turned away from beauticians because I had my baby with me

[PattyO46]

I have just been turned away from a beauty salon because 'we don't allow children '. Not only do I not have childcare but my baby is so exclusively breast fed. I feel so upset, humiliated and angry. Is this a commonly accepted practice?!

I took my 3 year old to the waxing place a few months ago when childcare fell through at the eleventh hour and I was on the hook for the full cost of the waxing if I didn't show up. The therapist wasn't too happy and told me that normally children weren't allowed (I didn't know that actually, it had never occurred to me) but it's quite a posh place and she said JUST THIS ONCE. He looks, and is, extremely well behaved, not the sort to run round madly or pull things over, and I'd brought his iPad to keep him quiet in a corner of the treatment room.

All went well for about twenty minutes until she reached the "business end" of my legs. At that point, my son put down his iPad and went to stand at the end of the bed, staring right between my legs at said "business end" in utter fascination at what this woman was doing to his mummy.
There was really nothing I could do about it - it was incredibly disconcerting and even if it had been allowed I would never take him again...

Oh fuck off every telling her she is being unreasonable blah, blah. I always take my daughter with me to the beautician from when she was newborn. She only see's one client at a time and my daughter behaves while we're there. I have threading, nails, facials, waxing, never a problem.

God, I'd be well pissed off if I'd saved up, got child care for my own two rowdy toddlers, rocked up and then had to deal with crying from your baby!!!! How selfish!

No one needs to take their baby with them. Heaven forbid, if you must visit the salon, get a babysitter. Sorry. Really not following the need to have to take said baby with you, breastfed or not (what's that got to do with it? They don't feed every 5 minutes last time I did it!)

Mobile is your friend.

I feel so upset, humiliated and angry
Really? Because you were turned away from a beauty salon for goodness sake??

Entitledmum.com.

upset humiliated and angry what did they do? Shave your head and parade you round town as a warning to other mothers?

"So exclusively breastfed......" Have a chufty badge, OP.

It is very easy when you have a newborn, particularly if they are breast fed, to see them as almost part of you, and it being bizare to suggest you go somewhere without them, but there are many occasions that aren't suitable for children to be there.

Few beauty treatments that come under 'maintenance' take that long, book them for a weekend and time between feeds so that someone else can have the baby, go for an evening appointment when your DC is in bed or see if you can find a mobile beautician who can come to you and would expect your DC to be there.

😂. Words fail me...

As others have said, not a suitable place for a baby. Yabu.

A little question Patty but what is 'so exclusively breastfed'.
Is that different to just breastfed?
much!!

So a beauty salon with hot wax, and various chemicals. Why would you want to take your child there?

I think you need to take a step back and give your head a wobble.

Hang on... OP has admitted she WIBU. Back off now.

Op it isn't the place for a baby, very inconsiderate to the other people there. You felt humiliated but that's due to your own actions, it's not their problem that your child is bf. They don't allow children and yours is no exception.

op asked if it was common for babys/children not to be allowed. so i guess she did not know. maybe baby is still very little and breastfeeding alot. some babys can have a feed and be ok, for a couple of hours. some feed every half an hour. maybe thats what op meant she is breast feeding so cant leave baby. maybe op was more upset because she has a small baby and needed a bit of me time even if it meant baby being there.

op i hope you mange to sort something out like others have said maybe you could find a mobile one.

My favourite salon used to allow kids/babies - the ladies running it are largely mums themselves - but had to make the decision to not any more as kids and babies tend to not like being seen and not heard. They really tried but they were losing custom because people found the experience stressful rather than relaxing as it should be.

I've always taken my DC, but then my friend owns the salon

What's confusing oneoldmare? The baby is fed exclusively on the breast so no bottles so baby stays with the Mother.
It's hardly rocket science

I'm a beauty therapist.
Most salons don't have insurance to cover children under a certain age in treatment rooms. They are pretty dangerous places. Hot wax, electrolysis needles, chemicals, possibly lit candles.
Plus as others have said, crying babies kind of ruin the ambience. What if in the next room is someone paying for a relaxing massage and your baby starts crying?

"What's confusing oneoldmare? The baby is fed exclusively on the breast so no bottles so baby stays with the Mother.
It's hardly rocket science"

First, exclusive breastfeeding usually includes feeding expressed milk in a bottle or cup, so it doesn't necessarily mean "no bottles."

Second, even if you don't use bottles (my baby wouldn't drink from a bottle, and cupfeeding took a while to get the hang of), you can still avoid dragging a baby to a beauty salon.

I used to have my partner or a friend come with me, I would feed the baby, then the partner or friend would take the baby to a park. If the baby had needed a feed then they could ring me and I would pop outside and meet them in front of the hairdressers'.

In fact, this never happened. Contrary to what the LLL etc. people will claim, no, most BF babies do not have to permanently glued to the boob; once BFing is established after a few weeks, they usually are quite happy to go a couple of hours without a feed, esp if they are out and about and there are things around them that are keeping their attention.

I am always surprised by how many venues Mumsnetters want to exclude babes in arms from. It makes me wonder how hospitable the Britain outside of Mumsnet must be to them.

Is Britain really that child unfriendly?

I got told off after a hair cut for bringing my small baby to my appointment.

My friend came with me and when he cried she took him out, but the receptionist still wanted me to know I really shouldn't have taken him. In fact she told me to tell my friend not to bring her baby again, and was really rude about it, shame it was my baby and sleep deprivation makes me a bit bolshie...

She said it disrupts the upstairs beauty salon, but the sound of hairdryers was ok ?!

Anyway it was a one off and do think beauty salon is even more of a child free zone, due to people wanting to chill out and often escape their own screaming darlings.

My DSs know everything about waxing because I have taken them with me dozens (wait far more) of times.
Never did it occur to me that I was doing something wrong. They used to love it because the beauticians would give them lollies.

A newborn baby in a mother's arms is scarcely noticeable unless it cries. It's not running around picking up pins and sticking it's fingers in wax.

And a mother and a breastfed baby are a biological unit. Their bodies and hormones are in synch and it's harder to separate them.

Sync, doh!