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Original poster

a parking one with a note from neighbour

490 replies

KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:42

This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

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SilverBirchWithout · 04/06/2016 15:49

If I was her, I would park my own car there to prevent you parking there. If she doesn't drive maybe she can enlist the help of the other neighbours. Grin

Anyone local want to pop a note through her door with the idea?

Hercules12 · 04/06/2016 15:50

Oh God the joy of the Internet. Write a polite note to a neighbour and it gets posted on a hugely popular website with your address on it and chance of being picked up by daily mail.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 04/06/2016 15:59

Op doesn't say what size the van is, but tough shit if they are annoying in residential areas! Or do you think plumbers, electricians, painters and decorators, garden landscapers and 100s of other tradespeople shouldn't be allowed to live in residential areas? Perhaps they should all be corralled off into some sort of working class shanty town? Hmm

TheAnswerIsYes · 04/06/2016 16:03

YANBU. I would just ignore it and if it gets mentioned again just reiterate that it's only for a few more weeks.

NCVanish · 04/06/2016 16:14

Put the van on your drive and your cars on the side road. The van would bother me more in the evenings too, especially if I was used to sunlight in a certain spot and it blocked the light

Gabilan · 04/06/2016 16:15

YABU park it in the pavement outside your own house!

God this pisses me off. It's pavement. It's not car park. It's there for access on foot. In many places it's illegal to pavement park. It also wrecks infrastructure costing huge amounts to put right. Paying VED doesn't entitle you to just dump cars and vans on areas meant for pedestrians.

ChocChocPorridge · 04/06/2016 16:16

I say it's bonkers because it is bonkers to live on a corner plot, 50% surrounded by roads, and think that you can control someone parking the other side of a six foot fence.

Especially when you know that it's only temporary, and it's only really happening overnight!

In what world is that not ridiculous?

OneMagnumisneverenough · 04/06/2016 16:20

Or do you think plumbers, electricians, painters and decorators, garden landscapers and 100s of other tradespeople shouldn't be allowed to live in residential areas?

No they can live where they like but they can park their van somewhere else.

AugustaFinkNottle · 04/06/2016 16:22

For goodness sake, there must be more than two places to park in your area. If you choose to bring two cars and a commercial van there, I do think that ordinary consideration demands that you vary where you park, even if does mean that you have to walk a few metres extra.

kittybiscuits · 04/06/2016 16:25

I would ignore too because it's bonkers.

memyselfandaye · 04/06/2016 16:27

Silverbirch the van is taxed, insured and parked on a public road, anyone can park there. We do not own or have any claim to the road outside of our houses. They can park the van wherever they want.

I can never get parked outside my own house, it's not something to get worked up over, or leave pissy notes all over the place.

I have been on the receiving end of notes as have three of my workmates, we park in the street next to work, along a grass verge with no houses on that side, there are no parking restrictions but we've all had twatty notes on our windscreens.

There are 6 flats on this street, with parking for around 12 cars, we dont block anyone in, we are parked legally, but one old bastard likes to leave notes.

I just don't understand why people get their knickers in a twist over legal parking.

She'll be doing a DM sad face next.

user7755 · 04/06/2016 16:30

Well I'm not going to ask my elderly mum to park round the corner because someone is pissed about 6" of white poking above their fence. If that makes me unreasonable so be it

Surely your mum doesn't need to park round the corner - surely if you have 2 cars and a van you could park one of your 2 cars (or both) round the corner?

Whistlejackets · 04/06/2016 16:30

It's a polite note. Just park the van somewhere else. Don't create bad feeling for your DM with her neighbours if you're just passing through.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 16:31

I don't owe anyone an apology and I have the right to park anywhere it's legal. The van is a ford transit as mentioned previously so where she's got 2 ft above her fence who knows. Yes Hercules I've reported the thread a number of times, I folded the top of the note so it didn't show name and address, forgetting it was also in the letter. Feel free to report though, you might have more luck

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 16:33

Mum's is one of the cars so no, she's not parking around the corner. As well as trying not too inconvenience anyone, we're also trying not to inconvenience my mum too

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Wolfiefan · 04/06/2016 16:34

It is there every night though and leaves at 5am. That would wake me and piss me off!
I think they are very pissed off and trying to be polite about it.

KimmySchmidtsSmile · 04/06/2016 16:34

I like her handwriting (completely misses point of thread).

Can you just not pop over with a bunch of flowers and explain it really is only temporary? That's what I'd have done. Unless there's a back story doesn't your mum want to keep in with the neighbours?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 16:35

Mum thinks it's funny. I'm not the first she's noted, she also put a note through 213 because they had a large mobile home parked on their own drive, asking how long it would be there as it was unsightly

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paniniswapx3 · 04/06/2016 16:35

I think it's a very polite note making s reasonable request & if you can, you should accommodate their request.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 16:36

Again Wolfie that wasn't mentioned. I'm sure it would have been in her note if it was a problem

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 04/06/2016 16:36

Hang on a second OneMagnum. You are saying that people who use a van for work should not be able to park near where they live? You're just being silly now aren't you?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 16:37

The buses running every 10 mins make a lot more noise

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user7755 · 04/06/2016 16:37

Mum's is one of the cars so no, she's not parking around the corner. As well as trying not too inconvenience anyone, we're also trying not to inconvenience my mum too

So why can't you park your car round the corner and leave the van on the drive?

mizuzu · 04/06/2016 16:38

please post in the correct position how you expect anyone to read that

KimmySchmidtsSmile · 04/06/2016 16:39

Is your neighbour Hyacinth Bucket?!

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