You AIBU Lot!!

[Moxxygirl]

I must admit as an older mom with grown up kids, I love reading the AIBU posts!!
Thank God my kids were raised 30+ years ago, when us moms were not so navel watching, agonising, worrying about their food, school progress, friendships.
WE were the adults - WE made the rules ( without a huge amount of negotiation !) and our kids ran free, didn't worry about pouting on FB, and had a brilliant childhood.
We used to go to the neighbours for a drink and wire the baby alarm through the window so we could here if one of them cried.
We went to holiday camps and left them in the chalets with a babysitting service that flew past on a bike listening for crying babies and flawed it up in the car if one was crying in your chalet.
Nowadays I'm sure SS would have taken them all off us.
And yes they grew up to all hold very responsible jobs in Police and Education.
I actually feel a bit sorry for you moms nowadays.
Your thoughts??

What annoys me about the OP is the 'we' aspect to it.

No OP 'we' didn't all bring our children up like that in the 80s.

Sounds bloody awful to me, and yes you do sound patronizing. I can almost hear a you chuckling as you typed, because you think you think you did it so much better and more laid back than everyone else.

I was brought up in the 60s and 70s and disagree with the OPs view of families finances
We lived on a fairly poor council estate, my DF worked 50+ hours a week, DM part time
Free school dinners and bread and jam for 'tea' we used to get sent to stay with my grandparents at weekends (now I realise it was so we would get fed)
I remember strikes and shortages and DM crying about being unable to afford the coalman so we went to bed early to keep warm and had no hot water on those days
However we never got left (pub, holiday chalet) and although I don't always agree with their parenting style I never felt unloved or unwanted

I love that a generation of baby boomers who bought their homes for tuppence and spend their retirement pissed-up in Cyprus feel nostalgic enough to share their fucking madness with parents.

We both work, DH because he's the breadwinner and it keeps the roof over our heads, me because without my job I'd be half-baked with madness and boredom by now. We raise our children to question and negotiate and to stand up for themselves. They have boundaries, rules and consequences. They are loved, cherished and put first as much as humanly possible. We teach them manners, kindness and empathy, inclusion and cultural acceptance. I daresay you could probably learn a great deal from them on those counts.

I'm very pleased you've had your arse handed to you. You deserved it.

I'm not spending my retirement pissed up in Cyprus, TheFuckers sounds like my idea of hell on earth.

I love that a generation of baby boomers who bought their homes for tuppence and spend their retirement pissed-up in Cyprus feel nostalgic enough to share their fucking madness with parents.

This.

I wonder how your kids feel about you, OP? Do you pass your unwanted pearls of wisdom on to your daughters-in-law, at regular intervals? I bet you do, don't you?

Didn't parents just used to discuss these things IRL instead of what modern parents do - IRL and on the internet? Parents have always been concerned about their children's school progress etc but it's just that we have an extra medium in which to talk about it. And that is bad why. ..?

But generally I hate all the good old days stuff....yeah, let's go back to a time when kids didn't need car seats and you could just tie em up outside shops with the dog

She probably does Saffynool. And no wonder so many posters come on here complaining about their MIL if OP is an example of some of them. But please don't lump us all together as 'that generation'.

My ideas of child rearing are as far away from OP's as most of the pp who have posted on here. We weren't all like that, in fact I didn't know anyone who was, and by lumping us all together, you're being as unfair to my generation as the OP is to yours.

God I'd love to spend my retirement pissed up. I'd even take Cyprus although I'd prefer a nice cocktail bar in London

Love to know what you think of the parents involved in the guerilla shooting incident OP. As I have seen your exact meme post on FB.

gorilla have no idea why I was thinking of guerillas

I beleive some things were better back then like not having facebook. The examples you have given are of an irresponsible parent I dont think having your children in 2016 would change many people did not leave there children and to go out for a drink 30+ years ago, then again I'm sure many still do it.