To be annoyed a friend called her baby the same as mine?

[tottryornottotry]

So a girl I worked with for 3 years (in a small team), who I've kept in touch with and we have mutual friends has called her baby the exact same name as mine. Both first and middle name. They are 9 months apart. It's quite an unusual name too. I feel really annoyed that my daughter had lost her originality somehow?!

[Toddzoid]

It's such a first baby issue. I distinctly remember a woman I very vaguely knew calling her son effectively my DS's name but the other way around and a shortened version. So for example my DS would be Jack Benjamin, she called her DS Benny Jack. I was soooo pissed off, to an absolute extreme.

It's such a minute and petty issue to me now, I just couldn't care less! My DC all have traditional yet older less common names but DD's name has had a tiny surge of popularity I guess over the past couple of years, I'm really not bothered.

[LikeASoulWithoutAMind]

I'd file this under Vaguely Irritating and then forget about it tbh. She probably can't remember your dc's middle name anyway so it's unlikely to be intentional.

Also bear in mind that names often turn out to be not as unusual as you think. Because they are somehow floating around for you to have heard of them and chances are someone else has heard them too. I thought my friend had picked a very pretty and unusual name for her dd but it turns out they are 10 a penny now.

[WhatamessIgotinto]

Seriously, there are so many things in life to get pissed off about. Another baby having the same name as yours isn't one of them.

[987flowers]

I really don't get the whole name thing and having to make it unusual but then my name was common growing up and it never bothered me. Both my children have traditional names and I've never cared if anyone had the same name or not!

[Lweji]

OP, if you're still around, are you sure she didn't forget your child's name and when she was thinking of one for hers it just popped in her mind?

[tibbawyrots]

My name and middle name is the same as a lot of girls born in my year of birth. My mother admits that she scanned The Times BMD column and this name combo jumped out so that's why I have my non-unique name.

I do quite like the person who innocently started this trend though, she has a v similar name and is famous for being her. People named their girls after her and changed one letter of the name. I prefer the original but hey ho.

[WalkingBlind]

OP I really think you'd get more of a realistic response if you mention a name similar in popularity to yours? So if your DD is Amber Rose say it's as popular as Violet Ivy, etc

Unless you're gonna tell us that your DD is called Charlotte Leigh or something else that's not unusual... Then I'd avoid thread at all costs

[RedToothBrush]

Boomingmarvellous
Incidentally, sentences DO NOT start with 'so'.

So sorry for that.

So why does it bother you so much.

So have you always been this petty?

So do you consider yourself the grammar police?

SO FUCKING WHAT!

Bore off

[RedToothBrush]

I love all the parents who have called their child Esme recently, thinking its really unusual. Or Theo / Theodore / Teddy.

[flappingbingowings]

Why do you say it is not very original? Were you original? Di you make up your child name? Maybe they are pissed off that you stole the name they had wanted for years

[Vickyyyy]

We could judge better of we knew this name you know.

/nosy

[getyourselfchecked]

What the hell is a 'forever name'?

Sounds...childish.

[UterusUterusGhali]

We really need to know the name, op!

Don't most people use the middle name to honor a relly, anyway?

[Vixyboo]

I would be annoyed!

However, my ds has a name starting with one letter and he has 4 friends who all start with a different letter but all same as each other. Funny. Well to me it is.

Hey one thing is for sure you clearly picked a good name! Copying is the highest form of flattery they say! I would get the kids to spend time together.

I had 2 friends at school with the same first name as me. We were always grouped together. I had guaranteed friends all through school cos people associated us together! Still fb friends now. Still like them!

[NanaNina]

The OP won't tell us the name - they never do on these threads and I find it really annoying - not sure why!!

[Mummyme1987]

One of my dds has a name that isn't even in the top 1000, in fact when I looked up how many babies that year had be born with that first name it was under ten. Yet I nicked an adults friends name as I couldn't find another name I liked more (dd3 lol) so we asked her then made her godmother. She was flattered! Different middle name though.

[Shesinfashion]

I think my daughters have the most beautiful names in the world. If someone else thinks they are too I couldn't begrudge them using them too.
It just doesn't matter. Why get annoyed?

[Boomingmarvellous]

So, so, so petty!

I have a disabled child and can't understand 4 pages of hand wringing about a duplicated name!

Perhaps my extreme irritation is trickling across?

[SirChenjin]

It always makes me laugh when someone thinks they are being very unusual and then another one turns up in the same class at school

A friend of mine did this - they even picked a name from another culture, and then pitched up at school to discover a family from that culture had moved to the area with a child with the same name

[WalkingBlind]

Vixy Like Hayden, Jayden, Mayden, Layden, etc? Lol... That's awesome!

[HanYOLO]

7 kids called Toms/Tomi/Thomas in DD's class. Yet somehow they all seem to be able to retain their own individual distinctiveness and "originality".

I thought you named children for themselves, not so the parents could get creds for being "original".

Get over it OP

[TheNaze73]

YABU. Very

[OptimisticSix]

I can see it is annoying but it happens. When I had my eldest daughter I gave her a name I liked and it didn't occur to me until afterwards that 3 of my childhood friends have named their daughter that! We're not really in touch but were very close in our teens and even worked together outside school :) I have since moved areas and do not know another child (over three local schools) with this name, while my next child, who has an unusual name, knows two or three with the same name. Very odd. As for my youngest name, apparantly is now one of the most popular for names in my area and I thought that was unusual when I chose it!