To want never to go in car husband "liaised" with OW in?

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Am I?

Can't sell the car for reasons beyond my control, btw.

YANBU, ex-h cheated on me and I had a few hangups like this for months afterwards, even though he was incredibly remorseful and begged forgiveness and we were giving the marriage another go.
The feelings went, in time.

So did the husband!

Witches

Is there anything your employer can do, eg hire a car for the day?

i think its just a car
the phone that he spoke to her own is just a phone
the clothes he was wearing are just clothes

not sure why you are holding it against the car rather than your husband

It's not a case of car rather than husband.

Just that the car is something I would normally use for work and long trips, and I was wondering if iwbu for not wanting ever to set foot in it again.

Because it does seem silly.

I'd bloody torch the thing. I can't believe he expects you to sit in it. YANBU OP.

No YANBU.

I know it might be irrational because it's just a car, but I wouldn't set foot in it again. Car needs to be sold - and if he refuses then it would be a deal-breaker for me. If he is genuinely serious about giving things another go and trying to work through it, then he needs to understand that you are emotionally raw and your trust is broken. The last thing you need is a daily reminder of his extra-curricular shagging.

In my fantasies I'd happily torch it with the pair of them in it, in reality I am a mild mannered individual

I think I will accept that IABU, but that in the circumstances it is perfectly reasonable....

It is not silly. You feel what you feel. I see how it would be a huge trigger.

Get rid of the car.

I think anyone who's had an unfaithful husband will understand exactly why the car would be triggering for you, OP.

No, not unreasonable at all OP. We sold the car my H DTD in with his OW as I simply couldn't even get in the bloody thing after I found out. Breast-fed my youngest DD on our lovely sofa only to discover that H and OW had DTD on it when older DD was at Brownies . It's all shit and is so repellent too. I get where you are coming from totally sister. The sofa went to the tip, pronto - though H did protest that it was 'too expensive' to get rid of . Twat.

Your not being unreasonable tbh. I think I would be the same with anything they had relations in/on/with.

Oh I would have torched it too - still fantasise about doing that. My GP assures me that my response is perfectly 'normal'

Fuck practicality. Change cars.

I'd change husbands too tbh.

Get rid of the piece of junk.

Then change the car.

Yanbu. Don't blame you at all for feeling repulsed

You are being completely reasonable about the car OP.

Hope you're OK.

Weirdly Iv been in this situation too OP.

This trigger and thought actually does fade away and you will rarely if ever think about in a short while.

Nope, not U at all.

I had a similar situation recently (but with a bed, not a car). Ex couldn't understand why I couldn't even go into the bedroom any more, said I was being pathetic and focusing on the wrong thing, but it just made me feel sick.

Not unreasonable. Not in the slightest.

I'd be less worried about the car that she was in and more concerned about the DH she was in it with. Are you going to go near him again? I feel for you, I can't imagine what it feels like. But, if you are moving forward WITH him you will have to deal with it. Tell him to sell it.

Completely not being unreasonable. If the car has to stay, hopefully it'll get easier over time. And agree with PP that valeting might help.

Amazed at the the amount of cheating men out there who have been taken back !

i understand sometimes its practicalites but couldnt u just kick him out and stay where u are

like captain amazed at the amount of people taking partners back after cheatingjust get the car completely deep cleaned and it will be fine

to all who've been through this too.

And thanks all.