to have gotten matching head tattoos with DH?

[TheOliveTree547]

DH and I, are definitely on the quirky side. We both got tattoos on our heads. Very similar, but mine is the female version and his is the male version. My mum never knew I was getting it done, tbh at 29 I wouldn't have said I needed her approval. I have my MIL blaming me and claiming that I have influenced her son into it. Friends claim that it looks ridiculous! All I want to know is WIBU? Surely as family and friends you don't have to just be damn right spiteful about a choice I have made, I mean it isn't illegal/hurting anyone. Grrr.

I didn't ask for opinions on my ears, but nevermind nope, definitely not for the attention. It's because I like it. You know the one who is getting it done. Me! Not fussed if you 'don't get it as we aren't in a tribe'.

Regarding if we break up, I won't remove the tattoo, no. He will forever be my daughter's father and I will forever respect him for that. So to be honest, that tattoo will still mean a lot to me.

I can't get over how many of you are saying about how you wouldn't do it incase you broke up. You surely must love your partner that much then? As I don't understand how you can sit there thinking about how one day you might break up? Surely you don't!!!?? I don't ever look at him and think we may break up. I think that's strange. Should you not have kids then? Strange.

Should we not go out in a car, incase we crash? I really am not understanding it! I think it's great how we are all different. The only thing I feel bad about is my DD as I'd hate for her to think she has to be like mummy and daddy, you know? Oh well, she knows she can be whoever the fuck she wants

I'm not upset by my MIL, she's just annoying. She goes on and on and on, it gets tedious. Like, you go back to plumping your cushions every 5 mins and sipping at your tea.

I cant imagine an old person looking nice with their earlobe hanging down like a piece of string.

Why does anyone have to look nice?

Meh. Everybody has tattoos these days. Can't get very worked up over them.

That's not good quality work though. Personally if they were mine I'd be looking at getting a better tattooist to do some remedial work. The perspective is poor and they're wonky.

I don't understand the what if you break up remarks either OP. when in a relationship who actually thinks ah we might break up one day and they say romance is dead!
I've certainly never looked at my DH and thought ah we might break up one day, I love him we are happy and I intend to keep him and our matching tattoos forever but even if we did break up I'd still keep my tattoos to remind me of who I was when I had them done, Every tattoo tells a story!

If you spent your relationship not doing things because you might break up then you would never have children, get married, buy a house, join finances.

Exactly!

Bill - he is the same guy that did all my other ones, which are incredible, and I'm really happy with them. We gave him a picture and he copied it perfectly. Also, our heads are not the same shape, so it's hard to make them look exactly the same!

Well, if you go online and show off pictures of yourself then its likely you're going to get comments/questions.

Sorry, but I cringe at the whole 'I don't really give one about what anyone else thinks' attitude when it comes to 'alternative' looks/lifestyles.

Why would you cringe?

Love your hair, your overall look and I do like where the tatoos are, I think shaved hear tattoos can look great. But I hate the design. For some reason the bow especially fucks me off!

However....YANBU to do what you want with your body, you dont need anyone elses permission or approval. That said, YABU to expect those closest to you to pass comment if they dont like them.

Op I think your tattoos are lovely. I have several, my most recent being an 8 hour half sleeve (in one seating). I have friends who admit they don't like tattoos but aren't unkind about mine. And I have mine and dh's initials together in it. I wouldn't change it if we were to split (which we won't, I hope).

Like pps have said, your body, your choice.

Oh and to another pp, how the fuck can you veto what someone else, another autonomous human being inks on their own skin. Your DH isn't your property to tell what to do! I know what my answer to DH would be if he told me I 'couldn't' have a tattoo!

OP I adore them but I'm sitting here with my own flesh tunnels, various piercings and many tattoos.

I'm also feeding my lovely daughter breakfast and once she's at school I'll go off to work. Just in case the pearl clutchers are worried. Oh, and my DH has matching ink and we've been married 10 years.

To the PP poster who only knows people who regret tattoos - you must have some boring friends.

I can't get upset about them. At all. These are Not my taste but so what.

I don't get the aversion to tattoos. If you don't want them, don't get them end of. Why get so fussed someone else has them?

I have tattoos, but most people don't know I have them. I wore a different top to go training the other day and my friend saw my back one for the first time.

I didn't get them for anyone else. But I also appreciate some people have an opinion. My response is usually 'don't worry, I am not trying to get you to have it done'.

I support your right to have whatever you want on your body. And I kind of like them but think they're way too big.

OP I LOVE your chest tattoo! I so wish I was brave enough to get one there!

I have two rather large ones on my legs (for now, I'll definitely be adding to them when I'm not pregnant any more) and I can honestly say I have no regrets whatsoever about them, I love them. I think if you spend time really thinking about what you want and go to an artist whose work you love you're not going to regret them!

It's on the back of your head - you don't have to look at it. I can see why MIL might be upset - you can always grow your hair back, that might not always be an option for her DS. My problem with tattoos is that I can't understand why someone would want to make such a permanent style statement. I like to be able to change my appearance - the thought of being stuck with the style statement I wanted to make in my 20s for the rest of my life makes me shudder. I would quite rightly expect those with tattoos not to give a toss what anyone else thinks - that's slightly the point isn't it? I just don't think you should be surprised at getting a reaction when that surely is partly your intention.

It's your head to do with as you please and it's simply down to your personal choice/taste as to what you do with it. In your late 20s you don't need parental permission.

One of my friends said to her children when they became teenagers, "Wear whatever clothes/hair/make-up you want, listen to your choice of music - just don't do anything permanent because fashions change. This is the problem I have with tattoos BUT at least you can grow your hair over them if they become an embarassment.

They suit you AT THE MOMENT. I'd never get one though but that's me. But if DSD came home with one I'd be 😟!!!! what on earth have you done to yourself??

Like others have said, your hair can always cover it (when you're older and realise it might not have been the best choice 😊).

(The design is quite cute though).

Mil blamed me for dp's tattoos "Why did you let him get them?" "His leg/arm will fall off!" (Which according to Mil is a well known side effect of having a tattoo)

People who describe themselves as "quirky" are usually as conventional as fuck.

In your opintion, bertrand, how rude! I've met lots of quirky people (who hasn't?) - some would describe themselves as such, and others wouldn't. I've also met people who describe themselves as quirky, but who I wouldn't consider to be. I'd certainly never inform them that, actually they're not quirky, they're actually conventional as fuck. That would just be rude.

Bertrand you're rude as fuck.

In that case you're not very good at drawing! It's not a problem with them not lining up properly, as tattoos in their own right they look badly done (although that may be your drawing rather than the tattooist). The perspective is all wrong, there are bulges in the coffins in the wrong places, the skulls are very crudely drawn.

If you drew it yourself, well you would probably have been better off letting a professional rework the design for you in better quality before getting it done.

Lol at 'crudely drawn skulls' I think that may be the style she wants.....
I love them :) they are cute