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AIBU?

To want never to go in car husband "liaised" with OW in?

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OneTwoOneTwoThreeFour · 03/06/2016 21:08

Am I?

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AnotherPrickInTheWall · 04/06/2016 20:58

He would be history I'm afraid. I'm very forgiving for most misdemeanours, but he has crossed a sacred line and I don't think many people could ever forget ( if not forgive) such a thing.

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Sunnsoo · 04/06/2016 00:46

Shag someone in his favorite car?

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NovemberInDailyFailLand · 04/06/2016 00:21

I get it, OP. Get rid of the car.

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OneTwoOneTwoThreeFour · 03/06/2016 23:22

Flowers to all who've been through this too.

And thanks all.

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GabsAlot · 03/06/2016 23:02

i understand sometimes its practicalites but couldnt u just kick him out and stay where u are

like captain amazed at the amount of people taking partners back after cheatingjust get the car completely deep cleaned and it will be fine

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captainfarrell · 03/06/2016 22:46

Amazed at the the amount of cheating men out there who have been taken back ! Shock

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IFinishedTheBiscuits · 03/06/2016 22:44

Completely not being unreasonable. If the car has to stay, hopefully it'll get easier over time. And agree with PP that valeting might help.

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green18 · 03/06/2016 22:44

I'd be less worried about the car that she was in and more concerned about the DH she was in it with. Are you going to go near him again? I feel for you, I can't imagine what it feels like. But, if you are moving forward WITH him you will have to deal with it. Tell him to sell it.

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Thelittleredhead · 03/06/2016 22:30

Nope, not U at all.

I had a similar situation recently (but with a bed, not a car). Ex couldn't understand why I couldn't even go into the bedroom any more, said I was being pathetic and focusing on the wrong thing, but it just made me feel sick.

Not unreasonable. Not in the slightest.

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NoMudNoLotus · 03/06/2016 22:23

Weirdly Iv been in this situation too OP.

This trigger and thought actually does fade away and you will rarely if ever think about in a short while.

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AyeAmarok · 03/06/2016 22:23

You are being completely reasonable about the car OP.

Hope you're OK.

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Hissy · 03/06/2016 22:15

Get rid of the piece of junk.

Then change the car.

Yanbu. Don't blame you at all for feeling repulsed

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witsender · 03/06/2016 22:10

Fuck practicality. Change cars.

I'd change husbands too tbh.

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Dancingtothemusicoftime · 03/06/2016 22:08

Oh I would have torched it too - still fantasise about doing that. My GP assures me that my response is perfectly 'normal' Sad Grin

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Idliketobeabutterfly · 03/06/2016 22:06

Your not being unreasonable tbh. I think I would be the same with anything they had relations in/on/with.

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Dancingtothemusicoftime · 03/06/2016 22:06

No, not unreasonable at all OP. We sold the car my H DTD in with his OW as I simply couldn't even get in the bloody thing after I found out. Breast-fed my youngest DD on our lovely sofa only to discover that H and OW had DTD on it when older DD was at Brownies Sad. It's all shit and is so repellent too. I get where you are coming from totally sister. The sofa went to the tip, pronto - though H did protest that it was 'too expensive' to get rid of Angry. Twat.

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ImperialBlether · 03/06/2016 22:05

I think anyone who's had an unfaithful husband will understand exactly why the car would be triggering for you, OP.

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Finola1step · 03/06/2016 22:04

It is not silly. You feel what you feel. I see how it would be a huge trigger.

Get rid of the car.

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OneTwoOneTwoThreeFour · 03/06/2016 22:02

I think I will accept that IABU, but that in the circumstances it is perfectly reasonable....

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OneTwoOneTwoThreeFour · 03/06/2016 22:01

In my fantasies I'd happily torch it with the pair of them in it, in reality I am a mild mannered individual Grin

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DailyMailAreAFuckingJoke · 03/06/2016 22:01

No YANBU.

I know it might be irrational because it's just a car, but I wouldn't set foot in it again. Car needs to be sold - and if he refuses then it would be a deal-breaker for me. If he is genuinely serious about giving things another go and trying to work through it, then he needs to understand that you are emotionally raw and your trust is broken. The last thing you need is a daily reminder of his extra-curricular shagging.

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RainIsAGoodThing · 03/06/2016 21:58

I'd bloody torch the thing. I can't believe he expects you to sit in it. YANBU OP.

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OneTwoOneTwoThreeFour · 03/06/2016 21:55

It's not a case of car rather than husband.

Just that the car is something I would normally use for work and long trips, and I was wondering if iwbu for not wanting ever to set foot in it again.

Because it does seem silly.

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EssexMummy1234 · 03/06/2016 21:51

i think its just a car
the phone that he spoke to her own is just a phone
the clothes he was wearing are just clothes

not sure why you are holding it against the car rather than your husband

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ImperialBlether · 03/06/2016 21:49

Is there anything your employer can do, eg hire a car for the day?

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