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I've lost it last night with H. Am I in the wrong?

182 replies

Tatiana11235 · 25/06/2016 10:02

Hi, posting here because I'd like your harshest verdicts.
I got woken up at 2am this morning by my drunk H wailing songs at the top of his voice. He was singing about how proud he was that we're out of EU.
After listening to him for 15mins I went and asked if he could stop as I really would like to get back to sleep. He said it's his 4th July and he's being happy. As it is usually pointless arguing with him I went back to bed.
He was still at it at 3am, shouting and singing. I am ashamed to admit I lost it then Blush I told him he's a complete dick for making so much noise and keeping me awake. May I also point out we live in a block of flats so no doubt the neighbouring flats had the pleasure of listening to his performance too.
Well, shit hit the fans then. He proceeded to tell me he's celebrating this historically important event and if I, the economic immigrant, don't like it here I should piss of back to were I came from. We've been together 10 years Sad he wouldn't have it that it's not the fact that he's celebrating that's pissing me off but the fact that he's keeping me awake and half the building too.
Was IBU to be pissed off and ask him to shut the fuck up? Or is it reasonable to be make so much noise given the situation?

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ThoraGruntwhistle · 25/06/2016 10:34

I would be alarmed if you'd want anything further to do with him now his real opinion of you has come out.

Laiste · 25/06/2016 10:34

It's almost unbelievable how eloquent he is when that drunk.

Nanunanu · 25/06/2016 10:34

Your husband told you to piss off where you came from? Your husband?

Wtaf?

I don't care how drunk or otherwise happy he was. What a knob.

RhiWrites · 25/06/2016 10:38

"Back to where you came from"?! I'm really sorry but that would be deal breaker for me.

MadameJosephine · 25/06/2016 10:38

Never mind asking him to shut the fuck up, I'd be telling him to fuck the fuck off! Arsehole!

MrsDeathOfRats · 25/06/2016 10:38

He genuinely called you an immigrant and told you to poss off back where you came from?

You are being. Unreasonable for staying in a relationship with him. He despises you.
What a cunt

Hissy · 25/06/2016 10:38

Fuck the leave/remain thing- bollocks to the singing and general idiocy. That's all irrelevant.

The fuck off where you came from comment? That is a game over right there.

I'm so sorry. You can't stay with a man who said that to you. Not now, not ever.

Being drunk only loosened his tongue, it didn't put words in his head

IcyTeaAndScoopyScoopyDogDog · 25/06/2016 10:39

Are you married to Nigel Farage?

Tatiana11235 · 25/06/2016 10:43

Unfortunately he did say it to me. That I disrespected him as an Englishman and his country by asking him to stop his stupid singing. That if I want to moan about it I should piss off.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Makes me feel less alone Flowers

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Pearlman · 25/06/2016 10:45

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AnyFucker · 25/06/2016 10:45

You are alone in your marriage, that is evident

Mrskeats · 25/06/2016 10:48

There are no words for this really
It's a combination of all the things I hate
Oh and yanbu

cappy123 · 25/06/2016 10:49

Wow. Hugs to you Flowers

NatalieRushman · 25/06/2016 10:50

Personally I think that would seriously be grounds to LTB

LagunaBubbles · 25/06/2016 10:51

I don't get it, he's never expressed anything like that to you in 10 years, and then this? Some things are simply unforgivable.

PlatoTheGreat · 25/06/2016 10:52

He was drunk and behave like a twat drunk.

I would very Serioulsy reconsider things on his comment that 'if YOU don't like it, you can leave'.
I say that as an EU citizen too. If DH was doing that, I would boot him out.

With a very pragmatic hat on, I would apply for British citizenship ASAP and keep a very very close eye on him. He doesn't respect you in any shape or form :(

storybrooke · 25/06/2016 10:55

Yabu. My dh found a dead friend yesterday and really puts things into perspective. Let him be happy whilst he has the chance.

RedToothBrush · 25/06/2016 10:56

Disrespected as an Englishman?

I take it you will be packing his bags and asking him to find out how it feels to be an economic migrant.

YANBU.

ChocChocPorridge · 25/06/2016 10:56

What a bastard.

Yes, if you've been in the UK 10 years and you want to stay, you need to get working on permanent residency (unfortunately I'm guessing that's a bit swamped right now)

I'm in the opposite situation (Brit abroad) and I'm working out where I can live for the 5ish years required to get an EU passport!

Honestly, even lots of leave voters wouldn't be so cruel. He's not worth sticking around for

PurpleRainDiamondsandPearls · 25/06/2016 10:59

He's a selfish dick. Leave the bastard. Do you have kids?

50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 25/06/2016 11:01

You have been told in no uncertain terms what he thinks . Can you really bring yourself to stay in a relationship with such a person? Surely that moment will haunt you forever?
You have my first ever LTB.

Tatiana11235 · 25/06/2016 11:02

Storybrooke, I am sorry for your loss.

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couldntlovethebearmore · 25/06/2016 11:03

What a stupid inadequate little cunt he is

storybrooke · 25/06/2016 11:04

Thanks tatianaSad

Pearlman · 25/06/2016 11:06

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