MN is a weird place

[fatmomma99]

I've commented on threads and had to then find a few weeks or months later a thread on a similar theme with every poster agreeing with what I'd said on the original thread (where were you all when I got my biscuits???)

It's not a criticism, but I'm stunned by how many posters on here are not parents. AND COMPLAIN about the parent bias. Posts like "this is discriminating against people who haven't had children". Dur, it's a parenting website. Again, everyone is welcome, and I have no issues with people who aren't parents. But to me it's like 'if you want to play in the playground with the big kids, don't complain about the big kids'. I'm not saying anyone who is a parent is bigger or better than anyone on here who doesn't have children, but this is a website set up for PARENTS AND CARERS (and there was this amazing thread once by this woman who was at university and having a hard time with her flatmate and she said she was on here because her mum was a MN-er). I honestly don't care if your on here and a mum/not a mum, black/white/any colour, male/female/any gender, uk/anywhere else. I LOVE that what the internet gives us is a blurring of all of those and to me, everyone is welcome and appreciated for what they bring to the table. But I honestly don't understand someone posting on this site saying "I'm not a mum and I don't use the internet, how dare you discriminate against me!"

And some threads are very, very odd. Had a glorious weekend. Was intending to sort garden, but it's been raining so been on MN for 2 solid days. Sometimes threads go very, very odd.

And yet, I love it. I put up a post yesterday, had some fab advice and it sorted my problem - job done. Thank you MN

And it makes me laugh.

And cry.

And then laugh again. And then cry again.

And it's ALL so far away from RL.

It's an odd place.

But I feel at home here. Maybe that makes me odd!

The biscuit isn't cliquey?

It's pretty lame and I've never used it but it's not cliquey. I don't understand how a biscuit clique would work.

Oooo biscuit clique is that where we start thread after thread about favourite biscuits . Op yes mumsnet is a funny old place it just depends on your crowd the biscuit is bloody rude id rather somebody told me to sshhhh i was talking shit than give me a biscuit its so dismissive

What do the biscuits mean please? Pardon my ignorance.

worcswoman - thank you for asking that I have been itching to know but didn't want to ask.

If an MNer comes to your house, never offer them a biscuit they will be highly insulted, especially if it's a jammy dodger.

Yes, that's a good word - dismissive .

I was talking with a RL person (amazing!) the other day about online forums (or fora even) and how I can't believe that in our midst there must be all these angry people who obviously manage to keep themselves buttoned up, but can let fly on the internet when they know they're anonymous. Not to mention weird trolls and fantasists... It's all rather unsettling.

It means here have a biscuit and shut up its hilariously passive agressive

I think a biscuit means, stick that in your gob and shut up.(?)

Now that was weird and I've seen it several times now. How is the ordinary poster supposed to know exactly who has MH issues and is untouchable? confused I take everyone at face (or rather no face at all since it's the internet) and unless you're in this special biscuity clique how on earth do you know who has to be handled with kid gloves or who posts for kicks or who is above reproach? Beats me.

well as I said on thread, if people were just nice to people..even if disagreeing..this wouldn't be an issue. No need for kid gloves just a bit of politeness.

An OP posted even with light hearted disclaimer at weekend about wanting her husband to go and get her chocolate. Loads of people posted "get a grip. you are an entitled princess. You are so selfish". Totally unnecessary.

But to me it's like 'if you want to play in the playground with the big kids, don't complain about the big kids'.

For all your 'oh, I love variety, let's just all get aloooooong', I think the sentence above sums up your true feelings.

There's something sinister about it, as if you're saying 'let the big kids decides what we play or you're out'.

MN is not just for parents. I think your approach risks creating a hierarchy.

Sometimes I like to think is the red button on XFactor and it means 'beep! It's a no from me, get off the stage please.

Haven't read every post....
Re biscuits : I did wonder why people kept posting nipples. I thought perhaps I was missing out on some kinky undertone.,

Lullabell

I didn't realise they were biscuits either I saw them as Pineapple rings with a cherry in the middle

I'd like to think I'm never mean to people but if someone posts in AIBU then you have to expect some people are going to say you're unreasonable, even if they say it nicely!

I vote to Ban the Biscuit. Just as "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" if all you can post is a derisory biscuit, then click off the thread. Who are you, Biscuit Poster, to decide that another poster's point is a get off the stage please one?

I had no idea about the biscuits. I thought people were being nice in the way they are when the post flowers or wine or chocolate or a hot drink.
I've never given a biscuit (phew).

What other icons do I need to be aware of?

alternatively you can't mention the possibility of SN even if you see real red flags from experience without people overreacting and getting defensive and bitchy.

(see thread in Site Stuff)

It's incredibly burdensome not being allowed to take pops at old people, the disabled and chikdren with SN

If an MNer comes to your house, never offer them a biscuit they will be highly insulted, especially if it's a jammy dodger.
I'm thinking of keeping a stash and when someone at home starts being unreasonable, I get up, get them on a plate and offer "a biscuit?" with a bright smile. It must be highly satisfying.

Is the biscuit not something to do with gordon brown and a webchat

Actually OP you were bloody rude and offensive and tried to shame people for their choice of hair removal. You used emotive terms to make it sound like peoples partners have sinister paedo inclinations if they don't object to a hairless minge. I thinks you were horrible and smug and deserve far more than a biscuit. But each to their own. You seem to derive some sort of satisfaction from judging people for their life choices whether it's having kids or waxing their fanny. Most normal people don't care and those that do must have worse issues than the waxers.

Yes I think he came on here saying he would answer any questions and then refused to tell us what his favourite biscuit was.
(That could be a false memory though)