To think I shouldn't pay for replacement GHD hair straighteners

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I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable here.

My wife has a pair of 5 year old God hair straighteners. They have an intermittent wiring fault that means they are very much hit and miss in their operation.

She'd used them last night and left them plugged in and balanced precariously on the mantle piece with the wire dangling down. As I walked into the lounge this morning I got my foot caught around the trailing wire (nearly going flying in the process) and pulled the straighteners off the mantelpiece and onto the stone floor below.

I've had a series of angry texts demanding that I buy her a new pair of ghd straighteners at a cost of £100 plus. (We have separate finances)

I think she's being unreasonable. Because

A) They were a knackered pair of straighteners on their last legs that she would have needed to replace anyway in the next few months.

B) left in such a stupid place they were bound to get damaged and cause an accident in the process.

I've offered £30 towards the cost of a replacement, but she is adamant I should pay the full cost of a new pair.

AIBU?

Yanbu. But if you were so inclined, you can do better and cheaper than GHDs. Overpriced rubbish. Try Hairtools' FHI straighteners instead.

I wouldn't replace them. The string of angry texts would be it.

Like for like imo.

If you're feeling brave. Drop them on the floor again and see if that fixes them

You are grown ups, married and you are arguing over paying for a set of straighteners.... We don't have separate finances here but if we did I'm pretty sure my hubby would have bought me a new set of ghds before he had even broken them just because that's what lovely husbands do!

Should probably add though that I also wouldn't send stroppy texts demanding a new set!

This is obviously paid for from a joint account! You broke them, she left them out. And even if she was the one to break them it would still be out of a joint account in the normal world

YANBU - Sounds like a bit of a crap relationship.

I'm pretty sure my hubby would have bought me a new set of ghds before he had even broken them just because that's what lovely husbands do

Give me strength.

The wife sounds like an arse.

TBH I think you are both idiots for knowingly using a faulty heated electrical appliance

As for who should pay- I can't imagine arguing over stuff like this and sending angry texts about it- can't you discuss it like normal human beings.

She needed a new pair anyway as they were faulty so just buy them. Never understood separate finances when married but each to their own. Buy them, she'll be happy as she'll have lovely hair and remember, happy wife , happy life

She should have put them away, you should have looked where you were walking. Go halves.

I'd be more concerned about her lack of judgement with regards to health and safety than buying her a new pair. Not only are they trip hazard but they are also a fire hazard. And no if she can't unplug these things and put them out of harms way I wouldn't go buying her new ones

Urgh... do people really say 'happy wife, happy life'? Like the wife is some kind of arbiter of a relationship?

Agree with EatShitDerek, her outburst is ridiculous - and wrong.

Faulty hair straighteners, left plugged in all night. Not really a good idea was it even if they weren't left somewhere that the lead could be tripped over.

I think £30 is a reasonable amount to offer towards a replacement.

(I've had my ghds since 2004, still going strong).

Am I the only one trying to imagine the layout of a room which means as you walk in the door, you trip over the wires of something sitting on the mantlepiece?

If you want to stay in your wife's good books OP, I recently used a company called GHD Repairs .co.uk Mine had been doing the on/off faulty wiring thing so I sent them off recorded delivery, paid twenty something pounds by paypal and had them back as good as new 2 days later! Cant recommend them enough! Although obviously I don't know what damage you have done dropping them on the stone floor!

This sounds like you are just flat mates, not husband and wife.

My DH would say -a) what a stupid place to leave them
b) you could have caused a fire
c) I don't understand what they do/why you need them
d) which ones do you want, I'll put them in the Amazon basket.

he is lovely.

My ghds are older than my kids. But infinitely more useful (I'm hoping this will improve one my two reach adulthood).

Whether or not she has any disposable cash does matter. If she is sahm trying to stretch the child benefit to pay for everything and he has hundreds every month to blow on what he likes then that's not fair and she isn't even in a position to buy a new pair needed or not.

If she has her own cash then they were knackered any way and she should just get some new ones.

So that's why people like me asked the question. Because it makes a difference to our opinion.

But mostly I just can't imagine bickering over a pair of hair straighteners although I will admit I am in the very privileged position of being able to buy most things I want, just because I want them. I'm not ignorant enough to imagine that's the same for everyone.

Given the level of interest in our financial arrangements we split food, rent and shopping between us but keep separate accounts.

The reasons we do this is because we have very different attitudes to money, I'm a saver and she's a spender, so whilst she earns more than me, I probably have more money in my account at this stage of the month.

£100 isn't a trivial amount to either of us at this stage of the month, so it isn't just a case of petty principal. She isn't horrible but does on occasion gets a bit ratty about things like this (I suspect she's also cross with herself and is laying off the blame)

Then I'd probably be the bigger person and offer to go halves to keep the peace. Unless she is generally a spoilt pita and you want to tackle it on this point (although obviously the GHDs would be the least of your problems and probably a whole other thread).

She left them in a stupid place but you should have been looking where you are going.

They were knackered but you can't buy new ones for less than about a hundred quid and no point buying a knackered pair.

She was a fool for leaving them in a stupid place.
I don't pay for other people's fuck ups and this was her fuck up.
Lovely partners don't send angry demanding texts. Lovely partners laugh off their own mistakes not try and blame others.
You have done her and the house a favour actually. They should have been binned/repaired before now because of the faulty wiring.

Ghd's are old. There are so many far superior products on the market. 2016 is all about titanium. Faster to use. Temp control. Extra shiny hair. Lasting style.

Then why can't you two just talk about it? What's the underlying problem here?

I'd just replace them if they were me.

You are both at equal fault here.