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does it bother you that men use this site also?

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SomethingLike · 28/05/2016 19:20

Sometimes very female skewed things are discussed and I can't help feeling slightly uncomfortable when I read: "Male perspective here..."

I'm sure I am BU but does anyone else feel the same? I am struggling to put into words why it bothers me but it does.

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green18 · 31/05/2016 20:21

I just think they should change the name and logo to reflect the users.

Trills · 31/05/2016 20:21

Change the name? Are you mad? That's not how businesses work.

PurpleDaisies · 31/05/2016 20:22

I just think they should change the name and logo to reflect the users.

Really? Men and non mums seem to find the site. I don't think changing is necessary. What would it be? Everyonenet?

green18 · 31/05/2016 20:32

Parenthub? Lol

PurpleDaisies · 31/05/2016 20:36

Parenthub doesn't include non parents that use the site green.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 31/05/2016 20:38

OP - what exactly is it that makes you uncomfortable? Is it the fact that it's a man posting, or the use of the phrase "Male perspective here...", or something entirely different?

MrsTerryPratchett · 31/05/2016 20:38

I just think they should change the name and logo to reflect the users. Yeah one of the most successful parenting sites in the world should change their strategy.

EatShitDerek · 31/05/2016 20:55

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EnriqueTheRingBearingLizard · 31/05/2016 20:58

I don't mind if members are male or female, with grown children, young children, pregnant or childless. Surely we all have something to contribute to discussions.

BigFatBirdFromBirmingham · 31/05/2016 21:03

If male parents came on here discussing some of the gross things some women posters do, they would be crucified, called perverts, etc, so you are being very unreasonable to not want them to contribute . Open discussion is what MN is all about.

SlinkyVagabond · 31/05/2016 21:09

There are men here? -

missmatted · 31/05/2016 21:45

Exactly bigfatbird. Nor should this be considered a 'safe space.' The posters here are grown women not delicate flowers or special snowflakes. They are surely mature enough to communicate with men

green18 · 31/05/2016 22:05

Yeah one of the most successful parenting sites in the world should change their strategy.
Look I'm not stupid, I realise they don't 'need' to, I just like things in neat compartments, I like things ti be what they say they are. The founders of this site, why did they call it mumsnet and have a logo showing 3 female figures juggling their lives?

green18 · 31/05/2016 22:06

Have I missed the point completely? Is it called mumsnet because the founders are mums?

Egosumquisum · 31/05/2016 22:20

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green18 · 31/05/2016 22:21

Thankyou ego

green18 · 31/05/2016 22:25

Someone once said that Mumsnet was like having 24 hour access to a million big sisters, and in a way that’s what you really need when you become a parent (and even when you don’t). Justine Roberts.

Or a million big brothers then Justine?

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VestalVirgin · 31/05/2016 22:31

True and even then they could be lying, Mumsnet may actually be 95% male posters, nobody will ever know for certain.

I know for certain.

The kind of conversation you see here, the responses ... the only way it could be 95% male posters is if 90% of posters tried very, very hard to pretend that they are women ... including doing intensive research on female anatomy, female socialisation, female life experience and feminism. Committing their whole lives to learning how women live. They would moreover have to believe that everyone else is female and the slightest mistake will expose them.

But no, not even then. Nowhere on a 95% male forum would there be talk about how the teen daughter handles her period, how the female friends handle their periods, how the poster herself handles her period ... nope. Just not possible.

The only not specifically declared female-exclusive forum where I have ever seen people talk about menstruations was a fanfic forum. 95% female users, approximately. Perhaps just 85%, but certainly the majority.
And on that forum, talk about feminism was met with a banhammer by the male admin and his handmaidens. So there is that.

I am on the feminist board of mumsnet, and I am very sure that at least 90% of people there are actually female.

Egosumquisum · 31/05/2016 22:57

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LassWiTheDelicateAir · 31/05/2016 23:05

I am on the feminist board of mumsnet, and I am very sure that at least 90% of people there are actually female

I've been accused a couple of times on FWR of being a man.

Owllady · 31/05/2016 23:10

I live with three men, so I don't suppose it makes much difference who posts here
I doubt post enough to be bothered though :o
I'm more bothered by the the presumptuous posts that follow benign innocuous posts accusing you of all sorts when you are sitting in your loungecwatching countdown in your underpants

Bedsheets4knickers · 31/05/2016 23:11

Yes I'd rather it was just women . It also bothers me people who don't have kids .... I don't know why but it does

PurpleDaisies · 31/05/2016 23:19

It also bothers me people who don't have kids .... I don't know why but it does

Because all the threads relate to having had a child? Hmm