To think it's ok to be naked in front of your teens?

[Blackearlgrey]

DP and I have always been very carefree about nakedness and as our DC (all girls) have got older I have picked up that they're no longer all totally happy about this. Recently this has come to a head with the youngest (18) saying that she really doesn't like seeing her dad wander round without clothes on. He's a bit resistant to changing his habits--he exercises every morning, then puts his sweaty gym kit in the wash, before working his way to the shower in the altogether. Our other two, who are older, are a bit more relaxed about it, in fact the oldest one says she's glad this was our practice, so that she knew from an early age what adult bodies looked like. (I can identify with that, as I didn't know until several years after I DTD for the first time!) I've been happy to try to avoid the DC seeing me without clothes on if it makes them feel uncomfortable, but AIBU to think that as this is our home, me and DP are entitled to live as we choose. NB. No nakedness in communal areas when we have house guests of course.

I'm guessing I'm going to get responses from all parts of the spectrum here, from "It's no problem, everyone in the family gets their kit off at the earliest opportunity" right the way through to "Actually, I have never seen my husband's body with the light on". But interested to see what the overall view is. AIBU?

House, you can't make that assumption from what OP says. All she says is that "he's a bit resistant to changing his habits". That doesn't suggest that it's a major issue for him.

At what bastards, that some people think the state has no right to dictate what consenting adults do?

I thought you supported autonomy?

Or only when it doesn't make you go ewwww?

Okie dokie then.

How is it offensive either?

It may be purely social, Future, but the fact that remains that, in our society, a man exposing his genitals at a woman who doesn't want to see them is regarded as pretty abusive. And, irrespective of that, a man who insists on continuing doing something that bothers his daughter is a bit of an arsehole.

I'm loving social norms more and more as this thread continues.

Augusta you might argue that he's an arsehole but he has no obligation to stop doing it. Maybe it bothers him to wear pants for that journey or is it only everyone else's feelings that count?

I don't support illogical social norms but that's another thread. I'll leave it at I don't think it being a social norm is a good enough reason to do something

Future, stop trying to derail the thread with the childish "look how shocking I can be" goady incest stuff.

Cling to them all you want. The rest of us who can think outside the box see it for what it is.

The fuck? I'm not being goady or shocking! Sorry but just because my opinion is different to yours doesn't mean it's goady. I didn't even bring up incest, I just responded to a point.

I'm so glad the people I socialise with are more progressive than those on here.

Future, sure, he doesn't have an obligation to stop waving his genitals around. But maybe he could still stop doing it because he doesn't want to upset the daughter he loves? Why on earth would it bother him to continue wearing the pants he's already wearing? Or, if it really does bother him, why can't he wear a dressing gown or a towel?

And why do you continue to ignore the possibility that OP's daughter is unhappy about this for a reason that has nothing to do with social norms, e.g. if she's been abused elsewhere?

What two consenting adults do is no one else's business

One is consenting to being naked - the other is not concertina to it.

Both adults

She is allowed to say I don't want to look at your dick -

Future, since I didn't express any opinion on the childish incest point, why assume anything about what my opinion is?

What two consenting adults do is no one else's business

One is consenting to being naked - the other is not concertina to it.

Both adults

She is allowed to say I don't want to look at your dick -

Augusta we have no info to suggest that. If that is the reason then by all means it's reasonable. But we can't assume every irrational request has a rational meaning behind it.

Similarly why should a daughter want to upset her dad? It can be turned both ways!

I'm so glad the people I socialise with are more progressive than those on here.

Can you really not see that these sort of statements are goady?

Cody That was in response to the incest point.

Bastards it isn't goady. I'm surprised at the response it's a pretty accepted view, at least in my circle (and none of us are incestuous).

Simon so it's okay to mock my opinions and call me goady but the minute I say people on here aren't progressive I'm the one being the dick?

Future, there's no suggestion that the daughter's request upsets her dad. All OP says is that he's a bit resistant to changing his habits.

You do know that exulting in how "progressive" your friends are makes you sound incredibly immature, don't you?

It's your home so your rules. I personally would avoid a naked walk across the hallway, etc if it made my DD uncomfortable. However I would not make a point of saying you were going to stop as it is your home to live in as you wish. Just discreetly avoid it when possible. It's about compromise.