MN is a weird place

[fatmomma99]

I've commented on threads and had to then find a few weeks or months later a thread on a similar theme with every poster agreeing with what I'd said on the original thread (where were you all when I got my biscuits???)

It's not a criticism, but I'm stunned by how many posters on here are not parents. AND COMPLAIN about the parent bias. Posts like "this is discriminating against people who haven't had children". Dur, it's a parenting website. Again, everyone is welcome, and I have no issues with people who aren't parents. But to me it's like 'if you want to play in the playground with the big kids, don't complain about the big kids'. I'm not saying anyone who is a parent is bigger or better than anyone on here who doesn't have children, but this is a website set up for PARENTS AND CARERS (and there was this amazing thread once by this woman who was at university and having a hard time with her flatmate and she said she was on here because her mum was a MN-er). I honestly don't care if your on here and a mum/not a mum, black/white/any colour, male/female/any gender, uk/anywhere else. I LOVE that what the internet gives us is a blurring of all of those and to me, everyone is welcome and appreciated for what they bring to the table. But I honestly don't understand someone posting on this site saying "I'm not a mum and I don't use the internet, how dare you discriminate against me!"

And some threads are very, very odd. Had a glorious weekend. Was intending to sort garden, but it's been raining so been on MN for 2 solid days. Sometimes threads go very, very odd.

And yet, I love it. I put up a post yesterday, had some fab advice and it sorted my problem - job done. Thank you MN

And it makes me laugh.

And cry.

And then laugh again. And then cry again.

And it's ALL so far away from RL.

It's an odd place.

But I feel at home here. Maybe that makes me odd!

You do realise your child isn't any more special then mine just because it took you longer to conceive...

You aren't a better parent for playing with your dc all the time. Playing with your dc is quite a recent thing and actually giving in to all your dcs demands isn't good parenting. Being told no isn't a bad thing.

No wonder you've been flamed and given the biscuit.

Oh and it's not particularly on to tell other grown ups they look like children under their knickers if they shave their pubes. You aren't the Queen on MN, no one has to agree with you and people have been shaving their pubes since the ancient Egyptians.

If you are constantly getting biscuits you need to have a good look at how you are coming across on here.

I suggested they don't bother and look like the women they are rather than the child they used to be. Can slightly understand why that upset them! ! ! But there have been at least 2 threads since glorying in hair and I did think "where were you when I was being flamed"?

Well it totally depends. If you have wonder onto a threat where people who like to wax are discussing waxing, and then pipe in with 'just don't do it , why do you want too look like a child' I can understand the biscuits.

But the other threads will have been speaking about waxing from a feminist point/ social pressure pressure to wax etc.

It's two completely different things and of course you will get differing views. I don't use Botox so wouldn't comment on a thread where people are asking advice about it. I would however post on a thread having a general discussion about it.

This is going well.

If your attitude towards people on MN who aren't parents, together with your attitude towards people who'd rather eat the contents of the cat's litter tray than sit and play with a bloody Octonaut all day aren't criticisms, then I expect most of us to run for the hills when you do start criticising.

I reckon Bastard has it, as well. You sound very much like you like giving it out, but can't take it back and you want things your way.

Re: the parent thing. I think Mumsnet is probably the least parent oriented parent website on the planet. In that, most of its posters use it to get away from the humdrum food/nappy/school/babysitting/vaccine thing. Count Active Conversations, and tell me how many are directly child-parent related and how many are just normal people, some of whom happen to be parents, having a chat.

I do agree the biscuit is pathetic though. Not one of HQ's best ideas. (and yes, I was even on the webchat whence it was born)

and I did think "where were you when I was being flamed"?

maybe those posters felt it was rude to go on and tell them how they were all wrong, despite the fact that they had already made a decision about what to do with their own bodies.

I like playing. I am 72 and have many grandchildren. I have a room in my house with an electric train set, a Brio train set, a large dolls house, lots of Sylvanian Families (canal boat, gipsy caravan with pony, Morris Traveller and Caravan etc) and lots of Playmobil. These things are all mine and dh' but we love playing when the grandchildren come round. The youngest is 7 now soon I'll have no one to play with :( .
I go to Nativity plays and Sports Days too.
We are all different.
That's what makes MN so perfect, there's always someone to talk to and you can switch them off like the tele if you get fed up.

People may or may not get depending on the tone of their posts.

MN are a bunch of atrocious cunts!! Thats why i love them so.

Its been my lifeline for 10 years -

Why are you getting all those biscuits? most threads don't have them. Your OP is obviously pretty judgy and MN loves nothing more than to judge about being judgy so maybe you are being pounced on for that.

How long have you posted op? I've been posting on and off for over a decade and I've never had a biscuit. I've disagreed with people, they've disagreed with me, but no biscuit.

It's not us, it's you.

Threads on here often start out one way and remain so, ie posters copy the tone of the first couple of replies. I have found myself at times trying to be the one who turns it round and offers another perspective, and I think plenty of other people do that too, but generally posters seem to follow the herd.

So generally speaking, if the first person who replied to your pube thread had agreed with you, you would have had a whole different thread. On a similar note, had a "famously funny" thread like Penis Beaker had a put-down or a biscuit in the first couple of replies it would have died a death in about 30 posts.

I don't know where you get this odd idea that the receipt of a couple of biscuits = a 'flaming'. I've seen people get flamed and it's quite different to getting a biscuit. You're being overly dramatic. And stop crying about MN. If it's making you cry you're in the wrong place.

I'm sorry but I have to agree with other posters that perhaps your tone is a little grating. I am very sorry it took you 6 years to conceive but that doesn't make your child the de facto best child there is, nor you a perfect parent.

As to your comments about waxing - what on earth did you expect?! you posted a thoughtless (and ridiculous stance) that alienated the posters in the discussion. You wouldn't March up to a table of diners in a steakhouse and tell them that meat is murder, would you? So don't behave like that on MN either. For some people this is their safe space (shock horror, even for those without children!) and if you are condescending towards them then yes, you will get plenty of which it sounds so far were deserved I'm afraid. If you wouldn't say it to a room full of women you've just met in person, maybe think before you say it on here.

Well that went well

Admires OP's learning curve as it rises up into the stratosphere....

Well, I usually don't shave all off (it's trimmed, and hedged and some parts a bit waxed.... ) and as a person who had a gf. Well, I will admit that shaving it all of is weird imo.

Anyhow, mumsnet is weird. And I wonder, how do they kow somebody is inconsistent? I could for example say something about 'our garden' but actually mean my dm's garden, and not actually 'our' garden in a thread about gardening.

I mean, sure. You say you're a stripper in one thread and in the other one you claim to be a nun... Yeah, ok. Something is wrong.

Anyhow, mumnet is also brilliant.