To be annoyed a friend called her baby the same as mine?

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So a girl I worked with for 3 years (in a small team), who I've kept in touch with and we have mutual friends has called her baby the exact same name as mine. Both first and middle name. They are 9 months apart. It's quite an unusual name too. I feel really annoyed that my daughter had lost her originality somehow?!

Lisa Jane...

Elsie Koala and Ella Koala, MrsK?

I find it really weird when folk think they own names. I'm Charlotte Elizabeth and think it's lovely that a tiny princess has a similar name. Both DCs have lovely old-fashioned names which have been used in years since for friends DCs. I think it's more flattering that they love similar names to the ones I liked, no point being furious, especially when you didn't invent the name.

It's the a at the end that goes tho chewy. Not the l.

Take it as a compliment that the name is very beautiful indeed.
You may lose contact with your ex colleage in the future and there are no garantees that the girls will be in the same group of friends.

Wine already?! I'm jealous. I'm pregnant, hence my interest in l names. and hijack of all name threads

See, I've never seen Diana as a middle name, it doesn't quite flow (though of course fair play to using it for his mum).

There was a thread a few days ago where the OP said someone in her small village was going to give her twin daughters the same unusual names as the OP's daughters. That kind of behaviour would have me beefing up my home security.

Congratulations mrsk!

Now the important bit....

Can we choose the name?! Pllllleeeeeeaaaase!

No-one thinks they own names. They just think its very odd how a friend would chose the exact same name.

There's people on my facebook who have posted about being 'distraught' because their mum's cousin's friend has chosen the same name, now that's daft because obviously they don't know each other and will never see each other. But a friend who you've presumably discussed your child with choosing not one but two of the same names is odd.

Virtual for MrsK

Missed the train home so wine is easing the wait

Of course you can! lies only if it's good tho. Ds2 was sort of chosen by mners too.

Take it as a complement.

Oh you're really rubbing it in now. Since having Dc I dream of missing trains and being forced to drink wine while I wait all alone at a station. Airports too. I miss them.

Mrs koala at being offended when someone doesn't use the same name. Top right, what is their problem etc.

Op I think yadbu about the first name. You aren't sisters or best friends and don't even work together now. It is very precious of you I'm afraid. Some people don't prescribe to names 'going' together, my two boys have very different names, we chose two we loved, rather than naming DS2 something on the same theme as DS1.

Wrt the middle name, I agree that's quite weird to use both, UNLESS it is a one syllable commonly used middle name, such as rose, grace, may etc? If so you really can't take issue as sooo many girls get given those names, if you have used it because it ticks the boxes, why shouldn't she?

Honestly, it isn't a big deal and people baffle me with this kind of thing; wanting others to love and compliment their name choices then being offended if it gets used again. You say you realise nobody owns a name but really, acknowledge that, and recognise you are being quite silly.

Weird. You may not own the name, but there are plenty to choose from. I'd feel that I had been lazy and stolen the name if I did that.

What did she say about your dd's name when she first heard?? Anything to make you think she' was going to use it as well?

These threads annoy me because I want to know the names - not sure why, but I do!!

My DD has a very unusual combo of first and middle name. I wouldn't give a flying fuck if someone else had it. She's unique to us and her own person. You're so BU.

I think we need a new topic called Someone Has Copied My Kids Name

I'd be flattered. If it's just an ex collegues kid then will you even run into the child?

If it's not a top 50 name then I guess it's a top 100 name? The middle name really doesn't matter because apart from when they are brand new babies no one ever mentions or knows people middle names.

squoosh. Not my mistake's, but that of my iPad. As it usually autocorrect's spelling's and grammer gramaar gramamar grammar.

So you have to blame it for the lack of apostrophe's.....

"Also I don't really understand how everyone else can't empathise"

Because it isn't important. I couldn't care less if someone copied the name that DD has. I would be flattered that someone admired my taste.

I'm the same with clothes. I simply cannot understand the angst that some women have when seeing someone else in the same outfit.

People who worry about such trivial things can't have many real worries in their lives.

She is hardly close - I can't understand why it matters.

I simply cannot understand the angst that some women have when seeing someone else in the same outfit

I dunno, it depends. If I'd looked at and been saving up for a very particular designer dress and had been speaking about how much I loved it and wanted it with my friends, I wouldn't expect them to go and buy it after I had. I'd be a bit if they did

Am having a chuckle at guarantee that no matter how unique you think your combo is, there will be an Eddie Stobart wagon somewhere with that exact name painted on the front

My DD name isn't unusual but wasn't top 100. Checked and it is now top 40 for last year so popularity changes

Can I apologize to the woman who was in hospital when I had my DS as I stole your son's name. I was struggling to think of a name and her son came to visit and as soon as she said his name I knew it was the one I wanted

My DS has a number of friends all with the same name - all have nicknames to differentiate.

It always makes me laugh when someone thinks they are being very unusual and then another one turns up in the same class at school!