I've lost it last night with H. Am I in the wrong?

[Tatiana11235]

Hi, posting here because I'd like your harshest verdicts.
I got woken up at 2am this morning by my drunk H wailing songs at the top of his voice. He was singing about how proud he was that we're out of EU.
After listening to him for 15mins I went and asked if he could stop as I really would like to get back to sleep. He said it's his 4th July and he's being happy. As it is usually pointless arguing with him I went back to bed.
He was still at it at 3am, shouting and singing. I am ashamed to admit I lost it then I told him he's a complete dick for making so much noise and keeping me awake. May I also point out we live in a block of flats so no doubt the neighbouring flats had the pleasure of listening to his performance too.
Well, shit hit the fans then. He proceeded to tell me he's celebrating this historically important event and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from. We've been together 10 years he wouldn't have it that it's not the fact that he's celebrating that's pissing me off but the fact that he's keeping me awake and half the building too.
Was IBU to be pissed off and ask him to shut the fuck up? Or is it reasonable to be make so much noise given the situation?

Wait til he's out. Change the locks. You are home.

As with many commentators I hate to tell you, but you married a racist twat. What you do with that knowledge is up to you

YANBU. He was being an inconsiderate, selfish dick. If he felt the need to celebrate, the time to do that was before he came home, then he should have STFU. Maybe all husbands are assholes when they're drunk. I honestly can't stand mine when he's pissed and would much rather he stayed away for the night rather than come home and annoy me.

He is not a twat.. Twats are useful.
Tell him to do one.

YANBU. He's a tit. An inconsiderate, xenophobic tit by the sounds of it.
I'd wait 'til he goes out, change the locks, and then sing my own little song about my independence day if I were you!

he is the one disrespecting the English and England by using this country as an excuse/justification to be a nasty inconsiderate little shit!

Christ, what an asshole.

Leave.
Hateful politics change people, and seems in his case for the worse.
YANBU.

I am very concerned that you even feel the need to ask this question. Of course yanbu and you should LTB. How could you stay with someone who feels this way about you?

Tatiana firstly massive hugs. Secondly, what are you going to do? Sometimes I wonder if husbands / people know how hurtful words are. I'm Muslim, my husband is Catholic. I gave up everything to be with him. Once during an argument he said if I left him he'd tell everyone I was a terrorist . I don't think he would but, obviously, it's always been at the back of mind that he said it.

And you're still with the aggressive xenophobic racist? Really?? Is that the sort of person you want in your child's/children's life???

I'm ashamed of his actions and beliefs on behalf of fathers everywhere.

We're not all like that (despite what Radio 4's Women's Hour would have you believe!)...so I hope you can find a genuinely good man to look after you and bring up your little one(s) in a caring, compassionate, empathetic, tolerant, and unequivocally loving manner.

Run for the hills

I'm so sorry this has happened but at least now you know his true feelings towards you. I wonder if deep down he holds his daughter in such contempt too seeing as she is 'only' half English. Hope you have lots of support around you.

Tatiana - is he on any prescription meds that could explain a personality change? Assuming not, he's vile and you need to get rid. If he behaves like that when drunk, he should stop getting drunk.

I voted out and am glad we're leaving the EU, but I wouldn't speak to/think about European friends/neighbours/strangers in that way never mind my spouse.

When a man tells you who is he is, believe him.

He's told you that he's a racist yobbo who has no respect for you.

YANBU

Gassy, that's terrible! What did you do?

Melliphant, no prescription drugs or any other valid reasons. Just the sheer amount of non-English people he works with. He's in catering.

I cannot move past what he said. I am looking forward to divorcing him. And it's not just that, there are plenty of other offences but this one is the deal breaker.

ArchibaldsDaddy, I have no intention of ever getting involved again but thank you for your kind wishes

Wow he sounds a right catch, lucky you

That's horrible, no one should be treated like that x

Toodles, what a very strange post. Why on earth would you post to say you don't care?! Are you her OH?!

Toodles you sound insane

But how nice of you to take the time to comment despite not caring Toodles. We'd have been lost without your valuable insight - thank God you intervened!

Me thinks Toodles voted to leave, has now realised it actually MEANT leave, is regretting said decision, and is being aggressively defensive of anything linked to voting leave in an attempt to feel better.

Or they're just acting like a cunt.

Tatiana - I hope you have good friends to support you and DD while you take the big step of ending your marriage. 💐