Dh, stag do, not even bothered to call.

[Kimononono]

I may BU.

Dh has gone on a stag do abroad. A proper take the piss one for six days. It's not even a bloody weekend.

I'm not bothered as its one in the bank for me when I've had this baby (5 months pregnant). He went this morning, had a text saying ' love you' as he got to the airport and nothing since!

Not even 'oh the hotel is nice' or ' just going out I'll call in morning' or called to wish dd2 good night. Or even me!

Is he being an ignorant arse or am I being moody cow?

I don't think I'd be bothered about a call or text when away. When dh goes out I tend to ignore any texts and calls anyway as I'm enjoying some time to myself.

But am I the only one who wouldn't want my dh going on a 6 day stag do? I'd feel miffed at having to do all the childcare alone for a week, and not only that but holiday from work is precious. Most people only get 6 weeks off. It's different before kids.

I guess I'm not a cool wife.

thenaze but I think your rude saying I constantly need my relationship validated. I don't. Where have you got that from? honestly some folk on here love to run away with there own imaginations.

It's normal for Dh to call or text when he arrives any where abroad. He goes to India quite a lot and some times in the cross over at airports he can be on the phone to me for ages as he is bored shitless. He sends me countless pics of crazy Indian families all squeezed on a moped that he sees in the road. He Skypes me so he can say good night to dd. As he like to see his daughter: he sends me photos when I'm away of himself and dd. The same applies to me. Apart from I don't send photos. I was just expecting a text or call because to us - that is the norm.

Most of that I've posted above so where have you got that I need to be constantly validated? That's just how we are as a family - him too.

stardust I'm pregnant now and last night I never rang or 'disturbed' my Dh. But if I did - he would never see it as I was disturbing him. And visa versa. I havnt rang him at all while he has been away but he has sent a few text and a face time of him looking like a bag of shite. This is normal for us.

noisy I don't mind as its one in the bank for me. Dh owns his own buisness and I'm a SAHM so it's not really an issue. But it probally would it holiday time was limited

somer

Tbh I started the thread last night being a moany jealous cow/tongue in cheek but the serious squad wrestled it out the window

Just ignore all the stupid posts saying you're hormonal etc.

I wouldn't be stubborn just text him and tell him that you'd been hoping to hear from him. He's your husband you don't have to be non existent while he's on his jollies.

Hmm your updates where you lost all your usual contact smacks of attempting to justify your relationship a bit.

You were obviously bothered yesterday and something was getting to you, but now you're on the defensive.

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Honestly OP, I would just leave the thread. The 'mean girls' are starting to turn it on you. Just walk away.

noisy He contacted me early this morning and this lunch time, it's fine now. All is good in the world

I am lulu 🏃🏼

Good on you Kimono, go charge the cattle prod for when your dh gets back

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I'm confused as to why having a chatty relationship makes two people any less laid back than those who don't?

Last time DH went away he rang me to chat about how things were going and what he had been up too. He would definitely let me know he landed safe, it's just the way he is. If he didn't I would worry too.

That's not controlling behavior and no amount of people falling over themselves to say how little they talk to their partners while away will make it so.

if my husband goes away which isnt alot anymore i like a text once a day to just say hes ok-for my peace of mind i dont care what he does really s long as hes safe

I've been on a few hen parties and one stag. No one cheated, the single people in the group didn't even cop off with anyone. I'm not sure if that means we're really boring, or really interesting.

I'm confused as to why having a chatty relationship makes two people any less laid back than those who don't?

Me too. Horses for courses - some couples like to spend most of their time together, others need their own space. It's all about what you're used to and expectations. Fwiw dh wouldn't have gone on this stag do/ holiday. A few nights apart once in a blue moon is our limit - I do it when necessary for work, as does he, and he's going to France with his dad for four days, but he's never been the 'lads' holiday' type. For one thing he has too many female friends.

"..one in the bank"?! You may have answered your own question....

Sounds like par for the course with stag dos, my DH went away for 3 days when our DS was just 9 weeks old and I didn't hear a peep until he returned, mainly due to excessive drinking, not much sleep, not charging their phones. Returned black and blue from falling down a flight of concrete stairs into the underground in Prague on the first night. 6 days is quite jammy though.

honeyharris your OH sounds quite a catch.

dh went to Vegas last year for a week to celebrate a 50th. He called to say he'd got there safely, quick call mid week to let us know he was still alive and then last day to confirm still alive and when he'd be home.

If something urgent had come up we'd be able to contact each other, otherwise I let him enjoy himself in the place has was.

I am really old grew up without mobiles, probably only got one around my mid 20's so dh and I are used to being independent of each other without the modern insecurities and needing to be in touch all the time.

I don't think there's a need to put people down as "insecure" for wanting to stay in touch.

However, I am interested in how the long-term effect of us all being more 24/7 connected will turn out. It's only very recently that that's been possible and I wonder what implication it'll have on the way we all evolve? we'll all be too dead to know of course

I never had go ex DP go away but I went on a weeks Hen Do and phoned twice a day for 5 mins to speak more to my DS than to DP. YANBU

In each of my three pregnancies I became needy, insecure, clingy etc and hated feeling that way! Glad you're feeling happier now he's called

I went to Paris to work for three days. My uber tech savvy IT husband checked out the phone would work abroad and gave me a list of instructions as to how to get signal and data when I got there. It didn't work so I couldn't contact him for three days. He was quite pissed off I hadn't done a "landed safe" text, but once he got a text from the phone company saying the phone and data tag had failed (we have a single account) he realised why. It took a full day though.

Oh FFS! Sometimes I wish mobile phones had never been invented. People are becoming unhealthily addicted to being kept in touch. Whatever happened to privacy and solitude? Stop being such infantile attachment-addicts and grow up.

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