To think this was rude?

[MrsNightOwl]

My friend has been there for me through thick and thin, and has helped me through many dark times in my life. Recently her car became a write off - she was upset because she needed it to get to and from work 30 miles away and couldn't afford to buy a new one. As it happens, I've been trying to sell my second car for ages (a cheap banger, but runs amazingly well) so to help her out I told her she could have it for nothing - she graciously accepted.

A week later, and I've just got a text from her asking for the tenner back that she lent me in the supermarket when I didn't have enough to pay for my shopping. I'd totally forgotten about it.

AIBU to be annoyed that she would ask, when I've given her a free car?

Yanbu what a nerve!!

YANBU you think she'd let it go! Have you replied?

What!!???!!!

You should say you'll take the £10 off what she owes you for the car.

Well I'd cut her some slack as she's clearly very skint

The tenner and the car are separate to her. Just because you give her a car doesn't mean she can afford to have given you the tenner.

Lovely thing you did though

In those circumstances I would always try and repay asap, but understand that sometimes people forget and might need a gentle reminder. However, in this case i would say YANBU

No, haven't replied yet

i dunno, actually,if she's so skint you gave her a car for nothing, i think it's not unreasonable for her to think you'll pay back money you borrowed.

I can't believe the nerve of some folk however if you value your friendship you will have to repay it

Otoh

You could say ' sorry I had thought that since I gave you the car we would be writing the £10 off but I will give it to you xxxx

I understand you're irritated but they are separate things. A car, be it very generously gifted, will not pay for groceries or pay bills.

She has seen you through dark times so is evidently a good friend; your show of friendship could be understand her financial hardship has led her to this.

If she's absolutely broke then that tenner might be the difference between eating this week and not.

Very rude.

YANBU.

Personally I don't think you are being unreasonable. If she can afford to run the car then you'd think she could write off £10 as a thank you gesture to you.

Hate people like that. It may be tough but you have been wonderful. Down right cheeky of her.

YANBU at all, but I would be worried that my friend was in a very desperate situation to ask such a thing. Given that you obviously have a very good friendship which you value, is it worth trying to find out whether this is the case? It's a very small sum of money and she must know she risked offending you by asking for it back after you gave her a car, so just how desperate must she be?

Depends how skint she is I guess.

Maybe she should have said something like 'look, I know you've been generous already and I'm grateful, but I'm really skint blah blah....'
But you've said she's been a good friend, YABU, cut her some slack.

I would be tempted to ask for the car back...BUT!!!

MrsDeVere is right. It's obvious she is desperately skint. That £10 you owe her could be the difference between eating and not eating this week

So what if she's skint? . She'd be a damned sight skinter if she'd had to shell out for a new car??

Blimey....the brass neck

I'm another who thinks she must be flat broke

Why didn't your car sell? If it wasn't selling, then it isn't worth anything (in as much as it is only worth what someone will pay for it).
I think the gift of the car and the loan are separate issues, so your friend is not being unreasonable.