Friends forget, we remember... Every single year!!!

[Bipet1984]

Our best man and wife forget our anniversary!!! EVERY YEAR!! And after it’s gone they go: "sorry guys, we’re rubbish." On the other hand we get them a little pressie and a card for their wedding anniversary. Every year.
Wouldn’t you think if you wanted to remember something you’d jot it in the calendar after the 1st time?

Would you stop the present and card for their anniversary or would you carry on?
I don’t want it to look catty by stopping acknowledging their anniversary but at the same time it would be nice even if they just remembered the day.
AIBU? It’s not that much about the anniversary, it’s more about the principle.

We get quite a few cards from relatives and close friends (including the maid of honour)

Perhaps people have discovered that you have ... how shall I put it? ... rather high standards in this regard.

Haha me, too. I thought it's the done thing!!
If shops sell them, people must buy them ;)

We got some on our first anniversary from some very organised people who are always diligent about thank you letters, cards, etc but never any time since. i wouldn't expect it either. In fact I didn't even know it was a 'thing'. I've every intention of celebrating our silver anniversary but anything else? Private!

I tend to send cards for the first anniversary if it is a close friend whose wedding I attended.
Send one to parents most years - and sometimes mine is the only card they have!!
Our best man was dh's brother and I would be surprised if he remembered my birthday never mind our anniversary!

I usually forget my own wedding anniversary never mind anyone else's! Not the norm to buy gifts etc for someone else's anniversary as far as I know.

Oh don't stop Dubious, if it brings you pleasure. I don't think DH's family are weirdos, I'm just a bit baffled, but then I'm not a huge card sender anyway, and MIL is definitely a niche card buyer :)

Buying and sending cards/gifts because you want to is fine. Getting pissed off that people don't reciprocate is not.

So odd.

Aw, Dubious if you get 11 cards a year it looks like you are among a similar crowd, you should keep going - Clinton's need you..

I find this very odd, I have not got a clue about any of our relatives or friends wedding anniversary, even the ones where we attended the wedding. I will congratulate them on FB if they put something up about it though. We remembered our own one for the first time in 10 years this year!

Do they "forget" you on valentines day too?
it's not that anniversaries "aren't a big deal" - it's that they're a couply romantic thing, I find it totally weird that we get one or two cards from people who aren't us on our anniversary.. IMO it's the same as sending a valentines card!

Anniversary cards are to/from husbands and wives to each other!

The only exception is if its a ruby/silver/golden and the couple are hosting a party from it, only then do you give them a card

Haha me, too. I thought it's the done thing!!
If shops sell them, people must buy them ;)

The shop sells them for the big anniversay parties! y'know, a 50 yrs anniversary bash in a hotel/venue, with invites and all

Not for yearly anniversaries which are between the couple

The only reason I know it's anyone's anniversary is because Facebook tells me.

YAB very U and a bit barmy.

I have never given or received a wedding anniversary card to anyone, including my DH of 30 years. We might have a nice meal and a bottle of wine on the day but we might not.

um, why the feck would they remember or celebrate YOUR anniversary. How is it in any way a celebration for them? (Unless you were having a massive party or something)

I had no idea that a couple's anniversary was something anyone outside the couple themselves was supposed to mark!

I only ever send a card for a first anniversary or a really 'big' one. Every other year I see it as something only the couple should celebrate.

My in-laws and my parents always acknowledge our anniversary. So it's not just personal imo.

You expect a card from your Best man and maid of honour on your anniversary?? God knows what sort of Bridezilla you must have been

No one is interested in your anniversary but you!!

Our family makes a big deal of anniversaries, and we have some friends who we send cards to and who send cards to us also. But I'm aware we're in the minority!

The only people I've ever sent an anniversary card to are my parents!

We usually receive anniversary cards from both sets of DPs plus my godmother and her husband.

I generally send one to my parents because I feel so happy and grateful that they have such a long and happy marriage - but only buy a present for a big anniversary, as with their ruby last year.

Also, like a PP said, I try to send a first anniversary card to couples whose wedding we've attended, but not in subsequent years.

When my friends start having notable anniversaries and parties to celebrate, I will of course give cards/presents on those occasions, but I'm a few years off that yet.

Yes, yabu. I don't even always remember my parents / step parents anniversaries.

My DM always remembers my wedding anniversary. DH and I usually forget until her flowers arrive

Agree with the majority I would have found it odd to receive a card off anyone but my ex at the time. We didnt even send our parents one except on their silver wedding