Who would say that???

[onlyslightlyinterested]

So today, a woman I've never met comes round to pick up something she's bought from me online. She says ' oh I recognise you, I run down such and such lane, and I've seen you with your daughter'. I say I don't have a daughter. That's my boss, and she's 38, and I'm only 46, but thanks'. Aibu to think, she is a rude cock?

You are so wise

I try to get people to tell me, if I'm in doubt about who is who (as in familial relationship) and I feel an urge to know.

I was at the park on the weekend with my DD. She likes to run about, climb trees, chat to people, particularly anyone with a dog or a small child.
We met two women, one older than the other, with a toddler in tow. The toddler was in dungarees and a green t-shirt.
I said hello to them as DD had already gone over.
We remarked that it was a beautiful day for walking in the park, and that it was a great park for children. The younger woman then said that yes, it was great, she could come here with her mum (gestured to older woman)for a nice easy walk.
DD then asked "what's your baby called?"
We found out that he had an unusual name, and that he was being brought up to be bilingual.

Nobody made any assumptions and we had a perfectly pleasant conversation.

So it is possible.

only -yes, I do my best to not assume anything, and I don't ask impertinent questions! :)

I remember being out with DH and DD last year at a country show. There were some 'vintage' (as in 1950's) cars on display. DD was looking at them as were an older man and woman. As we passed each other we smiled and said hello. DD told them she liked the cars. The woman looked at me and said, "Oh, I expect this car is older than your grandma."
I said "No, I don't think so. Her grandma was born in 1942"
Woman then got embarrassed and went, "Oh. I mean - er, I didn't, um...." and then she wandered off.

Not as bad as charity shop woman from a few years ago.
DD: "Hello"
CSW: "Hello Darling, what's your name"
DD tells her.

CSW: "It's nice that your nanna has brought you shopping."
Me: "I'm her mother, actually."
CSW: "Oh. Are you sure?"
Me: "Er...yes!"
CSW: "Only you know, it's hard to tell, people have children at all ages."
At this point I decided to leave the shop before I ended up giving her a mouthful.

Yes, it is hard to tell. Yes, people do have children at all ages. No, it makes no difference to you whether the child is shopping with her mother, grandmother, great-grandmother or sister. If you want to make small talk then let's talk about what you're selling, what the weather's doing, how nice my shoes are, how well the hairdresser did your hair...

Exactly. The weather was lovely yesterday!!

I was asked if I was the mother of the bride at my cousin's wedding
My cousin is 10 years younger than me but his wife is exactly the same age as me! We were both 38 at the time.
I guess having 3 dc has taken its toll but I was mortified and just mumbled no. Wish I'd thought of a retort like you, OP!

I'm dead quick me

I did that once. I told a lady that I had met her son and how nice he was and how good looking, thinking that I was complimenting her good genes and parenting. She looked shocked and said the dreaded words "He's not my son, that's my husband!!" To be fair he did look very young - oooops!

Off with your head!

Yes it's just a minor thing so put it to the back of your mind OP, but I do think people don't need to make all these assumptions.. It's easy to have a convo without saying them. I was at a toddler group and talking to a woman who looked late 50s.. I didn't say "is this your grandson?" It just eventually came out naturally in the chat. It's just safer that way! No offense caused to anyone. We live in a world where women are sometimes made to feel insecure for being fat or old, so don't really want it pointing out if it's true or not.. I have bad bloating at the moment and I'm waiting for the "when are you due?"

Come on OP, just admit your boss was splashing about in a paddling pool whilst wearing a Frozen swimming costume accessorised with a sparkly tiara.

(I wouldn't have come away feeling great either).

She is a fox

Ha ha, this has reminded me of a terrible thing that happened to my friend, when she was 25 and her boyfriend (now husband) was 27. He is a real babyface and looked like a teenager until well into his 30s.

They went into a pub together, my friend sat down and her boyfriend went up to the bar to get the drinks, and the barman said to him, "Well, I wouldn't normally serve you but seeing as you're here with your mum..."

What's particularly bad is that he then told her all about this

That's very funny, FrayedHem

I dont understand all the hoo Haa. She made a mistake, you responded rudely. Its done. Youre only annoying yourself be insisting on keeping it going. Get over it. Its hardly the worst she could have said. So youre sensitive about your appearance? Ok, but thats your issue. You look how you look, cosmetic surgery aside, that isnt going to change. You can decide to sulk about it and annoy yourself or you can shrug and say "heh, who cares". Either way i can guarantee she isnt torturing herself over this. So its just you who is suffering, because you've decided to.

She is a fox

Must get her looks from her mum

Obvs

DP went to the pub with BIL the other week. DP went to the bar to get drinks while BIL sat down and the LL said something along the lines of "is that your dad?"

DP and BIL are both 53...

BTW, Chillyegg''s confusion on this thread about the OP has really made me laugh, I don't know why....

My colleague is 45, his partner is 55. They were Christmas shopping last year, colleague's partner says "I think your mum would really like that" and the sales assistant behind the counter said, "aww isn't that nice, helping your dad pick out a gift for your mum!"

MrsSpecter, no suffering here! I was miffed yesterday, but today just laughing at everyone's funny stories. I assure you there's no deep self loathing.

Glad to hear it. It serves no purpose.

Last year I was grooming for a friend of mine at a horse show. Steward referred to her as my daughter. She's 12 months younger than me. I was a bit but often people think I'm younger than I am. Also, since I was running around organising said friend, I was kind of mothering her.

Also Sean Connery played Harrison Ford's dad in The Last Crusade. There's 12 years between them so if Connery can suck it up, the rest of as can.

Didn't Angelina Jolie play Colin Farrels mum in the film about Alexander the Great? There's less than 10 years between them!