does it bother you that men use this site also?

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Sometimes very female skewed things are discussed and I can't help feeling slightly uncomfortable when I read: "Male perspective here..."

I'm sure I am BU but does anyone else feel the same? I am struggling to put into words why it bothers me but it does.

Bed. I find your post very very discriminationatory and I doubt I'm the only one. Can a women help it. If she cannot have children or if she is trying but with no luck, and a comment like yours could kick her straight in the teeth.

"It also bothers me people who don't have kids .... I don't know why but it does"

How utterly absurd. I think you don't know why because you haven't thought about it properly.

It also bothers me people who don't have kids

But there could be future parents posting to find about about improving chances of conception, how to prepare. Also, I've not been on another forum where I can talk about things like periods as openly, because most forums aren't women-dominated in the way Mumsnet is.

And there are tons of threads on all sorts of subjects without ever going near ones on actual parenting. You'd have no idea in many cases whether posters are parents on not when they're talking about summer dresses for size 20 or Chalet School books or horses or working in IT or kittens or gardening or something in the news or what to see on holiday in Dorset or where to place an apostrophe or how to cook some bizarre exotic vegetable or...

Bedsheets I agree very prejudiced post. There are boards/threads for conception, adoption, fostering plus numerous ones that have nothing to do with sex, gender or parenting status.

Yes I'd rather it was just women . It also bothers me people who don't have kids .... I don't know why but it does

It bothers me that some people are rude and ignorant, but there you go.

How on earth do you know who does or doesn't have DC? Do you want birth certificates or something? Ridiculous statement.

Yes I'd rather it was just women . It also bothers me people who don't have kids .... I don't know why but it does

I know that not everyone's phones/computer render the newer emoji clearly so I thought I'd better add this as a picture to make sure you get it.

I still don't get how men 'discover' mumsnet. I'd never be drawn to trainenthusiasts.com as I'm not a train enthusiast. Nor computer weekly as I'm not into computers. I clicked on mumsnet because I'm a mum. I just wonder why a single, childless man would think 'Ah, mumsnet, I'm not a mum but that's obviously the site for me!'

Not all the men that post are single and/or childless

Mn has been in the press a lot with threads on all kinda of subjects

I recently googled for tips on putting together an Ikea Pax wardobe and a mumsnet thread was the first thing that came up.

Are you saying that you would not click on it, if you were a man, because the advice was on mumsnet?

Not everyone uses the internet the same way as you, clearly.

If I'm totally honest, I'd rather it was a female only space yes. I don't care if there are childless women on here because they could be ttc or here for companionship/relationship advice.
But I do wonder why men want to be part of a female dominated website? I just don't get it really.

Yes trills, I possibly would click on it, but Ikea's website would possibly be my first port of call.

Or YouTube for a video demonstration.

Clicking on something for 2 minutes is a bit different from joining a site & posting for 5 years.

I still don't get how men 'discover' mumsnet. I'd never be drawn to trainenthusiasts.com as I'm not a train enthusiast. Nor computer weekly as I'm not into computers. I clicked on mumsnet because I'm a mum. I just wonder why a single, childless man would think 'Ah, mumsnet, I'm not a mum but that's obviously the site for me!'

It one of the top places on the internet for Disability Advice and support, including legal advice and guest posts on disability subjects.

Are you saying this should only be avaliable to mothers, the advice covers a wide range of areas?

It also has one of the best eastenders watchers threads in history.

I don't care if there are childless women on here because they could be ttc or here for companionship/relationship advice.
But I do wonder why men want to be part of a female dominated website? I just don't get it really.

Becuase the men might be ttc or here for companionship/relationship advice.

I just wonder why a single, childless man would think 'Ah, mumsnet, I'm not a mum but that's obviously the site for me!'

I just wonder how people can be so blinkered as to think.that there aren't a wide variety of topics on here that could apply to.anyone.

CoolKitty. Yes there are loads of threads on here. But the name mumsnet doesn't advertise that fact. It sounds like a forum for mums.

The ikea website wasn't what came up, mumsnet was. I wanted tips from real people, with things like "you might think it's easier to do X, but don't do that, do Y instead".

So you click on the thread that came up in google.

You enjoy the posts, you think "these people write well and have good advice".

You notice something interesting-looking on "most active" in the top corner and click on that.

Someone on that thread mentions another thread so you take a look.

You enjoy reading what these people write, so you click to see some more.

You discover a thread about a TV show that you enjoy but your friends don't, so you don't have anyone in RL to discuss it with. You enjoy reading people's thoughts.

You start exploring the site more and discover a subforum that's about your hobby, but without the competitive machismo that is often found in dominant-male hobby websites.

Perhaps someone on that subforum asks a question about a piece of equipment that you have recently bought, or a location that you have recently visited. You post your first ever response and are thanked. This is nice.

At some point you start to deliberately search mumsnet for advice or opinions on issues where you think mumsnet will help, because the advice is better-written and more thoughtful than on most internet forums.

The next time you have a question about a domestic task (remember you got here from wardrobes after all), you think "I bet mumsnet will be able to help me with that". You start your first ever thread. People reply.

If you would stop doing all of these things just because the name of the website did not describe you, then you are missing out.

This applies equally to non-mums of all kinds.

I think some of the men on here think they're doing us a favour with their presence (simply by virtue of being a man, rather than what they actually post.)

I just wonder how people can be so blinkered as to think.that there aren't a wide variety of topics on here that could apply to.anyone

Are there many topics that would interest single men?
I wouldn't say there was tbh.

I still don't get how men 'discover' mumsnet. I'd never be drawn to trainenthusiasts.com as I'm not a train enthusiast. Nor computer weekly as I'm not into computers. I clicked on mumsnet because I'm a mum. I just wonder why a single, childless man would think 'Ah, mumsnet, I'm not a mum but that's obviously the site for me!'

The difference between this site and say ukrailforums.com (which tragically I am no stranger to) is that mumsnet has hundreds of non- parenting related boards. The rail forum has four boards, all devoted to specific areas of the railway. It is squarely aimed at railway enthusiasts and no one else. So unless you have a burning interest in what proportion of Northern Rail's fleet of class 319s are fitted with a Bracknell Willis pantograph and what proportion have a Stone Factory pantograph.

As a childless man how did I find mumsnet?

Google.

I first discovered it when googled how to do a specific DIY job and mumsnet's DIY boards came up. Same again when I wanted to find out why my cat was doing something odd and I got the answer from the Litter Tray. I got hooked in by the Archers threads though and from there migrated onto chat and AIBU