To not want other people's children at my party?

[FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname]

I am organising a party for my birthday, I'm planning for it to be a fairly adult, boozey event held in the evening (8pm+).

Aibu to be a bit annoyed that at least 2 friends who have been invited are planning to bring their young kids, without asking me? I only found out that they were planning to do so recently when we were talking about the party and they mentioned that they would be bringing the kids! I have not invited children or 'families', just individuals.

There won't really be anything for the kids to do if they do come so they'll just be sitting around bored and potentially making a mess after I've just spent hours trying to clean up the place

Fwiw the last time a friend unexpectedly brought her kids round I ended up babysitting them inside, fetching them drinks and snacks and putting movies on TV for them while their mother sat outside in the garden chatting to her boyfriend! I really don't want a repeat of this at my birthday party

That's awful

Did they give you notice or just not show up?

Thats awful,says a lot about what type of person they are.

So sorry this happened. Maybe next year invite mumsnetters instead

Oh noooo Fed up , people are shit sometimes. So sorry they all let you down .

Omg that's bloody awful!

Fed up, it isawful and rude that no-one showed up for the party, what shits. Speaking as someone has lost most of my friends in the past year or 2, I would give up on these lot and try to make some new connections. I had a big birthday night out where everyone went home at 8pm a couple of years ago- they got fed up of the walk to the club, the queen bee kicked off and said she wasn't going to like the music anyway and insisted everyone who had planned to get a taxi with her go and get the bus, my other friend said he would walk them and come back and didn't and then last friend and her fella sodded off for her train after 1 hastily drank pint. Left me and one very embarrassed work mate to enjoy the night! Luckily she was nice enough to keep me company. I really hung on till the bitter end with these lot as they were old school friends and I felt I should keep trying. I have finally accepted that they aren't my friends and I need to make new ones and am slowly doing that. Couldn't bear to try to do anything for my birthday this year so I had a normal day with my teens and baby, none of which gave a toss about it haha. One day I will have a great party with new mates and I'm sure you will too. You don,t have to put up with being disregarded in this way.

Thats awful. Makes me glad i cancelled my party months in advance. Its sad thats all we can expect from friends!

Oh that is completely shit. I'm sorry :( ((((hug))))

Sorry no one turned up tho on thur you said you were cancelling it

Maybe they all thought you had?

No shizzle, the people with kids didn't know each other.

They gave me about 2 hrs notice.

I was going to cancel it but I still had 5/6 people coming so I thought that would be enough to still have a bit of a party. In the end they all cancelled on me.

Well, they're a bunch of arseholes you don't need in your life. I have similar issues, so feel your pain. Time to find a more like minded group of friends - maybe through a hobby group?

I've been trying to make new friends for ages but I live in a rural area where everyone knows each other and it's hard to break in. Not much to do. I go to uni but it's a very small class and I don't really get on with any of the others, plus they all live an hour from me.

I do work but again it's a very small family run business, 3 of the people invited to the party were work mates but none of them showed! Need to find some way of making new friends. Is there a friends version of online dating?

There is actually - my friend joined it. Will message her and find out what it is called

Plus try going to the gym / doing an evening class to make new friends

meet local people

Hopefully there's a group near you op

Or where are you if you don't mind outting yourself and maybe look on the local meet ups on mn

They're complete shits. I'm so sorry. You sound lovely. I'd have come without any kids and I'd have brought you a nice gift. Invite MNers next time, eh? :)

Their loss