MN is a weird place

[fatmomma99]

I've commented on threads and had to then find a few weeks or months later a thread on a similar theme with every poster agreeing with what I'd said on the original thread (where were you all when I got my biscuits???)

It's not a criticism, but I'm stunned by how many posters on here are not parents. AND COMPLAIN about the parent bias. Posts like "this is discriminating against people who haven't had children". Dur, it's a parenting website. Again, everyone is welcome, and I have no issues with people who aren't parents. But to me it's like 'if you want to play in the playground with the big kids, don't complain about the big kids'. I'm not saying anyone who is a parent is bigger or better than anyone on here who doesn't have children, but this is a website set up for PARENTS AND CARERS (and there was this amazing thread once by this woman who was at university and having a hard time with her flatmate and she said she was on here because her mum was a MN-er). I honestly don't care if your on here and a mum/not a mum, black/white/any colour, male/female/any gender, uk/anywhere else. I LOVE that what the internet gives us is a blurring of all of those and to me, everyone is welcome and appreciated for what they bring to the table. But I honestly don't understand someone posting on this site saying "I'm not a mum and I don't use the internet, how dare you discriminate against me!"

And some threads are very, very odd. Had a glorious weekend. Was intending to sort garden, but it's been raining so been on MN for 2 solid days. Sometimes threads go very, very odd.

And yet, I love it. I put up a post yesterday, had some fab advice and it sorted my problem - job done. Thank you MN

And it makes me laugh.

And cry.

And then laugh again. And then cry again.

And it's ALL so far away from RL.

It's an odd place.

But I feel at home here. Maybe that makes me odd!

Thank you to everyone who took time to reply to this thread. I promise I'm not trying to be a GF (well, maybe a bit with the shaving comment. I know it's quite in vogue, and I don't personally care what any MN-er does with his or her undercarriage, but personally I find it a bit... A bit uncomfortable if I'm honest. But that's because I've read quite a bit of Victorian stuff around men wanting to have sex with children, and only wanting 13 yr olds [to have sex with] if they look like 8 yr olds. It's very uncomfortable. It's an ongoing debate I have with a plucked chicken friend in RL) or patronising or rude. In my head I'm quite funny. (this is true in RL as well). I'm probably worse when I've been drinking, which I had been last night.
Sorry not to have come back earlier, but was out tonight, and tired and needing to go to bed now, but wanted to acknowledge the thread, and didn't want pps to think I was someone who dished out but couldn't take it back. I'm happy to debate. I'm sorry for those I've annoyed or upset. NO, I don't think for a second people love their children less than I love mine for any reason. But I do sometimes muse that because my child took so long to conceive I'm maybe more conscious it. And, btw, I would have absolutely loved to have had more children. I'm not talking down to those who have more than one in any way, because I would want to be you.

Anyway, need to sleep now. This thread may well trail off.

Sorry if I've missed responding to something that I should have commented on. and, honestly sorry if this thread has pissed you off. It was trying to say MN is a weird and wonderful place and I like it a lot.

And, btw, all the interpretations of biscuits was brilliant. They look like tits with nipples to me too.

Well done for coming back! Have a

I sincerely mean that in the nicest way too.

What about your comments about people without children fatmomma? Anything you regret saying?

And the "why bother having children if you aren't going to bake cupcakes with them all day" comments?

and I don't personally care what any MN-er does with his or her undercarriage, but personally I find it a bit... A bit uncomfortable if I'm honest.

If that's how you feel, that's how you feel. Start a thread to discuss it. Don't go onto a thread where people have already made the decision for themseleves and use language like you did. Implying they were trying to look like children.

As pp said you would walk into a restaurant and start telling someone they shouldn't be eating meat because it's murder? Or similar.

If you are going to act like a GF, you will get told.

You've overthought this OP. Different people probably read at different times of the day & I do think you can see people's comments being influenced by previous ones. Probably best not to post on full moon's.

Have a anyway for old times sake & don't take it personally. It's only a message board

Youre way too overinvested in an internet forum.

Can anyone link to the undercarriage thread?

I'm not saying anyone who is a parent is bigger or better than anyone on here

Well you certainly come accross that way.

As others have said, playing with children (in a sustained, non-spontaneous kind of way) is a modern invention that generally drives parents mad with boredom and robs the child of a lot of developmental opportunities.

I hated playing when my kids were younger. I would occasionally get down on the floor and play cars with them or whatever, but far more often I was narrating for them as I stood by making dinner or talking to a friend or my husband or having a glass of wine with a book. I assure you that I have no guilt and my children would be very surprised to hear that I'm an uninvolved mother.

I also wax and wouldn't take kindly to your suggestions that I go au natural, regardless of whatever Victorian fiction you've been reading.

What were the abortion comments fuckincunt? Jeez, this gets worse and worse.

has a new meaning. The sporners have hijacked it and >< now means squeasing unspeakables out of pimples .

I must have missed that bit! You are right, that insinuation is horrible.

And I wonder where the OP got those "quotes" from.
I don't think there is anyone who NEVER plays with their children or watches their games, ever.
But some of us don't always do it or only sometimes. Because we didn't choose to have a career as children minders. They grow up and do become more interesting beings. I love the company of my 11 year old. When he's raving about his computer games, then not so much.