I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

[WillH]

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

What a kind and thoughtful gesture you made. You are wholly in the right to feel aggrieved at your treatment. It is rude and inelegant to be spoken to in the way you were. Your friend should be ashamed of her undignified behaviour. We've all been in the position of being in receipt of gifts which don't tickle our fancy for whatever reason but the majority of us are sensitive enough to sail through without offending the giver.

With any luck your friend may well recognise herself on the board.

Your skills are enviable by the way. x

How breath-takingly rude. As they say 'with friends like that......'.

She's not being very nice is she! Horrid tbh. They are lovely and you should be proud

Friend made name plaques for both my children when they were born They have been on their bedroom doors for 30 and 26 years I am considering taking them down as they have both we'll and truly left home having bought property recently .
But I will keep them in my memory box It was a lovely thing to do and I still cherish them . Another friend embroidered congratulations cards with their names on . Anything made with love for the individual has to be better than something anyone can buy commercially ?
I'd re think your friendship .

Tell us the name,so one of us can have them ,who has a child with that name...I think you are very talented ....and I wouldn't be calling the person you gave the present to a friend

Your friend is an idiot. Your letters are lovely. I'd much prefer a homemade gift than a bought version. I had a similar thing though I made a knitted snowman for a child as part of a Christmas present. They'd seen one I'd made before and child has played with it. They opened it, said oh, when they left they took the shop bought present and left the snowman.

That's very rude!
They're stunning, I think you should consider selling them!!

That's not a real friend.

Well, you get READ from those so you could put that up over your favourite armchair.

I am hoping that when your 'friend' has her next child she can't afford so-called professional ones, and asks you, but you of course will be far too busy filling orders to bother with her request. You could give her the originals back and suggest she call her child Dean.

Your friend behaved horribly, so ungrateful and rude. Your letters are lovely but even if they weren't quite to your friends taste she should have appreciated the thought and effort you put in a whole lot more.

She has just had a baby. Her mind will be in a million places at once.

It will be something as simple as she thought the paint you used might be toxic.

Don't be too upset.

Save them until the child's 16th or 18th birthday and give them back.

It will become a family legend!

The baby isn't even born yet? And what's that about toxic paint? The child won't actually be teething on the wall decorations (and it's the same paint that actually covering the walls, so it can't be that flaming toxic).

Keep your distance from this woman. People who put you down are verging on being coercive control freaks.

She is awful, rude and ungrateful, that would put a dampner on the friendship, I would see her in a different light. They are fantastic, I would be so happy to receive them.

Even though I had just had babies, I like to think I was never rude, that is not an excuse for rudeness.

I think that letter is amazing - any of us would be very lucky to get something like that!

But even if they were wonky and blotchy (as mine would be if I'd done that), if a friend makes you a homemade present, you say thank you very much and you smile and you accept it. You might put it in a drawer if it isn't to your taste, but you don't hand it back.

You are kind, and your friend is horrifyingly rude.

Who needs enemies!!! I would love a friend to do that for me.

She is a friend of 10 months?! Seriously get rid, if she's like this after that time who knows how she'll ramp up the venom etc...

Nasty ungrateful person she is.

She's no friend. What a lovely thoughtful gift.

I almost can't believe this!!!!

I would be truly heartbroken if it were me, so no absolutely not unreasonable.

Your friend probably doesn't realise how much she's hurt you. Make her aware once the hurt has eased off.

If THEN she continues to show a superficial/materialistic/ungrateful/bitch/whatafuckingawfulfriend type of attitude THEN you have the reason to go ahead and cut the relationship off. However I would probably have cut her off the moment I left the house, cos I don't put up with that sort of nonsense.

You seem like you really put time and effort into those letters. I would probably burst out crying with happiness if my friend had done that for me. Some people have less of an emotional attachment to sentimental things..

Don't change your lovely ways because of this.

Horrible woman. You need to poo in her handbag, OP.

Yeah what archerie Annie said. Your 'friend' sounds like an utterly horrible cow.

Wow, your letter is really good. "Mean girls" springs to mind. Hmm I may be tempted to cool that friendship.

They're excellent OP. Just a thought, but maybe you could do a G as well, varnish them and put them outside in a kind of "kiddy" area in the garden?