..to LTB because he voted Out

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I feel huge shame. And anger. Is it sufficient grounds for a trial separation at least? Or am I being a teeny weeny bit unreasonable?

I know how you feel. My husband voted out too. I voted in because I'm pretty sure it is going to affect the terms and conditions of my job (and pay) and if you combine that with interest rates going up I don't know how we are going to survive. I'm devastated that he voted something that may actually harm me. I would never have voted for something that would harm his business. Last year his business nearly went bump and I scrimped and saved to work out what we'd do to survive on my salary. I just feel like he's not done it for me, and for the first time in 11 years I can't look at him or speak to him today.

Why leave when you can stay and make his life a misery . Seems like a lot of men voted out but didn't expect it to actually happen. We can teach these bastards a lesson, one day at a time.

Seems like a lot of men voted out but didn't expect it to actually happen. We can teach these bastards a lesson, one day at a time.

I don't know how these people who didn't think their vote wouldn't count or didn't expect it to happen in the real world. No wonder people can't accept consequences for their actions any more.

I agree, one day at a fucking time.

I actually think the 'believing' part is a sad indictment of our current democratic system. Years and years of voters thinking that their vote didn't matter so when it actually did....

Doesn't stop me being bloody angry with him though.

I don't have a problem someone making a choice because it's what they believe.

But when they are making a decision that they have not thought through, or didn't think would make any difference and now either feel regret (ffs) or think it's fascinating

Or have ffing texted me to ffing crow that thanks to them no more freedom of movement for our kids, etc etc etc. I seriously can't look myself in the face if I condone this by keeping these people in my life.

Too angry.

I would lose respect, which kills a relationship stone dead.

Why did they all think their vote didn't matter? Seriously, it always matters.

But it doesn't lumpy Only few swing voters in swing constituencies make the decision in a general election.

This was different but people didn't get it

But it doesn't always matter in the same way - if you are in a safe seat with a big majority for a party you don't support, then there is not much point in voting in an ordinary general election. Here, however, every vote had equal significance and so all the protest votes actually affected the outcome, whereas in a usual election they are often a fairly safe and irrelevant way of demonstrating dissatisfaction.

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It beggars belief lumpy. My DH also voted out and has confessed he was shocked this morning. Spent the evening trying to justify why he voted out - no idea why I haven't asked him to explain.

He also didn't think that the result would be to leave, even though he voted that way. There are no words.

This thread is frightening.

One poster said she couldn't look at her husband today.
Her vote and his was all based on what was best for them.
What about the bigger picture? Instead of voting for your own personal circumstances, what about voting for what was for the best for the UK as a whole?

I don't think my husband voted out thinking it wouldn't happen, but he (and a lot of other people) seems to think it won't make much difference to the way we live and I'm over reacting about my job worries and interest rates. My dad voted out too. I've asked both of them to give me some sensible reasons why they did and they're vague "think it's best for the country" or "want Britain to be great again" etc but can't tell me how or why it will be.

Yep run upstairs and pack your bags, then tun out in to the street wailing and gnashing your teeth

On the positive side, this is also probably the only time I've prayed for him to be right in an arguement!

I'm mounting my own personal protest. Have downed parenting / catering tools and am mainlining wine and crisps. DH is worried should have thought of that before he voted

Way to go husbands. Mine did the same. And so did a million other voters who said "my individual vote won't count."

There are going to be a lot of single ladies out there soon. But please, before you LTB, will you get OUT tattoed on their foreheads so that we don't just swap the bastards?

Oblob of course I looked at the bigger picture too. I don't think job losses are great for the country!! I've lived through negative equity for a decade and hard times before.

Today has made me nostalgic for my wonderful granny who believed discussing such things was utterly vulgar and in marriage, one should keep the mystique of things like politics, religion and finance.

My DH and I voted differently.

I totally respect his decision as a voting adult to make any choice he wants to and it's mutual.

I think after the displays I've seen today, we should all reconsider the old fashioned idea of keeping our choices private.

I've been married to my husband for twenty years despite having opposing political views, it just lends itself to some interesting discussions around the dinner table.
I think you should respect his choice as he should respect yours, he is an adult with a mind of his own.

Instead of blaming your husband, maybe blame the governments who have consistently ignored people's genuine concerns, in order to satisfy their own agendas. Blame the politicians who have used the EU as their own personal pension fund and grown richer while the population here has grown visibly poorer.
Blame the MPs who ripped us all off with their bloated expenses for the fact that no one trusts politicians (as a group) anymore and therefore are disillusioned with politics.

Failure to listen is why you have protest votes. This isn't on your husband, it is on every corrupt, lying politician on the gravy train at our expense.

I think there are some political differences and disagreements that are perfectly tenable in a relationship and some (different for everyone) that are deal breakers. For me, I once ended a relationship because I found out the other person was in favour of the death penalty.

And protest voting in a referendum, particularly such a critical and far-reaching one, is a bloody silly thing to do. If someone I loved had done that I would be immeasurably angry with them - even if their protest had gone my preferred way. It's irresponsible when you are playing fast and loose with people's lives.

Bf and I voted differently, he's now refusing to see me, I'm wondering how many relationships this referendum has destroyed.

I think genuinely some of us are finding it hard to understand the emotions behind the Leave vote. I saw a man on TV tonight saying "I just want Britain to be Britain again". Now I just don't understands what that means - I don't want to think its racist but I really don't see what EU regulations (even if not perfect) ever stopped being Britain being Britain.

Whereas if someone says " I voted Leave because I thought there would be further difficulties in the Eurozone which would damage us" I might disagree with that but it would seem a perfectly understandable point of view.

I'd absolutely hate it if my husband voted out and it'd probably get ages to get back on track in the relationship. However, your husband is entitled to his own views and a vote in a fair democratic referendum.

Or take it out on David Cameron - he promised a referendum to win votes and then everything went wrong.