Friends forget, we remember... Every single year!!!

[Bipet1984]

Our best man and wife forget our anniversary!!! EVERY YEAR!! And after it’s gone they go: "sorry guys, we’re rubbish." On the other hand we get them a little pressie and a card for their wedding anniversary. Every year.
Wouldn’t you think if you wanted to remember something you’d jot it in the calendar after the 1st time?

Would you stop the present and card for their anniversary or would you carry on?
I don’t want it to look catty by stopping acknowledging their anniversary but at the same time it would be nice even if they just remembered the day.
AIBU? It’s not that much about the anniversary, it’s more about the principle.

[RunLillian]

Dubious how long have you been married?

[pambeesley]

Nope. I'm afraid I think you are a little strange. I don't even celebrate my parents anniversary unless it a big one!

[Knockmesideways]

We siblings tend to remember each other's anniversary but I've nevefr sent a card let alone a present to friends or other relations. Sorry, I'm with your best man!

[pleaseholdyourcallisimportant]

If they are otherwise good friends then I would let it go. I don't know anyone who remembers other peoples wedding anniversaries. I would still continue to send them a card - if you are card sending people and remember that we don't give to receive.

[scampimom]

AIBU? It’s not that much about the anniversary, it’s more about the principle.

Er...what principle?

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

I don't know anyone who celebrates or marks someone else's wedding anniversary.

[DubiousCredentials]

11 years. We get cards from parents, one sibling, a few aunties and uncles, grandparents, a couple of cousins, one or two friends? Maybe 10 cards? I always send an anniversary card if I have been to the wedding.

Anniversary cards are plentiful in the shops and not just husband and wife ones, so presumably it is a "thing".

[Sassypants82]

YABVU, anniversaries should be between the married couple only. Why on earth would you think anyone else would be remotely interested?!

[feckity]

AIBU? It’s not that much about the anniversary, it’s more about the principle.

If it's not about the anniversary then what's the principle? That if you give someone gifts they should get you gifts back? Cos that's a pretty shitty principle. Gifts should be about the giving, not about what you get in return.

[ShatnersBassoon]

The give to receive principle, obviously.

[BYOSnowman]

I find it odd you acknowledge their anniversary every year. Wedding anniversaries aren't that big a deal are they?

I would imagine they would be relieved of you stopped as they probably mean to reciprocate every year, forget and then feel really bad when you give them a gift!

[feckity]

Anniversary cards are plentiful in the shops and not just husband and wife ones, so presumably it is a "thing".

Cards seem to be one of those things where supply creates demand, you can find some very niche cards - Good luck in your driving test to my granddaughter's fiance's dog!

[Waltermittythesequel]

I never acknowledge someone else's anniversary! It wouldn't even cross my mind to.

[YellowBucket]

YABU a tiny bit. However anniversaries are clearly important to you and it must sting a little that your greetings aren't reciprocated.
Only my in-laws get us a card every year. It is nice of them but after the initial wedding I saw the day as being for us, not in a selfish way, just not a reason for wider celebration.
I will occasionally get a "goodness! X years ago..." from members of our wedding party and will send similar to friends.
It's a little bit different if you are throwing a party for a significant anniversary and its ignored. I'd be upset then.

[DubiousCredentials]

feckity I get what you mean but there are loads of anniversary cards in the shops, not just one or two. Whole separate stands of them in our Tesco and Morrisons at this time of year.

[Bipet1984]

Fair enough... the majority seems to think anniversaries aren't a big deal.
We get quite a few cards from relatives and close friends (including the maid of honour), so just thought the best man and wife would remember too. That's all :)

[Iknownuffink]

First world problem.

[BareBearBum]

I'd be surprised if my friends even remembered enough to send a text, let alone a gift.
I've always seen it as a personal celebration tbh and would cringe myself inside out if I received a gift from our best man every year!
Also couldn't tell you the date of my much loved family and friends weddings. Not a scooby!

[feckity]

Dubious Yeah I know, I was just musing on the weirdness of the more niche offerings .

We have received anniversary cards from DH's close family, but I find it a bit odd each time, and would struggle to remember anyone's anniversary except for our own.

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

We get quite a few cards from relatives and close friends (including the maid of honour)

your best man is normal, this is odd! you have unusually thoughtful friends!!!!

[ProteusRising]

"Would you stop the present and card for their anniversary or would you carry on?"

I would stop because it's extremely weird to do this.

"I don’t want it to look catty by stopping acknowledging their anniversary but at the same time it would be nice even if they just remembered the day."

Would it? Why?

[DubiousCredentials]

I think I am going to stop sending anniversary cards now after reading all these replies Bet my friends and family think I'm a right weirdo

[molyholy]

Yabu.

[Floggingmolly]

Bless you, op. Why would the date you got married have any relevance to anyone else?

[IPokeBadgers]

I agree with Feckity :

The reason they forget is because it isn't important to them. The reason they apologise is because they know it's important to you.