I've lost it last night with H. Am I in the wrong?

[Tatiana11235]

Hi, posting here because I'd like your harshest verdicts.
I got woken up at 2am this morning by my drunk H wailing songs at the top of his voice. He was singing about how proud he was that we're out of EU.
After listening to him for 15mins I went and asked if he could stop as I really would like to get back to sleep. He said it's his 4th July and he's being happy. As it is usually pointless arguing with him I went back to bed.
He was still at it at 3am, shouting and singing. I am ashamed to admit I lost it then I told him he's a complete dick for making so much noise and keeping me awake. May I also point out we live in a block of flats so no doubt the neighbouring flats had the pleasure of listening to his performance too.
Well, shit hit the fans then. He proceeded to tell me he's celebrating this historically important event and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from. We've been together 10 years he wouldn't have it that it's not the fact that he's celebrating that's pissing me off but the fact that he's keeping me awake and half the building too.
Was IBU to be pissed off and ask him to shut the fuck up? Or is it reasonable to be make so much noise given the situation?

Oh Tatiana he sounds just like my ex. I used to wake up at all hours hearing him singing maybe because he's football team won 5 or more hours beforehand, or because they lost so he was depressed lol! Once I came down at four in the morning to him changing the living room furniture around. We were together 10 years and the first five was great and we had our ds then the drinking started, I hung in there for a long time but at the end of the day he wasn't going to change he was what he was now, a shame but I had to think of our ds.
Some of the things he'd do and say when he'd been drinking were vile, and then when he was sober he would stand by them so I couldn't blame it on the drink. Sometimes you just have to walk away, pick yourself and your child up and build a new life, trust me op you won't regret it, it's the best thing I ever done X

YANBU That is horrible to show so much disregard for not only you but everyone round him. Also if I wear you I would kick him to the curb for that comment, it shows what he really thinks of you.

YANBU That is horrible to show so much disregard for not only you but everyone round him. Also if I wear you I would kick him to the curb for that comment, it shows what he really thinks of you.

Queenie, that's totally what it's like.

Now he's just sitting here chatting as if nothing has happened I am making my best effort to ignore him and keep conversation to minimum.

YANBU. Unless you stay. Singing at any time after bedtime is bad manners at the least and inconsiderate at best. Your neighbours should report him to the police. He is not only selfish and offensive, it would appear unfortunately that he doesn't love you. He definitely does not deserve you. Do not pass go. Do not visit a counsellor. Appointment with solicitor stat.

Tatiana I just looked at him in shock and said he was the biggest dickhead I'd ever met and as he knew about my past he knew I had known quite a few. It's hard because when it's good it's really good and gives me hope and when it's crap i just think 'what the fuck?!' Is leaving an option for you?

tatiana, do your grieving and planning in private and try to remain unemotional and unengaged with him.

Be aware that this man might get nasty as he holds you in contempt. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. Get some legal advice and start planning financially asap.