To want never to go in car husband "liaised" with OW in?

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Am I?

Nope.

Whilst it may not be practical, I wouldn't want to either. Ewwwww.

Oh - yanbu

YANBU

Whats the story? Is he expecting you to on the basis that you should get over it?

I wouldn't either and he's got a bloody nerve if he does expect you to.

Definitely not.

It's by far the better of our cars. Sometimes I need to drive a long distance for work and usually take it.

Just can't do it.

He wouldn't be my husband anymore.....

Yep, fair point, but still need a car. Just don't want that one.

Sell it and buy a new better one? And then ltb?

It's probably a bit odd that you're seemingly more repulsed by the 'venue' rather than the person.

Yes, chic, that seems odd to me too. But couldn't get but out of my mind if was in the car. It's weird, but just a big trigger.

Repulsed by all of it, really, but was wondering if I'm being silly about a car for exactly the reason you state.

If you've forgiven your OH I'm assuming you are or will eventually "go" where the OW has so I'm not sure why the car is so much of an issue.

I wouldn't be in it again because I wouldn't be married to him.

If he is in anyway remorseful and serious about making your marriage work, then he will instantly say "OK" when you tell him to go change the car. It could be done tomorrow.

Honestly though, you won't go in a car he had her in, but you will be a house where he (the one who really betrayed you) is. Car is not the issue lovey. Sorry you're being put trough this.

It's the odd practicalities of such a horrible situation. Not forgiving.

Maybe lose the h and you will feel better about the car. Or insist on selling it and getting a nice one that he isn't allowed to drive.

I mean this nicely but you are focussing too much on the location of the infidelity. Do you believe that he is genuinely regretful? Are you getting support? Is he doing everything he should be to fix the marriage. Those are the things which are more important.

I found a bra strap in my car of my prostitute shagging husband.
I divorced him.
Still drove the car a couple of times.
It's just a car.
Perhaps I didn't have to push my feelings towards the car because I had chucked the cheating arsehole?

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I don't think you are being silly. If selling it makes you feel better - even just a bit - then do it.

I suspect reversing the fucking thing over his foot would make her feel better.

i think selling the car is the best option

it doesnt matter what you have decided with OH, whether you have decided to try and sort it (mn-ers will tell you that you have made an almighty mistake, only you and time will tell)

but - yeah its adding insult to injury if you have to use the vehicle he met up with OW in - you wouldnt want to go to the same resturants, or sleep in the same bed its the same thing

You are not being unreasonable or silly at all OP - god knows how I'd react if my DH cheated on me, but I don't think there is any right or wrong way to react.
Do what's right for you.

Thanks all. Posted because I suspected I was being unreasonable: I am well aware the car is not the real problem, it just sickens me to think of being in it.

The rest is a long story,just the usual crap.

I'd trade it in and meanwhile I'd be considering my options. It must be a massive trigger.

How long was he seeing her?