I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

YANBU. What a nasty thing to do and say. I think yours looks amazing-ignore her.

Yanbu that was really rude of her.

A friend of mine made similar for my child and it is lovely!

Specially made things are much nicer than mass produced in my opinion and I like that she has a few items which were made for her, not just bought.

You did a nice thing and she is just horrible. Not much of a friend.

They're fab, she sounds like a right one! Does she have form for this kind of behaviour? Even if she did have other ones, no harm in more than one set around the house. I hope she has a rethink and gets back to you with an apology.

I would be thrilled with such a thoughtful gift -one of a kind too! She is a rude twat. Take your lovely letters and tell her to stick her "pro" ones where the sun don't shine.

YANBU. What an ungrateful and insensitive 'friend'.

Agree with all the others. That letter is so lovely - but even if it wasn't, she's still been spectacularly rude!

for April

YANBU. It's really rude to give back a present, especially if a friend has made so much effort to make it.

Sorry for your loss April, I wish you all the luck for the future

YANBU, the letter you pictured is beautiful.

Your "friend" is being a bitch. I'd treasure anyone who cared enough to put the time and effort into to make something like this.

Perhaps cool the friendship, and certainly don't waste money on presents for her/her DC in future.

(1) It's lovely and I'd be delighted with iit.

(2) Even it it were shit, she's a bitch.

I would prefer professional ones but I wouldn't have given them back, that's very rude.

I bought some "professional" ones and they look just like yours! (Yours might even be better but don't tell my son that!!) I paid £25 for my set. You should sell them!! I stuck mine on the wall with those command straps and they haven't budged.

It was a lovely present your friend is a nob.

Your pic looks stunning.

I feel a strong sense of jealousy coming off your "friend" from the things she's said and done. Definitely designed to cause you hurt and I can't see why except pure nastiness.

Can't think why she'd prefer a shop-bought set to being able to tell her child about how her dear friend made a set with love especially for him/her.

She really doesn't deserve you.

V rude. Is she normally like that? I'd be distancing myself.

The letter is lovely but that's not the point. Don't doubt yourself.

April sorry for your loss xx

Thank you all very much. She isn't normally rude, no, but does love to tell me how I should dress my children/what I should wear, etc.

I think you're right about the friendship, but she's in my baby group, so I'm not sure breaking it up would be great atm, she's quite popular in the group.

Your so-called friend hasn't been nice ornpolite to you at all! What a lovely gesture for you to make her the letters, of she'd have any sense and heart, she would have preferred homemade letters made with love and care to 'perfect' professional ones.

So sorry to hear about your little girl April

Your response should have been:

"Ahhhhh, I see....and I prefer hanging about with folk who aren't complete c*nts. See ya!"