does it bother you that men use this site also?

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Sometimes very female skewed things are discussed and I can't help feeling slightly uncomfortable when I read: "Male perspective here..."

I'm sure I am BU but does anyone else feel the same? I am struggling to put into words why it bothers me but it does.

I agree Worra

Sometimes it's good to read an opinion from someone who has no direct experience of a situation. They are reading it with an open mind, with no experience of their own to cloud their judgement.

Men posting doesn't bother me at all either.

I am still trying to think about at least one reason why men would make someone uncomfortable by using this anonymous website, and still haven't come up with a single one.

I also don't think there's a problem with non parents posting, but they should expect to get their arse handed to them a robust response if they're talking rubbish!

Oh fgs. Just because people aren't parents it doesn't mean they don't know anything about children, or have friends who have been in similar situations to posters so they have seen what's worked.

Parents know what it is like to patent their child. That does not mean they are automatically qualified to dispense helpful advice to all other parents. They can talk rubbish too.

Nope! YABU. Actually sometimes I appreciate a perspective from a 'male point of view' I think it can add balance and give insight particularly on say, the relationships thread.

I always thought MN was for everyone. Perhaps it ought to be rebranded as Parent Net

Parents know what it is like to patent their child. That does not mean they are automatically qualified to dispense helpful advice to all other parents

It doesn't even follow that they are any good at parenting their own children.

I have a DH, a DF and two teen DSs so I have plenty of RL male perspectives, and don't look to seek them out on MN.

Would be sexist to exclude men so no I do t have a problem with it.

Surely this is why men are on MN...

Male here. But then I'm a nurse. And a children's one at that. So basically having spent more than the last decade surrounded by women makes me quite qualified to be one anyways 😂

So what Sparkling ? No men should be allowed to post on MN because you aren't interested in what they might have to say.

So far as the objection to "the male perspective" FWR for example is full of posts telling me what the female perspective is and examples of what are supposed to be universal female experiences.

No not at all

Unless they are here to tell us that feminism is a bad thing or explain to little women the rights of the world

I think most people just seek other people's perspectives, regardless of gender don't they?

They'd be pretty stupid if they went to any internet site and asked for female only replies.

Not at all Lass what I am saying is that not everyone is eager to read a male perspective on MN particularly. Some people have already said they do.

I have many topics hidden including Sex, Relationships and FWR.

TBH, I give no thought to whether a poster is male, female, black, white, etc etc. I can safely assume that they are a person and thats really all that matters unless they are spouting nonsense about a subject they really know nothing about.

Men posting doesn't bother me. You could all be men - I can't tell 😀

What does give me the rage are the posts that say 'this would have gone differently if you were a man' because 1. There's no way of knowing 2. Men and women are different. Why would they be given the same advice? 3 It's insufferably smug and obviously trying to derail the thread

APlace people normally say that when pointing out sexism though.

And there are a few posters on here who are blatantly sexist.

Not as many as there were a few years ago, but still quite a few imo.

Which is precisely what "mansplaining" as a term was concocted to describe. Men explaining predominantly female issues to a woman. It has since been extrapolated to any man explaining a topic to a woman purely because she is female, where he wouldn't do the same to a man. Like it or not, it happens!

The reverse would probably be a woman explaining to a man that he shouldn't be afraid of a vasectomy because it is a tiny proceedure yadda yadda.

On the Teenagers topic there is occasionally some teensplaining. Which is quite funny.

If we are all human why do the majority of male posters put down 'from a male perspective'. And rarely do they post about childcare issues.

It's like the default for parent is female.

aplace Not trying to be deliberately provocative (I've had that response to my posts at times). But I completely understand that. There is a tendency for replies to some posts by women to receive less judgemental responses than the exact same or similar scenario's including male posters. An inconsistentcy which is glaring to some people who are regulars on MN. I don't people who point it out are trying to be smug. I think they perceive it as a sort of annoying injustice.

Does it bother me...
Not unless they are MRAs trolling the place, as happens sometimes. But as with any other group with an agenda they out themselves eventually.
I guess when I'm online I dont take everything at face value and dont assume its a safe space. Which is a shame.

Its amusing that some people cant just give an alternative opinion without needing to give it some extra 'weight'.

Re assumptions about sex and race I was once told I have a lot to learn more about being a woman (I guess 57 years of being female including a pregnancy and child rearing wasn't enough)