Who would say that???

[onlyslightlyinterested]

So today, a woman I've never met comes round to pick up something she's bought from me online. She says ' oh I recognise you, I run down such and such lane, and I've seen you with your daughter'. I say I don't have a daughter. That's my boss, and she's 38, and I'm only 46, but thanks'. Aibu to think, she is a rude cock?

Hope you're not feeling too upset now. I was taking the piss out of those missing the point or looking for an excuse no matter how ridiculous, not you op.

Could be worse, I've just bought a new house and when my boyfriend said hi to the new neighbours they cheerfully informed him "we met your mum earlier!".

I mean he's younger than me, but fucks sake.

I'm sure she was absolutely kicking herself when she left. Most people have some occasion in their lives when they blurt something out, usually through nerves, and realise they have been unintentionally rude.

A market stall holder once asked my friend if her mum wanted something as well. She looked completely confused until she realised he meant me. I'm 8 years younger than her! 8 fucking years fucking YOUNGER!!!

It was dark and I was wearing a hat that I suppose could be seen as a bit frumpy, but still. I pretended not to hear and died a little inside.

And the OP was really very clear by the way.

I am a very clear person, and not at all easily offended usually, but sometimes, a careless comment can really cut

Of course it can! But try and look at it clearly -she's had a fleeting glance at you and someone else in your garden while running past (I barely register most stuff when running). She was trying to chat and be nice, she had a moment of crashing foot in mouth that most of us have had (I've blurted out some stupid shit when I'm nervous or trying to make conversation). She hasn't meant that you look awful clearly. If you are happy with how you look that is all that matters -honestly.

I know. I shall pull up my big girl pants,and smother myself in moisturiser post haste

I was once out with DH for a curry and I paid. The lovely but very young waiter complimented DH on having a lovely kind mum Now DH is a couple of years younger than me and I hadn't put any makeup on that day but I was pg at the time and don't quite look like I could be twenty years older than him. I hope. I also died inside....

I used to look loads younger than my age but after having DC now look a bit older. Amazing how you can age very quickly through sleep deprivation

Maybe you just look old?no offense like!

Just thought of a brilliant foot in mouth moment. Was at a wedding with Dh, and as we moved down the line,offering our congratulations to the family. When we got to the bride, Dh shook her firmly by the hand, and said' happy birthday'. Hilarious

I don't look old, I look experienced

The OP was totally clear! People who rush in and call OP's rude or weird for not "being clear" when they are, make me laugh! It's obviously them at fault!

OP you were not rude. She was.

This'll cheer you up, OP.

One Christmas I was going to Barbados with my dad (DM died a few years previously). I was about 32 at the time. We wanted to book premium economy but they had sold out. The Virgin rep said to get to the airport early as they always reserve a few to sell on the day. So we did - and there was only one left. Dad said he'd take it.

"Oh," said the rep. "Won't your wife mind?"

he was fucking 70 at the time. SEVENTY. Who do I look like, bitch, Anna Nicole Smith???

Hahaha!

I met a guy one day who I thought was married to my nn's niece. I said 'oh hi, you're married to xx's niece, aren't you.' He said 'no, I'm married to xx's Sister - she's the youngest'
He thought it was hilarious, I was

There's a lot of it going about

That is amusing noob but they might be used to seeing couples where the man is a lot older and probably feel that it is less of an insult to mistake a daughter for a wife than a wife for a daughter.

but she made an assumption of my age

Or your boss' age.

But anyway i can see you are determined to be offended by it and by anyone here who disagrees that she was rude. (You were far more rude in your response to her BTW) not sure why you posted to ask if YWBU.

The thing is, you can't change other people - you can only change how you deal with comments/misunderstandings.

She ran by and quickly saw you and your younger boss in your garden, so assumed you were mother and daughter. If she'd stopped and studied you both, she probably wouldn't have come to that conclusion at all.

But instead of making yourself think about that, you're focussing on being hurt and calling yourself a wrinkled old prune and a wrinkled old hag and calling her rude etc.

That's rather self destructive behaviour and you've got a better chance of trying to change that, than the rest of society.

And you're still assuming that she thought you were older than your years, rather than she thought in the brief minute she ran by that your boss was younger than her years.

Cross posted with MrsSpecter

Yes, well said.

Is your boss short OP? I am often assumed to be much younger than I am, not because I am fresh faced, wrinkle free and glowing but just because I am always the shortest in any group. To the point that about 4-5 years ago we were having a pub lunch in our local and the barmaid who knew my husband complimented him on his three lovely daughters - meaning his two lovely daughters and his vertically challenged wife. As he is only 9 weeks older than me it caused much hilarity.

If your boss looks a bit young for her age and you look your age or a bit older (sorry), then I can see how she made that assumption.

I look young for my age and people have often commented that 'I must be a lot younger than DP' even though he doesn't look old for his age, as far as I can tell. They haven't gone as far as assuming that he is my dad, but there is the odd 'cradle snatcher' comment even though there is actually less than 18 months difference in our ages.

YANBU

YES she was rude and very stupid to voice her thoughts on something like this.But then we all do pretty silly things!

I can't believe the number of posters who have misread your post it is perfectly straight forward.

Here is what my friend told me, she was waitress and an older couple, a man and a woman, went in and sat at a table. They ordered a meal and she included garlic bread. My friend laughed and said to the man, you won't be wanting to kiss her tonight if she is eating garlic bread!" To which he replied, "I wont be kissing her at all, she's my sister!"

The moral of this story is don't assume you know how people are or are not related based on 5 minutes of knowing them.

MrsSpecter the OP was not rude, she didn't call the woman a cock! She just wrote it here. She said "I don't have a daughter. That's my boss, and she's 38, and I'm only 46, but thanks'. I can't see how that is rude! Sarcastic but understandably so!

Barbara "If your boss looks a bit young for her age and you look your age or a bit older (sorry), then I can see how she made that assumption."

Why would anyone assume that someone was related to, much less, mother of, another person just because they were in a garden together!!