..to LTB because he voted Out

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I feel huge shame. And anger. Is it sufficient grounds for a trial separation at least? Or am I being a teeny weeny bit unreasonable?

Yanbu
Shared values are a huge indicator of a relationship's chances of lasting.
I couldn't be happy with someone who disagreed with me on something so fundamental

Yes. 'We want our country back' 'make Britain great again' etc - they just mean 'we don't like foreigners' as far as I'm concerned.
There are logical arguments for leaving. I don't believe they outweigh the arguments for staying but they do exist. It seems lots of voters didn't even know those reasons though - they were just voting based on racist platitudes. Ugh.

Please do. He deserves better.

Hmmm

If you can't see eye to eye then leave him. People voted with their emotions rather than on facts. I see why you are upset.

I'm the only leftie in the family and enjoy our normal political debates. And in the enteral election if their party wins I'm fine about it.
But today I really have been angry about the whole thing, I think it's fear as much as anything fear of the unknown and it's consequences. But also angry at how the people aroun me including my very young Dd (6) who heard it from ExDp were spurting sound bites and propaganda opposed to actual facts.

Thankfully my DH and almost everyone I know were Remainers, but my best friend voted Leave.
She is a lovely person and friend.

I'm torn!

Can't believe people are seriously advocating leaving marriages over this. Hope there are no dc involved.

I'm cross at my DH who voted out pretty much on an eeny meeny miney mo basis. Until a couple of days ago he claimed to be undecided and now says he voted out because everyone else (other than me and my family) he knows were voting out he can't name a single actual reason to vote out and has essentially negated my vote which was heartfelt and considered. He still doesn't see it as that big a deal and thinks our lives will be no different. So why vote out then and cancel my vote?

hope I have four. Am particularly cross about their lack of future.

As stated up thread I will not LTB. Just very very very cross with his thoughtlessness at the mo.

I do 'ge't being angry at a vote which wasn't considered but most leave voters believe it will be better for your children in the long run.
I am not convinced that all remain voters carefully considered all the issues more that leave ones - I think people are scared of change and maintaining the status quo felt safer. If in doubt do nothing.

Yanu LTB

I hate seeing what the scottish referendum did to Scotland. I'm a southerner but loads of my family came from Scotland and I hated the idea of losing them.

I hate too what our referendum did to the uk. Even before the result.
I want MY country back.

Back from people who can't see lies when they are staring them in the face, people who think it'll be a laugh to stir things up, people who won't even fucking live long enough to see the resolution to the mess his caused. Especially when their own rights and needs are triple fucking locked.

We're fighting to do the right thing by those older than us, they don't give a flying fuck about our kids.

they don't give a flying fuck about our kids.

Are you saying older people don't care about the younger generation? That's a serious allegation. What age are you talking about? People with adult children? Grandparents? Great-grandparents?

I'm completely with you OP. DH voted out, because it will be better in the long run apparently. Never mind the immediate future then.

I know people say that no one likes change, but if it was a business, there would be a plan of some sort, a clear set of priorities and strong leadership. I haven't seen any of that with the leave campaign.

My DH's vote confirms everything I know about him; he's a risk taker and doesn't believe it has an impact on his family. But that's another story.

YANBU

I don't know anyone who voted to leave because it would be a laugh to stir things up. Everyone I know has agonised over this! I also find it ridiculous to suggest that older people don't care about the kids - those older people are parents and grandparents to the younger generation.

Are you absolutely sure that you aren't just using this as an excuse? That you've wanted to separate for a while, and now this is the perfect opportunity?

Lucky you! 2 people gone from my life for, one, saying that I as a parent was mad to vote to make my dc have to compete with millions of others, the other said that it was a fascinating result and that he'd always wanted to see a revolution. For. Fucks. Sake. I'm not even kidding you.

The majority of out voters started with the over 50's, the over 65s overwhelmingly so.

If I can inform myself enough to make space for reform in the right way by not shutting off the free movement I've enjoyed since 1992, so that my dc can choose where life is good for them, or where our friends live and work, then why can't the older generation?

They might not even see the lack of improvement they think that shutting our island down will bring. they've been fed a pack of lies and ignored all common sense. they've bought into the fact that people come here taking our jobs AND our benefits AND our houses... THATS IMPOSSIBLE! they've taken a good country and taken it back to the 70s. Not to the future, to the past.

OP - if DH wears Hackett polo shirts & sunglasses on his head then definitely LTB.

He should LTB for your bad judgement.

My husband voted out. I voted in. He has long held the belief that the UK should come out of the EU.

I'm quite downhearted about the result. My mum died in April and we were in the process of making plans to move from the South East to Scotland for me to be closer to friends and family - but, with things looking increasingly uncertain with the housing market (experts predicting 20% fall in house prices), I don't really think now is a great time to make a major purchase. I'm also worried about my husband's pension - also predicted to be decimated.

He looked sort of crestfallen when I pointed this out to him after the result was declared. I don't think he voted with our and our 7 month old daughter's best interests at heart, but instead opted to put a political ideology before our family unit. Again, I wouldn't mind, but he always speaks with vitriol about his grandfather who wouldn't let his dad go to a grammar school because of his political beliefs. I sort of feel he's jeopardised our future by throwing us all in to the unknown.

I'm struggling very badly with the grief of losing my mum and had been looking forward to going home, but now that Scotland looks likely to hold a second referendum on independence (and I think this time it will be a yes vote), everything feels very unstable.

It isn't wrong to vote with political ideology in mind, to do what you genuinely believe is for the good of the whole. I do not believe that the EU works for the good of the whole.
I don't get the obsession with freedom of movement. The majority of Brits don't routinely go off to work in Poland. It is only good if the country you are going to pays more money than the one you left or if you want to manufacture cheap goods abroad - maybe I am missing something but none of that seems to be a massive benefit. If it ended, I don't see it as meaning our kids could never work abroad, only that they will need a visa and a definite job to go to. Brits still work in places like the USA and still go on holiday oufside the EU.

I can't believe all tho rookie who voted to leave but didn't acually want to leave. Dick heads.

Rookie! People!

I know people who will lose their jobs over this. I would be very upset if my DP voted to leave.

Ok - this post is to all the women whose partners and DHs voted Out ....... how long should we punish rhem for?

Oh ffs. If anyone is willing to throw a perfectly happy marriage away over a difference of opinion then it can't be much of a marriage in the first place. I didn't realise marrying someone meant they had to agree with everything you believe.

The country has gone fucking crazy.