2016 21:45

Ahhh, you're all so kind, thank you.

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calli335 · 05/07/2016 21:46

Blimey. How rude. It looks lovely and was very kind of you to do that for her. Nowt as queer as folk!

RaspberryOverload · 05/07/2016 21:46

I still have a pram blanket made by my late aunt, which I treasure now she's not here. It's not completely to my taste but it was made with love, which is why I keep it.

HollyBollyBooBoo · 05/07/2016 21:47

She's a complete cowbag! Never known such rudeness!

The letter looks fab.

suit2845321oie · 05/07/2016 21:48

They're beautiful and I say that as someone who isn't generally into homemade things although I would never be rude enough to say so. Be assured they're stunning and she's a cow

AprilSkies44 · 05/07/2016 21:49

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aprilanne · 05/07/2016 21:49

personally i would think the world of my friend if she sat and made the effort for my child .even if they were not perfect the love was there .how ungreatful she sounds

EverySongbirdSays · 05/07/2016 21:49

Really, nasty, hurtful ungrateful behaviour on the part of your friend. If it had been me I'd have gone home and cried. YANBU OP Flowers

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ThePigeon314 · 05/07/2016 21:50

That looks very professional to me! YOu have a talent!

a similar thing happened to me. I made xmas baubles for two friends and their children, and friend a was seeinng the friend b and I said 'please give these ones to friend B''. Friend B never thanked me for the home made gift and i never brought it up. Literally years later I found the home made baubles in a huge toy box at friend A's house. Like, she must have decided they were too lame to pass on?

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