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I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

502 replies

WillH · 05/07/2016 21:12

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?
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RachelLynde · 05/07/2016 22:23

Flabbergasted! She's not much of a friend OP, that's really off.

I only create for very special friends and family (handmade blankets) as its a lot of effort and I won't do it for people who don't appreciate it or recognise what it means to pour hours into something for someone.

Rest assured your work is beautiful and you are a wonderful friend, it's just a shame that this woman is not a very good friend herself!

Banana99 · 05/07/2016 22:26

100% cowbag no question

I make things for friends babies - they can't be totally perfect but that's part of the point.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 05/07/2016 22:26

Just to add to the overwhelming majority, your letters are amazing! I wish I was as talented as that. 😘

ThePortlyPinUp · 05/07/2016 22:27

Next time send her four letters, a C U N and a T should do nicely.

WillH · 05/07/2016 22:27

I'm really touched by all your compliments, thank you so much! x

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NoCapes · 05/07/2016 22:28

What a twat!
She is not your friend OP - distance yourself subtly and be careful

MadisonMontgomery · 05/07/2016 22:28

Seriously tho, make some that say cunt and give them to her for her birthday.

Notcontent · 05/07/2016 22:29

She is not only a bitch but stupid too. Don't feel hurt. The world is full of weird people.

metimeisforwimps · 05/07/2016 22:31

YANBU that is awful, I would so love a handmade gift, and all the better if it looked handmade!

AppleSetsSail · 05/07/2016 22:31

What a bitch. I really appreciate someone giving me something that I wouldn't pick myself. Such is the patchwork of a home.

NowWhat1983 · 05/07/2016 22:33

I would not have known that letter wasn't a professional job.

Let her have the mass produced crap letters she bought Grin

Gardenbirds123 · 05/07/2016 22:33

I love your letters

She sounds like a twat

WillH · 05/07/2016 22:35

This will completely out me, but really want to show you now! It's not like the first picture didn't out me anyway! I don't think she's on MN anyway.

I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?
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AShadowLurkingInTheShadows · 05/07/2016 22:37

OP do you sell them ?

lifeofdino · 05/07/2016 22:38

You could sell them on MN OP secretly gutted that they didn't spell my DC's name so that I could make an offer! , they are really good

FeelingSmurfy · 05/07/2016 22:39

Friends will generally say something you have done is good, even if it isn't

In this case it must have (or at least should have) been genuine, they could easily be sold and you would have a happy customer

I bet the little boy would rather have your superhero themed ones!

Griphook · 05/07/2016 22:39

They are
Lovely did you by the letters pre cut?

imwithspud · 05/07/2016 22:40

Yadnbu and your friend sounds like a bitch, sorry but how ungrateful of her. I would be devastated if I'd gone to the effort of making a gift for someone and they threw it back in my face! I'm not sure I'd even want to stay in touch...

Fairylea · 05/07/2016 22:40

Letters are beautiful. She is a prize twat.

I almost wish she does see this post so she knows what an ungrateful arsehole she is.

Heidi42 · 05/07/2016 22:40

What you have made are lovely but The red and blue and the USA look to them may not have been what her room decor was like and it wouldn't go?

ShouldHaveListenedInBiology · 05/07/2016 22:41

They are really great! Shame your friend is such a cowbag. This is not about your artwork and ALL about her terrible manners.

DameSquashalot · 05/07/2016 22:41

They are gorgeous. Do you sell them, or only make them for friends?

lifeofdino · 05/07/2016 22:41

I love MN...

She is not your friend OP - distance yourself subtly and be careful
versus
make some that say cunt and give them to her for her birthday

MadameJosephine · 05/07/2016 22:41

They are awesome. Your friend is a total cow! Anybody can buy a 'professional' set but a set made by a friend with love is priceless

imwithspud · 05/07/2016 22:41

The letters look absolutely fabulous by the way.

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