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AIBU?

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turned away from beauticians because I had my baby with me

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PattyO46 · 27/06/2016 15:03

I have just been turned away from a beauty salon because 'we don't allow children '. Not only do I not have childcare but my baby is so exclusively breast fed. I feel so upset, humiliated and angry. Is this a commonly accepted practice?!

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PUGaLUGS · 27/06/2016 17:24

I would not want to go to a beauty salon for any treatments when there are babies/children around. I go for peace and quiet.

AdultingIsNotWhatIExpected · 27/06/2016 17:30

Exactly PUG, if I snatched a childfree hour to myself and deliberately went somewhere "grown up" I would not be impressed if it sounded like a soft play

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PattyO46 · 27/06/2016 17:51

Well, it seems that I am being unreasonable. Thank you for your comments.

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FeckinCrutches · 27/06/2016 17:54

Damn. I always prefer it when they argue.

shutupandshop · 27/06/2016 17:56

Why do you neeeeeed to take baby? Are you a single parent with no help? I have 4 dcs, over the last 14 years theres probably twice ok three times I've had hair do e etc with one of them with me.

Today was one time, i went for a spirts massage at masseurs home. I checked with her first. Dd is 7. never again

BackforGood · 27/06/2016 18:21

Brilliant Hodoooooor

Fair play to OP, who, after a very entitled first post was big enough to come back and agree she was being completely unreasonable even though this isn't AIBU.

ItsyBitsyBikini · 27/06/2016 19:49

ginger glad I made you laugh but I'm sorry to say I have no idea why! Maybe I wrote it wrong but I wouldn't take baby into a salon although tbh the noise wouldn't bother him (we were at a pub near an airport last week and planes were coming into land and he didn't even flinch at the noise). Ds is only 2 weeks old though so I can wait for my hair appointment

ChocChocPorridge · 27/06/2016 19:50

I don't think I'd take a baby for a haircut (or whatever) - what if they kicked off mid-treatment?! Imagine how you might be fleeing the salon!

I've had a smear test and dental work with babies/kids in tow - never had an issue - not everyone has childcare and medical care needs to be done.

As to not appropriate during a smear - the babies are intimately acquainted with the area in question, and it's not like their relaxing or take a long time, so what difference is a baby (or, once a 3 year old on an ipad) really going to make?

Gileswithachainsaw · 27/06/2016 19:55

Is this going to be another " I wasn't allowed to breastfeed" thread.

Not a suitable place to take a baby be it a formula, breast, or unicorn tears fed one.

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IonaMumsnet · 27/06/2016 20:44

Hi OP. It looks like you posted in Parent Port by accident. We'll move this over to AIBU for you now.

springwaters · 27/06/2016 20:54

following on from dental comment above

I had my wisdom teeth removed at at teaching hospital whilst breastfeeding. with 4 student watching, the professor told me that it would feature in his memoirs- sadly 20 years later he has yet to publish.

DustyBustle · 27/06/2016 20:55

As others have said, fumes, other dangers, pissing other clients off who are there for a bit of 'me time' away from their own kids.

Think about it. It's no place for a DM sad face baby.

Forevertiredzzzzzz · 27/06/2016 20:58

For most people it's a real luxury so if I had shelled out for a back massage or something I'd be a bit peed off to have the relaxation ruined with a crying baby and I quite like babies ! I don't think you should take small kids to beauty salons.

YorkieDorkie · 27/06/2016 21:03

Beauty therapist here... YABU.

I had my baby during my training and wasn't allowed to bring my baby into the college salon to see everyone due to H&S and chemicals.
From a salon point of view it is beauty THERAPY. Not really fair of you to bring a potential disruption to a place of calm and relaxation. I'm now running a home salon and would happily have my clients bring their babies as I have mine! You need to find someone like me where's it's 1:1 with your therapist

BackforGood · 27/06/2016 21:09

IonaMumsnet - if you move the thread, that makes my comment about this not being in AIBU look bonkers

mumgointhroughtorture · 27/06/2016 21:15

I've never known any turn customers away but last time I was at the hairdressers it was more like a nursery. One woman bought a preschooler and a little older child . There was mcdonalds all over the place , I nearly sat on an ipad , they dropped the Mums phone and then lost it , the were knocking off all the bottles , running around screaming and arguing ... but because the woman was a regular I suspect they put up with it but it was a nightmare and I couldn't understand why the Mum couldn't have waited a few days til the kids were back at school coz we pay our money sometimes to get away for an hour to get away from our own kids fighting without walking into another war zone in the hairdressers .

Sootica · 27/06/2016 21:18

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BennyTheBall · 27/06/2016 21:18

Ridiculous.

BlueJug · 27/06/2016 21:21

I took DD - 12 weeks - when I went for a haircut. I so needed a cut and hoped she'd sleep through. Ten minutes in and she started to scream. It was dreadful! I couldn't leave with half-cut hair, I was in a state, the other people in the salon were either tutting to trying to help or trying to ignore it - but I felt so bad. I tried to breast feed while the guy was cutting because that always calmed DD but she could feel my stress and the lights and smells upset her. she screamed more, I couldn't sit up straight or keep still with a screaming baby on my lap. I begged the guy to finish as quickly as he could, not bother with the drying and just let me escape.

It was awful. I had the worst haircut I have ever had, it cost a fortune. I was so embarrassed. I never did that again.

Quiero · 27/06/2016 21:22

Will this end in one of those ranting posts on FB because you weren't allowed to breastfeed while getting a vajazzle?

LittleWingSoul · 27/06/2016 21:30

Haha oh dear!

I very recently took DS7 with me when I went to get a leg and bikini wax, know the staff well as have been going for years so left her in the waiting room (supervised!) with a magazine while they sorted me out.

Of course she walked in at the most inopportune moment to ask me something about the magazine and loudly asked why I was naked from the waist down...

And then again to the full waiting room as I paid. The receptionist laughed and said "I'll leave you to deal with answering that one...!"

She hasn't mentioned it since so don't think it has scarred her for life but never again !

beautygal29 · 27/06/2016 21:33

I'm a beauty therapist and think there could be a number of reason why they did this. Health and safety, treatment rooms are usually small and this could have made it unworkable. They could have said no for the comfort of the other guests imagine trying to have a massage with a screaming baby? Their insurance could also be a reason or its just their policy. On the one hand I would have checked when booking that said I don't think they handled it sensitively either. I can understand why your upset it is hard bfing round the clock but you need to remember the rest of the world isn't and ultimately they don't care. Breathe and reboot mama and find a better salon/therapist that is sympathetic to your newborn needs. xxx

WaitrosePigeon · 27/06/2016 21:33

I am a beauty therapist/makeup artist but I have my own room at home and I'm mobile so I don't mind mums with babies.

All I can think of is maybe insurance purposes, a salon may not cover babies/children. However in all salons I've been in they have been happy to have kids/babies.

It's money loss at the end of the day, their loss.

Cubtrouble · 27/06/2016 21:35

I don't want a kid in my beauticians. I go there for a rest.
Well no actually I don't go there because I have two kids, but if I did I wouldn't want your kid there.

Think about other people
Think about insurance, pots of hot wax, chemicals, nail varnish, hairy armpits, kids just don't mix well
Think about other people

HandsomeGroomGiveHerRoom · 27/06/2016 21:36

Rosa Parks you ain't - I sooooooo need this on a t-shirt.

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