Need to turn to mumsnet wisdom to sort out a dispute between DH and I.
DS in yr7, just turned 12, started high school in February (we are in Aus). Lost his locker key last week. I rang the office to ask what he needs to do and was informed that he had to go see 'Steve' the janitor, to borrow a spare, then when a new one was cut, he has to pay $10 for it. All good.
DS hunts for Steve, finds him at recess. DS is pretty shy and nervous, so politely approached Steve and said, "what do I do if I've lost my locker key?", to which Steve replies "Go and fucking look for it!" DS said he was open mouthed, but Steve then laughed and said "no, come in to the maintenance dept and I'll sort you out".
DS told me, incredulous that the janitor said that, but convinced that he had obviously been joking.
Now, personally, I think it's disgusting. I know my DS has said the odd swear word, because he's told me that a couple of times when he's been upset, he's blurted out some, but I really don't think he should be spoken to like that by a member of school staff.
DH, on the other hand says, for gods sake, he's the janitor, the boys will hear/use that language all the time, it's no big deal. He's really not bothered.
Was IBU to want to give the school a ring about it. It just seemed so wrong to me. I do swear, but almost never in front of the dcs, and if I do, only in moments of fright, for eg. I know they hear swearing, but don't think it's appropriate from a member of school staff, in effect, someone in a position of authority.
Please let me know if I'm overreacting and my DH is right?