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AIBU?

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to have gotten matching head tattoos with DH?

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TheOliveTree547 · 22/06/2016 21:39

DH and I, are definitely on the quirky side. We both got tattoos on our heads. Very similar, but mine is the female version and his is the male version. My mum never knew I was getting it done, tbh at 29 I wouldn't have said I needed her approval. I have my MIL blaming me and claiming that I have influenced her son into it. Friends claim that it looks ridiculous! All I want to know is WIBU? Surely as family and friends you don't have to just be damn right spiteful about a choice I have made, I mean it isn't illegal/hurting anyone. Grrr.

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revealall · 22/06/2016 22:38

Like the overly expensive wedding, I'm afraid his and hers tatoo's are going to be the kiss of death.
Actually that goes nicely with the tattoo so maybe you could use it when it goes Pete Tong and you want to change the wording.

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TheOliveTree547 · 22/06/2016 22:38

Saucy I find your comment the most offensive. I'm 29, it's definitely old enough to make a decision. Also, the line through a word is just pathetic, to say we are going to split up is an insult, we are married and have a beautiful daughter. Not all families break up. How rude.

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WTAFisgoingon · 22/06/2016 22:40

I would not personally choose that tattoo, but it looks great on you as it goes so well with your style, plus you're lucky enough to be able to have a job where they don't care!

Sod the mother in law!

WTAFisgoingon · 22/06/2016 22:41

^ and stop worrying what she thinks and enjoy the tattoos!

KissMyArse · 22/06/2016 22:44

Jeez people - okay, two of you - just because (presumably) your relationships went tits up that's no reason to make bitchy comments about the OP and her husband splitting up.

Take your shrivelled self-esteem elsewhere.

LaBelleOtero · 22/06/2016 22:45

I think it's cute! Especially the little bow

And being snarky about a breakup is ridiculous, if she didn't like it anymore for whatever reason she could grow her hair back and you'd never know it was ever there!

MammaTJ · 22/06/2016 22:46

I really like them and did not expect to.

Even if I hadn't I would still be saying you are an adult and can do what you like.

PlymouthMaid1 · 22/06/2016 22:47

Not my taste and would not be keen if my daughters had them but it is your head. I was also more disturbed by 'gotten'. The main issue for me wou!d be the difficulty in getting jobs with that look but maybe you work in a far funkier field than most and if you don't you can grow your hair over it. I don't know much about tatts but was wondering... Does a head tattoo mess with the hair follicles in any way so that hair wouldn't grow back right? Guessing not as maybe folliclses are deeper than the needle gets to.

KateLivesInEngland · 22/06/2016 22:47

Out of interest, when you have a tattoo on hair - does hair grow through it or do the needles damage follicles?

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TheOliveTree547 · 22/06/2016 22:49

I think you call all guess why I'm a mechanic and not an English teacher I have a tattoo on my arm, which was waxed first and hair has grown through, so I assume it's the same with head hair?

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ClarenceTheAngel · 22/06/2016 22:50

I don't like them, but that's just my personal opinion.However they do seem to suit your personalities and lifestyle ( based on what you have said ). If you love them, then that's all that counts. I love the sentiment behind them though!
Ultimately , it's not your family or friends who have the tats so ,they whilst they are entitled to have an opinion it's got jack to do with them.

ShadowsCollideWithKittens · 22/06/2016 22:52

OliveTree, it's a weird thing on MN. You have an expensive wedding, you get the snide 'bet they'll be in debt for longer than their marriage lasts' posts. You have tattoos, you get the 'urgh, your tattoos will last longer than your marriage' posts.

I've got 6 tattoos, and we are planning a fairly expensive wedding. DHusband to be and I probably won't manage to stay married for even a couple of months. Oh wait, we will actually, given that we've been together for over 15 years and supported each other through illness, injury, and my DP being incapicated and unable to work for several years due to a serious head injury.

cakedup · 22/06/2016 22:52

I love them!

I got a half sleeve done when I was in my 30s (now in my 40s). When I showed my dad he said "silly girl" and my mum got 'almost fainted' and claimed I went too far etc. and that I would regret it. Hmm...i seem to remember her saying the same thing about my nose piercing 15 years before that, and I never regretted that either. I don't wear my nose piercing now but am able to live a normal life with the tiny hole it has left in my nose, despite her concerns.

Personally I think it's rude and insulting for other people, even parents, to be so negative about something you choose to do to your own body.

revealall · 22/06/2016 22:58

You asked if YABU. It's not rude to suggest you will break up as over 40% of marriages do. So yes the odds are in favour ( just) but having a permanent memento of love is probably a bit of a risk, no?

KissMyArse · 22/06/2016 23:02

It's not rude to suggest you will break up as over 40% of marriages do.

Actually I think it's very fucking rude.

Bet you're a riot at wedding receptions

CrowyMcCrowFace · 22/06/2016 23:03

My self esteem's fine cheers Kiss. .

But y'know. Three years ago I'd have happily got a marriage celebrating type tattoo with my adoring but slightly boring husband, & these days we live several thousand miles apart & communicate via solicitor's letter.

It's a consideration - none of us knows what the future holds! If I had got a his'n'hers tattoo I'd now be having it lazered off, which is a pain in the arse & why I, personally, probably wouldn't ever get one now.

Still think the OP's & her dh's are cool tattoos, though. & I absolutely hope they make them both for the next 50 years & more.

PurpleRainDiamondsandPearls · 22/06/2016 23:04

They're not totally my cup of tea but if you like them, fuck everyone else. Actually, I do think they're kind-of cool and I'm sure you pull them off. Life's too short. :)

LastFirstEverything · 22/06/2016 23:06

I love them OP

I can't understand, at all, why any parent would be bothered by their adult child getting a tattoo, unless it was a swastika or something similar.

So, I'm very unsympathetic to your MIL, I can't identify with her viewpoint.

I'm also a bit saddened to hear that your friends say it looks ridiculous. I don't really get why people think other people's fashion or beauty choices look ridiculous. I wouldn't wear high heels for example, or have those modern style dark HD eyebrows. But I still don't 'get' how they are ridiculous on someone else, despite them not being to my taste for me.

I just think, as you said, if it isn't illegal or hurting anyone, what's the problem?

I think some people are not very broad minded! sounding very unbroadminded myself here

KissMyArse · 22/06/2016 23:07

My self esteem's fine cheers Kiss. .

Perhaps try not to judge other's relationships based on your own though.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 22/06/2016 23:10

If my child came home with that, I would die a little bit inside.

I fear you will regret it (and you will)... But your decision obviously.

Pinkheart5915 · 22/06/2016 23:12

Me and dh have 2 matching tattoos on our backs. One is a star with our stillborn DD name and date of birth under it (we plan to add ds name soon) the other is a rockabilly design with Mr&Mrs and the date we married under it

It's your bodies and as long as you like them who gives a fuck what people think!!

AllTheFucksIGive · 22/06/2016 23:12

that someone who has a head tattoo worries what their MIL thinks..

I don't want to be unkind but how is this different his and hers matching joggers? I mean tattoo your head if you like but matching?

twittwooery · 22/06/2016 23:15

Personally I think they are horrid, sorry OP but that's also because it's definitely not my style so I'm biased from the start.

origin · 22/06/2016 23:16

Mary why will she regret it? She already said she has lots and a huge one on her chest?

KissMyArse · 22/06/2016 23:18

Mary why will she regret it? She already said she has lots and a huge one on her chest?

Exactly!

Far easier to grow the hair on your head than your chest unless you are menopausal like me

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