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DS, 5, wants to marry male best friend

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pjsgalore · 01/07/2016 23:04

DS, 5, says he's in love with his best friend, and wants to marry him, and when they're older they're going to adopt children and live in a volcano... the love is fully requited by the best friend!I think it's funny and sweet, but my DH (who is actually a lovely, non-homophobe), who did find it funny, is now finding it slightly disconcerting- anyone else had a DS who ants to marry their male best friend at about this age? I've told DH lots of kids talk about marrying at this age - both my cousins (male and female) wanted to marry my brother when they were little! Not that he wouldn't accept him being gay, but I don't think it's to do with that at this age. Any thoughts appreciated!

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ErrolTheDragon · 02/07/2016 10:25

You know, I think that the way little kids use the word 'marry' suggests that to them it means to live forever with a being (as so often non-human) they feel safe and happy with. Which is rather nice, isn't it?

I'd be a bit concerned about the volcano bit though!Grin

OwlinaTree · 02/07/2016 10:28

I teach reception. I've had many proposals from my pupils!

pasturesgreen · 02/07/2016 10:32

When I was around 8, I wanted to marry my (female) best friend.

My DM, bless her, didn't bat an eyelid and just told me we could when we turned 18.

BFF and I then proceeded to quarrel and fall out spectacularly when we were 9, as kids do.

So yes, perfectly normal! Grin

IveAlreadyPaid · 02/07/2016 10:36

My dd is married to her best friend's cat. She is 15 now and still insists he is her husband. So their marriage has lasted about 7 years ago far. A lot longer than some Grin

LordoftheTits · 02/07/2016 10:50

My friend's daughter is 3 and recently decided that she would marry her mum (my friend) because she wanted a nice dress and cake.

I got married for similar reasons Grin

JacobFryesTopHatLackey · 02/07/2016 10:52

I was going to marry my granddad and move into the shed at the bottom of his garden. With a donkey and a cow. Naturally, his house would be turned into a home for cats.

Kenduskeag · 02/07/2016 11:22

My kids want to marry each other. They have it all planned - they want a house and to be the Mama and the Dada to some babies.

Kenduskeag · 02/07/2016 11:23

They're both under 6, by the way.

Be a bit weird if they were in their 20s.

iniquity · 02/07/2016 11:24

My brother who is gay, preferred girls ( as friends) when younger.

ButIbeingpoor · 02/07/2016 12:04

I wanted to marry my Dad, my DB and Cliff Richard. All at once. All living together. Dad digging in the garden and giving great hugs, Cliff singing and me and my DB playing and him letting me win because I was younger. It didn't work out quite like that though.

Damselindestress · 02/07/2016 12:17

My brother wanted to marry our mother at that age and now has no oedipal issues! It's not about sexuality because small children don't associate marriage with sex, they just think it's about living with your favourite person forever. Nothing to worry about.

Sheilasfeels · 03/07/2016 11:38

I remember me (female) and all my girl best friends holding hands and running around the primary school playground declaring that we were 'bum chums'. We had no idea what it meant except that it meant you were as close as possible. I blame someones older sibling!

coco1810 · 03/07/2016 15:24

My DD tells me she isn't going to get married but have a cat sanctuary instead. My DD is very sensible!

user1486156729 · 30/06/2017 23:04

It's charming.

GinSoakedTwitchyPony · 30/06/2017 23:06

Why have you resurrected a one year old thread, User?

ZOMBIE ALERT

ByGrabtharsHammer · 30/06/2017 23:22

So did they get married?

seventhgonickname · 30/06/2017 23:35

My dd at this age became quite worried as her male bf said they were getting married.It was a while before asked as he had said she had to.I had to explain that he had to ask her and she could say no,she never had to marry at all it depended on what she wanted
IAt that age what she wanted was to live with me forever and go shopping.She still likes shopping ,with my money.She also no longer believes that you can't kiss anyone until she's 30.if your dh is like this now he will need to toughen up for when she is a teenager.

FML13 · 30/06/2017 23:36

DD 6 said to me yesterday that she wishes her life was easy. Followed up by saying she just can't decide whether to marry a boy or a girl. Or her Dad.

Foniks · 30/06/2017 23:37

At around that age, I remember my little brother wanted to marry my little sister, the cat, and my mum (at different times)

Catminion · 30/06/2017 23:43

I have a DD who wanted to marry her best female friend at age 4. Both girls are now 18 and have long term relationships with males. I think children of that age form emotional attractions but it has nothing really to do with hormones or sexuality in the adult sense.

PerspicaciaTick · 30/06/2017 23:44
PlayingSardines · 30/06/2017 23:45

My five year old has been to several gay weddings, and now he's aware boys can marry boys or girls, he runs through the list of everyone in his class and sighs and says there are too many to just pick one and can you have another go if you don't like your first?

Definitely headed for a life of complicated polyamory.

Oh, and he once said he'd like to marry me and Elvis from Fireman Sam. I thought that was quite kinky.

Dixiestamp · 30/06/2017 23:46

Some of these posts are so cute. DS 9 is going through the, 'ew, girls' stage, although I fear it won't last much longer. DD7 has never expressed a desire to marry, but has a 'long term boyfriend'; apparently all the year 2s without a boy/girlfriend are 'single Pringles'....year 2!!

Dixiestamp · 30/06/2017 23:46

sardines- that Elvis has definitely got something about him!

allowlsthinkalot · 30/06/2017 23:49

Both my dd's want to marry their female best friends. They know it's fine to marry a male or a female.

At their age I wanted to marry my Grandad.

Your dh does sound a bit homophobic.