To think it's ok to be naked in front of your teens?

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DP and I have always been very carefree about nakedness and as our DC (all girls) have got older I have picked up that they're no longer all totally happy about this. Recently this has come to a head with the youngest (18) saying that she really doesn't like seeing her dad wander round without clothes on. He's a bit resistant to changing his habits--he exercises every morning, then puts his sweaty gym kit in the wash, before working his way to the shower in the altogether. Our other two, who are older, are a bit more relaxed about it, in fact the oldest one says she's glad this was our practice, so that she knew from an early age what adult bodies looked like. (I can identify with that, as I didn't know until several years after I DTD for the first time!) I've been happy to try to avoid the DC seeing me without clothes on if it makes them feel uncomfortable, but AIBU to think that as this is our home, me and DP are entitled to live as we choose. NB. No nakedness in communal areas when we have house guests of course.

I'm guessing I'm going to get responses from all parts of the spectrum here, from "It's no problem, everyone in the family gets their kit off at the earliest opportunity" right the way through to "Actually, I have never seen my husband's body with the light on". But interested to see what the overall view is. AIBU?

She does have the right to complain that she has been subject to indecent exposure and her Parents would be involved

Bastards no one has the right to force anyone to do something they don't want.

I defend others rights to be stupid/illogical/irrational. I do not force people to agree with me.

Future. it's not logical to have an issue with my eating in front of you. I'll just keep eating in front of you. If you're sick everywhere, that's fine, I'll just stand back. Puke doesn't affect me and I'm doing nothing wrong by not pandering to your sensitivities. There just is no logical argument when I don't care about you not being able to control your bodily functions. Ok?!

Then you need to not be an exchange student if you're so bloody sensitive to different peoples attitudes on nudity.

This is why I really dislike most people. Emotive, irrational, and unable to let others get on with their lives when they are not hurting you.

Jane that's fine. I'll move. You owe me nothing.

I said earlier some people may consider me insensitive. Which is fine. It is your choice to do so. I dont exist to please people.

"Then you need to not be an exchange student if you're so bloody sensitive to different peoples attitudes on nudity."

Ok, FYI, this is a very unusual attitude, and, as others have noted, one that wouldn't be shared by the authorities if the student complained.

I just think if the person isn't harming you you're being very unfair to complain that they walk to the bathroom naked.

I don't want to have a go at you bastards, we've just disagreed on the last few threads we've both posted on.

I do however think some of your comments towards me have been condescending and uncalled for.

However it is not my intention to have a go at you. I apologise for making you feel that way.

Yes. Future you owe me nothing because we are strangers on the Internet. This scenario is very different.

Seeing as you are choosing to interact with us, it's only logical to try to understand us. We emotive and irrational people are the majority.

bastards

But that's so flimsy isn't it. Anyone could demand anything by claiming to be upset otherwise.

Being upset isn't a reason in itself to make someone change their behaviour when it's none of your business.

We emotive and irrational people are the majority.

That doesn't make you right.

FutureGadgetsLab Sun 22-May-16 16:53:07

"Hell if there was an exchange student there, then they don't have the right to complain how their host walks to the shower. Unless he's walking into her room, she can't complain he walks around naked in his own house."

That is not quite the case. If you take on an exchange student then you take on the concept that areas of the house where she might reasonably be expected to go are no longer your private spaces. If you don't want to deal with that, you don't take on an exchange student.

bastards I don't follow you! We have just happened to post on the same threads. I've seen threads you've posted on and not posted because what I wanted to say had been said/I didn't feel like it. I don't follow you.

I haven't refused to apologise either. I did just apologise!

I'm not refusing to show empathy I'm just looking more objectively.

Cory that's fair enough I suppose. In which case I would advise any nudists not to take on exchange students.

Future, but in this case, the DD's views on nudity are in line with society and the law. The naked rambler doesn't hurt anyone but is still repeatedly arrested, for example.

This isn't her saying, "dad, you must only wear yellow now" or something society as a whole would consider out of step.

How many people posting on this thread actually have a 17/18 year old dd?

I don't follow you. It's your view I'm combative and rude.

How am I hypocritical? My issues are medical and secondly I move away from people and just ask they don't follow me. How is that illogical?

As people we're generally considerate of other people's feelings. It's illegal to walk down the street naked. Why? Surely a naked man walking down the street isn't harming anyone? Anyone who complains is just a sensitive flower who is trying to bully the naked man into putting clothes on?

Is that how it works?

No, quite rightly it doesn't. It's recognised that most people would not be happy to see naked men or indeed women walking round the place.

I don't see why it should be different for the OP's dd just because the nudity is taking place behind closed doors.